Someone finally noticed!!

@Debs_place (10551)
United States
June 19, 2009 7:40pm CST
I have been going to weight watchers since February and have lost about 30 pounds. My jeans can now be taken off without unzipping or unbuttoning them. Yet until today no one said a single word to me about having lost this weight, It has been very difficult since I am not very good at resisting temptation but I have worked really hard at it. And now someone finally said something. If you see someone losing weight do you comment on it? What do you say? What if they have a lot more to go...I still want to lose about 50 more pounds so it is not like I am skinny (yet!) . would you say nothing if you thought it was a healthy related problem or would you express concern? Yes..Hubby is thrilled, of course he has been going too and has lost almost 45 pounds, so he has commented. I just feel it is nice to hear from someone who is not aware of the effort but notices the change.
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19 responses
20 Jun 09
Hi Debs_place, Well done to you for doing what you want to do and that is to lose some weight but please don't overdo it though, if I see someone and notice they have lost weight I would compliment them only if I know its healthy lost of weight and they are happy with it, I salute you girl. Tamara
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@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
20 Jun 09
believe me, I am now nowhere near skinny...I have to go about 50 more pounds but I using Weight watchers - getting in dairy, fruits and veggies, healthy oils and proteins every day. I know I am doing it right. Thanks
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@GardenGerty (87554)
• Marion, Kansas
20 Jun 09
It is great to get a fair sampling of all those food groups and I am sure that it will help you not only lose, but keep off the weight.
@AmbiePam (44532)
• United States
20 Jun 09
If I know someone is trying to lose weight, if they told me...Then I will definitely comment on their weight loss when I notice it. For sure. But if they have lost weight, and I am not sure what they would think of me commenting on their weight, then I just tell them they are really looking good.
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@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
20 Jun 09
I did not want to tell people I was trying to lose, it just seems to make it harder. I work with several large people and I get the feeling they would make it more difficult. I think it is nice to tell them they are looking good though. Some one told me yesterday that I looked better in short hair...it has been this length for several years- I assume that it meant the style looked better.
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@AmbiePam (44532)
• United States
20 Jun 09
I would hate to embarrass people, so I make some kind of comment when I notice. I know how good I feel when I've lost weight and someone tells me I look nice.
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@LadyMarissa (12165)
• United States
20 Jun 09
CONGRATULATIONS!!! I know it has been a LOT of HARD work!!! I once worked with a girl who lost 50 pounds & I never noticed. Her desk was directly across from mine. She was insulted that I hadn't noticed. Once she pointed it out to me, I was embarrassed!!! The only thing I could think of was seeing her every day I had seen her gradually get smaller. In this case, she was wearing the same clothes she had worn before & they weren't hanging off her. I usually only saw her from the chest up so I wasn't looking at her body all day. I most definitely would have said something to her had I noticed. To this day I don't understand why I didn't notice it. On noticing, I'd say You look like you're losing weight. I assume you've been working hard on this. You're looking good. Keep up the good work!!! If I'm concerned the weight loss is from heath reasons I'd probably say I've noticed you're losing weight. Is everything OK??? Are you losing on purpose???
@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
20 Jun 09
That is a great way to handle it if you think it is for health reasons. SHe lost 50 pounds and her clothes did not hang...wow, they must have been tight in the first place or a stretchy fabric. BTW Thanks, it has been hard but having my husband with me doing it has really helped.
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@LadyMarissa (12165)
• United States
20 Jun 09
This girl was very large. 50 pounds for her was like 10 pounds for me. But that was still NO excuse!!! She also wore her blouses to the outside of her skirts so I couldn't see any change there. She also wore her clothes baggy so a little more baggy wasn't easy to see. I'm not making excuses for me, but I don't think that it was all my fault. She was the ONLY one I ever had that problem with.
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@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
20 Jun 09
Oh that is wonderful, that must have made you feel fantastic, the hard work paying off for you, I must be honest and say I don't usually notice weight loss on people until an extreme loss, but congratulations to you and i hope you keep going with it...
