is it easier to forgive pretty people?
By oyenkai
@oyenkai (4394)
Philippines
June 16, 2009 2:16am CST
"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" - only ugly people say that. Says Jim Carry in Liar Liar.
I found the come back SOO hilarious that even though it has been years since I watched the film, I still could not forget about it and it STILL makes me laugh!
I just watched The Tale of Desperaux (actually a 2008 movie, but only got to see it yesterday). It was a nice movie FOR KIDS. If you're not a kid and you don't enjoy animated movies that aren't demented (Night Before Christmas) or aren't uberly cute (Monster's Inc, Bolt) or aren't packed with humor and action (Monsters vs Aliens) then you probably wouldn't enjoy the soft paced Desperaux :) See: http://www.thingswelovetohate.com/2009/06/only-ugly-people-say-that.html
Anwyay - there's this ugly, fat girl character on Desperaux that just reminded me of the quote on top of the discussion.
And in relation to the girls' character in Desperaux: do you know any people who aren't pretty (according to your taste/standards) and also have terrible attitude? How do you handle those people?
And do you think that pretty people are easier to forgive and to get along with as compared to ugly people with the same attitude?
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15 responses
@Sandra1952 (6047)
• Spain
16 Jun 09
I think some pretty people rely on their looks to get them out of bad situations, just as some ugly people assume they'll get the blame if things go wrong, so they behave badly. To me, it's not looks that matter, it's sincerity. If someone apologises and means it, I will forgive them, however they look. If someone tries to charm me into forgiveness, it won't work. I am basically an honest person, and if you want to get along with me, you must be honest too. I'll soon spot it if you're not, and then it's Goodbye From Me.
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@oyenkai (4394)
• Philippines
19 Jun 09
I was actually asking about whether a person is forgiven more easily (based on the same gravity of mistake) if they're pretty as compared to if they were ugly.
For example:
handsome hot guy says sorry because he forgot to return the towel he borrowed you for the Nth time
vs
ugly guy says sorry because he forgot to return the towel he borrowed you for the Nth time
It's not a grave mistake but realistically speaking... I observe that people would forgive handsome hot more willingly than ugly guy. What do you think?
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
24 Jun 09
Yes there is always a soft corner for pretty girls. In interviews they get top grades even though otherwise inefficient.
@andresimp (818)
• India
16 Jun 09
hi, according to me looks doesnt matter for forgiveness. i have seen at work place where the good looking girls charm their boses, they do less work compared to the ugly ones. but the ugly ones are not appreciated for their work. obviously their attidude changes when they are not received well. In some cases, even if they are received well, they get too proud and this terrible attitude comes. i have seen good looking people with inferiority complex and ugly with superiority complex. so according to me, we cannot judge people by their looks. Character is more important. We should also learn to treat everyone equally. it is easy to forgive anyone who is honest and admits their mistakes. whoever forgives pretty people and punishes ugly people are not true to themselves.
@andresimp (818)
• India
19 Jun 09
i would forgive anyone who realizes and admits. i hav friends who are not hot and goodlooking. even if it was an ugly stranger asking for forgiveness, i would still forgive.
@kaguvkov (1305)
• Davao, Philippines
3 Jul 09
Maybe, because pretty looking people got the feeling that they may be easily forgive because of the look of their face or maybe because of their facial expression. It really depends also on the way they acted but on my part if some one got me by and she or he is a good looking - I don't care. lol
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@Jolenemonet (9)
• United States
29 Jun 09
Wow your page is vast,
I like it.
Anyhow, I always would put on makeup and a nice outfit when my dad was going to scold me; he is someone who always said, "it is always hard to be mean to someone who looks good." I guess beauty is in the eye of the beholder SOMETIMES because what looks good to me might not to someone else.
But I think there is universal beauty. When ugly people have ugly characters, I have learned that they are afforded nothing. They are usually alone and have little friends, probably not too easy to forgive. Attractive people sometimes have the worst personalities because they can get away with it, but I think at the end of life, it all catches up...because beauty never lasts.
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@visitorinvasion (7709)
• United States
16 Jun 09
Looks makes no nevermind to me in the way of forgiveness. Either people are sorry or they are not. If the apology is real, it's usually fairly obvious if it's insincere, then I can forgive. IMO, if people judge others based on looks alone (I'm not talking about a modeling job or something, I'm talking about judging others as people in general), then those judgmental people are petty and shallow. Period.
@rainmark (4302)
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16 Jun 09
Most of the cases that i've notice, pretty people were easily gets forgiveness or they can get out from the trouble faster than ugly people. They just use thier charm and flirty smile then thier free and forgiven.
And pretty people always got an attention and even can get a job easily compare to ugly one.
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@JOIEMARVIC (2335)
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
I guess we all have to admit it. Pretty faces attracts more, looks more trust worthy, and looks and feels good everytime we look at them. But in the end,looks fades and what matters most is how beautiful the heart is.
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@ingridrepi (131)
• Indonesia
16 Jun 09
This is an interesting discussion. I think that all this time the media had tremendous contribution to the definition of beauty in the society.
To answer your question; Yes, I know a lot of people who aren't pretty but had a bad attitude and I also know pretty people with the same bad attitude. Since I believe that we should not judge people from their looks, then the same it goes with punishment and forgiveness.
My guess is if a person can easily forgive a bad attitude of a pretty people but not the opposite that means there's another motive involve.
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@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
26 Jun 09
I do not think a person's outer appearance has anything to do with it.. May be it is because I look at people differently... I look at a person from the inside out... I would rather be around someone with a great personality versus someone that is cute or what not with a poor personality. Forgiven someone is more to do with what I am forgiving.. and honestly I can forgive a person for something because of the fact that we are all human.. But in some cases I can not forget.. Some may say that is not true forgiveness, remembering the action or word(s) that were said.. But that is not how I feel.. Its protecting myself from getting hurt again by that same person.. And there are times that I do forget, but that person repeats the past, and those feelings come back.. Forgiveness is something that comes from the heart and not the eye of someone..True forgiveness that is.. That's just my take on it..
@candy2306 (576)
• India
16 Jun 09
I do think pretty people gets out of mess faster than the ugly ones! I don't see the logic but yeah, it's true! You get attention if you're pretty then why not forgive to be always friends as everyone wants to be a friend of the pretty anyway!
The ugly ones, though they make have good sense of humor and fairly smart, they are always neglected. They end up with low self-esteem and cornered.
@chryslark (89)
• China
16 Jun 09
Well to some extent ,people who have good looks do have some advantages over others. That is the reason why so many people do plastical surgeries. But i don't think pretty guys are easy to get along with. We can't judge a book by its cover . Pretty people sometimes are very arrogant because of their good looking. And some even take advantage of their good appearance to cheat others.
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@sophisticated_boy (1457)
• Indonesia
16 Jun 09
I think I kinda agree with you in a certain level. If she/he made a small mistake, sometimes it is harder to forgive people we don't like or less-charming people than the charming one, especially if we secretly like him/her. But if that person makes a huge mistake, no matter how charming she/he is, I think we will not care any words of sorry she/he said and those mistakes she/he made wil lasts forever. Zero tolerance for them.
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