Do you hate your mom???
By mabanay
@mabanay (3)
Philippines
June 16, 2009 9:50pm CST
Growing up, my mom has this violent kind if discipline that she does to us... Everytime we do something wrong, we'de expect to be whipped. At the age of 5, i don't think children do still realize whether what they're doing is right or wrong. all they know is that they're having fun doing something... I realized this because i have nephew and nieces who are so hyperactive that sometimes, i get mad but i still try to understand them... i wish i had that experience growing up.I always felt afraid of going home everyday after classes thinking, will i be whipped again??? Did i do something wrong today?
At my age, i still remember those times when i felt the pain of being whipped at my backside, legs, hands... And everytime i do, i start hating my mom to the point that i disrespect her, never listen to whatever she's saying... I thoght i've forgiven her but i guess it's too hard for me to do that
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15 responses
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
17 Jun 09
Iam sorry for you but she is a mother and mother is the word and personality to be given respect and love though how rude she is and there might be some reason for her behaviour like this or the way you understood might be not correct but try to understand her and try to change her. this just my view and thought dont feel bad if this hurt you.
@jacimoore (2)
• United States
17 Jun 09
I do not think just because someone is a mother they deserve respect. Respect and love are earned, not a guarantee. Also you can not change anyone, they have to want to change. If a person does not think they do or did something wrong they are not going to apologize for it, or change their behavior.
@jacimoore (2)
• United States
17 Jun 09
I do not hate my mom. We have had a difficult relationship, but she was not abusive. Since I have gotten older we have had a few discussions on different subjects that bothered me about our relationship. I have told her how I felt. We will never have the type of relationship I want, but I have accepted that. I also have learned from that and will try my hardest to be a better mother to my daughter that mine was to me. I also think my mom is a much better grandmother to my daughter that she was a mom, and my daughter loves her very much.
I do not in any way believe in beating a child, I believe in discipline, punishment, and even a spanking, but not beating. I think that lack of discipline today is the reason for many of the disrespectful children in this world who have no respect for life and have no second thoughts of taking someone else's.
@superfangs (72)
• United States
17 Jun 09
well there are times i hate hate my mom and there are times when i love her its 50/50 my mom loves it just the things we that makes our moms mad like giving us punishments whiping and stufff like that she does becaue she loves you thats what i think XD
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
17 Jun 09
I don't hate my mother, but I hate the things that she does, how is that? She has never abused me, if anything she has been nothing but over-loving to me, but it is some of the "illegal" things that she has done that have forced me not to love her so much. I know that she was only do things to give my brother and I the best life that she could give to us, but the way she went around it all was just criminal.
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
18 Jun 09
i wouldn't imagine myself without her. when i was young, she used to do things like other normal mothers would do to make their children learn. she spanked me, nagged for like thousand times but thinking of it now, i learned from it.
I was and still am more open to her than anybody else (well aside from my sister) in the family.. i couldn't imagine my life would be as well without her.
@cobra1368 (702)
• United States
17 Jun 09
I was spanked growing up, but never excessively. I wouldn't consider it abnormal or abusive the way my parents disciplined. I never lived in fear of being spanked. I was taught at a very young age that if I did what I was asked to do and didn't do those things I was told not to do, I could avoid a spanking. And I was a very good child and rarely did anything bad enough to warrant spanking.
I loved my mother very much, and my father too. I just buried my mother on Saturday, June 6th. I will miss her very much. 
@jb78000 (15139)
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17 Jun 09
your mother probably thought she was doing the right thing, of course she wasn't and some of those memories will never leave you. however at some point you may be able to separate them and appreciate your mother as an another adult. keep the grandkids at arms length though....
@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
17 Jun 09
i won't go as far as saying hate,but she's very aggrevating at times.
she's very selfish,stubborn,and is prone to make up stuff.
but she has a diminished mental capacity,so i have to remind myself she doesn't know what she's doing half the time.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
17 Jun 09
Nope I don't hate my Mom. Though I'm disappointed in how things in her life have turned out as well as some of the things every kid wishes they would of gotten the opportunity to enjoy growing up. My Mom is a manic depressive and growing up as an only child (my Dad passed away when I was small) and not knowing any other ways then her ways. There's so much she did not teach me about life rather she spent her life absorbed in being sad, sleeping, and eating
@leicyn (96)
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
Sometimes i used to hate my mom but because she didn't give what i want but later on i realized that it was just for my good sake. Somehow we never understand them because the way they do but if we look at it, it is for own. They want us to be good and to be strong to face the life.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
I have a complex mixed feeling when it comes to my mom. I may sometimes disagree or dislikes with her policy. But, on the end I realize that she do whatever things to correct my behavior. i take it as advice, despite constant nagging.Well, I am now use to it. It is better than no advices at all.
@pxm204192 (160)
• China
17 Jun 09
you do not hate your mother.all of mother in world have been all kind of discipline to rule their children, so, all kind of discipline are different individually.but from what you have said i have judged that your mum beaten you so heavier. from your mums' side,she has her reason, she just have let you remember the certain thing not to do agrain.and let you remember deeper for ever just for you do not know what are right or wrong.so do not complaint your mothers' behavior,or your mother is different from other mother to rule your children.please be tolerent to your mother,or have special case to your mother,just the specail case what you are not known.
@ajuvignesh (57)
• India
17 Jun 09
hey.y need to hate our mom?she is the god who gave birth to us.so how can one hate their mom?even she do some mischief its very bad to hate her.even animals don't hate their mom.moms usually don't do bad for their children...so love ur mom.....
@willyg369 (10)
• United States
17 Jun 09
no i dont hate my mom....you have to remember that she gives you shelter, protection, food, and clothing.
@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
17 Jun 09
I certainly do not hate my mother. She made a lot of mistakes in my eyes while my sister and I were growing up, and they damaged us, but I have forgiven her and she tries to be a very good mother now. Of course, maybe I wish things had been different, but we cannot live in the past. Everyone makes mistakes.