@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
20 Jun 09
Thanks, I am glad that you said you don't notice it. It makes me feel like the people just don't pay attention not they don't care.
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@GardenGerty (87554)
• Marion, Kansas
20 Jun 09
I think people see us through a type of filter. They see you as they know you now, and as they remember you then, and because of your smiles and frowns. In other words they see the whole picture, not just your body fat composition. You are not defined by your weight. That is a good thing. I know, though, that the occasional compliment can go a really long way.
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• United States
20 Jun 09
Congrats! I am still trying to lose baby weight weight from my last pregnancy. I had to quit jenny craig b/c it was too expensive.
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@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
20 Jun 09
Definitely, a friend of mine did it for one month, she said it was around 400 and she lost 6 pounds, which is about the same amount I am losing per month at Weight Watchers for way less money.
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@scheng1 (24970)
• Singapore
20 Jun 09
Hi Debs, I will be the last person to notice physical looks. However, I am very quick to discern a change in the tone in a conversation. Even a "hello" can tell me if the speaker is happy or sad. I guess I dont really place a lot of attention on looks, but on the mood of my friends. I didn't even notice anyone changing the hairstyle!
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@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
20 Jun 09
Are you married? Male or female? If you have a wife, she must be very saintly, my husband notices almost every change.
@scheng1 (24970)
• Singapore
21 Jun 09
Me, single female, no taste for fashion or physical looks. Even when my friends cut their hair really short, I only notice that they look different, but can't say what's the difference. Even when my mum dyed her hair, I didn't notice anything. Guess obeservation for physical looks is not my strong point. But when someone is telling half truth, I know it immediately. That's why I can be a very good interviewer. Those potential candidates can't deceive me with their flashy smiles and good looks.
@GardenGerty (87554)
• Marion, Kansas
20 Jun 09
If I see people making changes, I comment on them. I think I am more attentive than most people are I would love to lose thirty pounds, and that other fifty myself. I think I would be very happy with the first thirty, though. Losing just ten percent of your weight can result in really major health improvements. I need to give myself this pep talk and get on with it. I have a ton of clothes that I would love to be able to wear that I cannot so that should be good motivation.
@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
20 Jun 09
Well GG, that is right where I am with about 50 more to go, I wish I did have some smaller clothes to wear. I am going baggy this summer and will get new stuff for the fall. I know I will not be wehre Iwant to be then so I will go with a minimum. BTW -- I have been doing Weight watchers and it is going great.
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@GardenGerty (87554)
• Marion, Kansas
20 Jun 09
I eat pretty well, but I am way too sedentary, and I know it. I spend a lot of my free time at the computer. I need to spend it on my house or in the garden.
@gemini_rose (16194)
20 Jun 09
It is such a wonderful feeling when someone notices a weight loss, it seems to make it all worthwhile somehow! That is a pretty big weight loss so I am surprised that it has not been noticed sooner and am glad that someone finally complimented you on it! I always always comment on someone losing weight because it makes them feel good and encourages them to keep it up and I am glad you are feeling good about yourself keep it up!!!
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@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
21 Jun 09
Gemini -- I wish I worked with you. I can remove my jeans without unzipping them. They are huge and no one notices it. It amazes me. Thanks
@iamsolucky (1243)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
Hi, good work Debs. I am proud of people who really have the strong motivation to reach their target. im sure you can lose that 50 lbs if you really want. But i hope you also enjoy the changes, some people will really noticed you and make positive comments, and be happy on that. If some people comment negative , maybe think of it and smile, tell yourself - your really doing good. I get negative comments even i already lose weight, and im always telling myself this is for me and not for anybody. I just came to know that people who say negative are jealous because they cant even lose 1 pound, hehe. happy mylotting and smile always!
