husband and wife can have a better relationship

@willy6 (492)
Jamaica
June 18, 2009 5:54am CST
There are many failing marriages and the devorce rate is rapidly going up. There are many ways to put marriages right back on track if husband and wife are sincere in their desire to reconcile. Many husband and wives treat each other like adversaries rather than partners. some husband feels that they are the boss and whatever he says goes. Some wife feels that she must squeeze everything out of her husband, some wives never show their husband that they are satisfied with anything he does or buys for them in order to trick him into doing and buying more. They make him feel like a failure, if he does not give them the lifestyle that their friends and family enjoy. Some husband speaks very harshly to their wives. humiliate them and then physical abuse them. Wives sometimes have no voice or opinion in the family. Wife and husband must be partner in the decision making as a family. Let everyone have some part in the decision making. Wife is not a beating tool never be emotionally, mentally, or physically abusive to your spouse. Be careful of your words. Be careful what you say when you are upset wait until you calm down before continue the conversation. Show affections to your mate. be kind, gently and loving. Show interest in your mate life too often partner live in the same house, but know nothing about each other lives. Husband and wife must work to gether for the betterment of their marriage and if they do they will have a better relationship.
3 responses
• United States
18 Jun 09
You are exactly right. Just like anything else in our lives, if you want something good to come of it, you have to be committed, focused and you have to work at it. Marriage takes work. You don't plant seeds in a garden and ignore it. Marriage is the same way. You have to give it care each day like you water a garden. You have to deal with problems, communicate them, and face them together, just as you pull weeds from a garden. I can't stand it when I hear a husband or wife demeaning each other. I know someone whose wife treats them like a slave instead of a husband. He does 90% of the cleaning & cooking. She is a little younger than him and is still in her college days. She goes out a couple of times a week to be with her girlfriends and leaves him home after a long work day doing manual labor. He has to clean and take care of the baby. He hardly ever goes out, because he is too tired from work. Now she is pregnant with baby #2 and wants to stay home. She is planning on spending 3-4 days each week out of the house on "play dates" with her friends and their children and at the pool. Doesn't plan on staying home nurturing the children and doing what is best for them, getting them proper naps, etc. I guarantee you when he gets home from work, nothing will have been done in the house and he will have that to tend to, and she will not be contributing to the household or income. She also tells all of her friends that she "has him trained" like he is a dog or something). She won't let him eat things he likes, won't let him cut his hair the way he likes. She won't let him purchase things he wants, because "their saving so she can stay home", yet he is making all of the money. Marriage is a relationship where you and your husband decide who takes care of what responsibilities. It should be a mutual agreement, not an order. It should be give and take.
@reckon21 (3487)
• Philippines
27 Jun 09
He is a very good husband. Actually he has all the good qualities of being a good husband and father to his children. Unfortunately he was able to teamed up with a disgusting wife who feels herself like a queen with out a castle and treated his husband like a servant. That nerved of that woman, she is just lucky that she found him or else she could have chosen an abusive husband. The mere fact that her husband is a good man, she should treasure him and give him the respect and love he deserved.
• India
18 Jun 09
My Reference was to you Willy................
• United States
18 Jun 09
I recommend The Love Dare to any couple. It is a great way to get back on track with your relationship or marriage. It is also used in the movie Fireproof. It is a wonderful movie to watch with your spouse whether you have problems or not. I have also read His Needs, Her Needs. That is a helpful book as well. If all else fails, go to counseling. Just make sure you go to the right person. My husband and I went to see the Pastor at out church once a week and not only did it help but we looked foward to it.