House is made of bricks but home is made of tricks. Do you agree?

@divkris (1163)
India
June 17, 2009 2:14pm CST
This is one of my family friends favorite quote. He keeps reciting it like a mantra. I do partially agree, because homemaking is an art and it has its own tricks but then i cannot accept dishonesty or lying in any kind of relationship. So ayes and no from me. What do you say?
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@daliaj (5689)
• India
19 Jun 09
The quote is rhyming; it sounds interesting. I don't think it is true. I belive there should not be any tricks when it comes to family. Yes, you are right, dishonesty or lying will result in loosing trust in any relationship (family), and finally the relationship (family) becomes hell. You might be applying lots of tricks or acting in your professional or social life, but home is the place where you should throw away all your masks and be the normal person.
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@divkris (1163)
• India
19 Jun 09
Well this family friend justifies this rhyming quote by saying that telling simple lies or not disclosing a few things can actually save your family from falling apart. To an extent it is true - we can avoid speaking many things that are unwanted and can create problems in a relationship. It is about being manipulative. I found that most of the successful homemakers are manipulative. They know what to tell when. The problem starts only when these women start misusing their manipulative skills! I wish i was manipulative too but fortunately/unfortunately i'm too straight and tell all that is in my mind. :)
@daliaj (5689)
• India
19 Jun 09
I am kind of straight forwrd too. If I think not to disclose something (especially to my family), it keeps irritating me and finally end up in describing the whole story. I have done it (not disclosing things) successfuly with my parents, but it is difficult when it comes to husband.
• India
20 Jun 09
I think I am also like you.Sometimes I think this is right that home making is an art,but at the other hand sometimes I really want to express my feelings & my anger,however I know that this could result into a big fight but what to do you can't live a fake life where you are pretending like a person who you are not actually.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
22 Jun 09
I used to keep issues in mind, but peple (my family members) could make it out from my face. Now, I prefer to express my anger or disappointment right away and get rid of it. Otherwise I keep thinking about that a lot..get hurt...and finally it will turn out to be a big issue. There is an agreement in my family. If anyone of us have anything against the other, we are supposed to express it, discuss about it, forgive and forget, and leave it forever.
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• India
22 Jun 09
Thats good.Don't mind but this is not a contract where you have some clauses,this should be understood,if anyone has a problem or is angry with the other,the other person should automatically understand it & should not make it an issue as some relations don't require any explanation.
@divkris (1163)
• India
22 Jun 09
It is good to speak out but at times it may hurt one of your family members. So the trick here is to follow some ethics. I do blow my roof more often but act very cool at other public places. So i personally think that all of us should follow home-ethics where you put forth your idea but no one is offended. Both of you are right in a way. Being direct is good, but it can cause damages or scratches to relationships. Thanks for responding :)
@kalaga (550)
• United States
22 Jun 09
Mmmm....u got me thinking.i always heard that there is no wrong in telling simple lies if they make others happy.but simple.i think lot of us follow these simple things.but not serious ones.not big ones u know.i hate them.
@divkris (1163)
• India
22 Jun 09
big or small, people should be open to listen to other's comments and critique. It is more like a learship/team managment. One must know how to get the work done from another person and should be more easy at the home front because people are themselves at home. :)
@daliaj (5689)
• India
22 Jun 09
I agree with you, it is ok to tell small lies if they don't cause a big problem, but you should make sure that you won't get caught. So, I will say telling a lie(even if it is small) is a risk. What do you say?
@abhaijith (2962)
• India
19 Jun 09
Yeah,i really agree with it friend.We can build three or four storey houses,it need money only,but to make it a Home its very difficult than to build. Good discussion.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
19 Jun 09
Yes, I agree with you it is not that easy to build a home. I forgot to say that this is a very intersting discussion I come across after a long time. Congrats!
@divkris (1163)
• India
19 Jun 09
hey abhaijith and daliaj - thanks for your appreciations. You both are right it is easy to build a house but making a home is not that easy as they are filmed - LOL. Thanks for responding :)
@tuyakiki (3026)
• India
22 Jun 09
Hey!!!!!! This one is a great quote...It is an an important phrase.. A house may be made up of brick as well as tricks....... But you can only have a house out of it,not a home.Home can be made through love,trust and understanding. Those something that is derived from dishonesty,lying or through wrong way or intrigues doesn't last for a very long time.
@divkris (1163)
• India
22 Jun 09
well i think everyone has misinterpreted what the term "trick" means. Trick need not be of the deceiving nature. A homemaker can manipulate things for good - that is good for the well being of the family. Like compromising, sacrificing, loving, where to add more love and where to be stern - it does involve a good lot of juggle :)
@Sandra1952 (6052)
• Spain
22 Jun 09
What an interesting quote. I think it is true, but it's best not to treat the 'tricks' bit literally. A home is made of memories, not materials and 'tricks' could refer to the way people have of making everyone in the home feel loved and wanted, and also the unexpected things that happen in everyone's lives. Accept the meaning of 'tricks' in a looser, more positive sense, and the saying becomes very true. Interesting topic, thank you.