@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
21 Jun 09
I know what you mean about people being negative and trying to sabotage the effort. I work with someone who just loves junk food and is always bringing it in and telling me to try it. I just tell her I am trying to avoid junk food and eat healthier. But she will nag and nag about it. I have not cut out desserts altogether but when I do have one I want one that is awesome and not the average grocery store stuff.
@vetiver12 (164)
• Spain
20 Jun 09
That´s fabulous, when you are trying some thing really hard, and your efforts are visible to the rest of people, it´s terrific. The good thing is that when you lost pounds, not only you get rid of those pounds but also of bad cholesterol, and you feel more light, you have more energy, and you are capable of doing some things you couldn´t do it before that. I´m glad to hear.
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@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
20 Jun 09
You know it is weird that you mention that I can now do things I couldn't before. Last night for the first time in years I realized I could squat down to the floor and get up and do it repeatedly. That made me feel quite good, when I realize a while back I could not do it, I felt old. Doing this last night made me feel younger. Thanks
@tholitz (1127)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
Hi Debs_place! First of all I wanted to congratulate you for your effort to lose weight. I know that it is very easy to gain weight but to lose, that's take a lot of effort and determination, and may I include resistance too. I found it mind boggling that people around you have not noticed the big difference in your weight. I mean, losing 30 lbs. is so noticeable in a person's body. I don't know if they have kept their silence or they are afraid to ask that it could bring negative emotion on your side. Anyway, just kept on doing what you know will be best for you. Looking forward of your achievement in losing weights and gaining the body and confidence you wanted to have. Have a nice day!
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@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
20 Jun 09
Thanks. a pat on the back is great. I don't think they are concerned about negative emotions since non of them care about harassing me about my mental pause (menopause) and I go along with it. In my line of work, you laugh whenever you can to relieve the stress.
• United States
20 Jun 09
Thats awesome!! Congrats =)
@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
20 Jun 09
Thank you!
@clorissa123 (4930)
• United States
20 Jun 09
Well, normally I won't comment on other people's weight. Nonetheless, people has their self - esteem. I don't want to hurt their feeling if my comment is bad. If someone change for good, I definitely make a positive comments to let him/her know that he/she making a progress, good job! blah blah..... At least, that is a nice thing to do.
@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
20 Jun 09
Yes, I always try to comment when someone's hair looks nice or they look good in an outfit. I think it does help to brighten their day.
@polachicago (19143)
• United States
21 Jun 09
I was never on weigh watch in my life, but I always notice if someone lost weight and I always comment what I see.... Results are visible if you lost 30 pounds...it is a lot...congratulations! I am sure that your husband is happy with his weigh lost as well...
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@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
27 Jun 09
Thank you. We are both ecstatic. You are a lucky person. What do you attribute it to? healthy eating or good genes?
@polachicago (19143)
• United States
29 Jun 09
healthy eating and small portions...since childhood...
@Polly1 (12650)
• United States
22 Jun 09
Congrats on your weight loss, thats great. When I notice that someone has lost weight, I will compliment them on how good they look. I am very careful when doing it, I don't want to hurt someones feelings, like for health issues things like that. Making a comment about someones weight can sometimes be tricky. I think people have a tendency to play it safe and not say anything. Good for both of you, a big pat on the back.
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@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
27 Jun 09
Thank you. I understand what you are saying about hurting people's feeling but a You look like you lost weight, good job. Would be nice.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
21 Jun 09
Congratulations Deb! I love weight watchers, they are the greatest plan for losing weight & you get plenty to eat, its so healthy.I almost stay on their plan..I am not fat but i gained a few pounds a couple of years ago, so i tried weight watchers & lost that and felt so great that now i am so into that way of eating that i just stay on it...I have already gotten the food & points down to where i know them by heart, so i stay at my size 10 Jeans always....Sometimes others are jealous ya know!........
@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
21 Jun 09
Thanks and yes, WW is a healthy way to lose weight. Actually it is not time for my afternoon snack. One banana coming up. I am in a 14 right now but close to a 12. I have a pair of size 10 jeans that never got worn. I bought them and developed a medical condition. I got meds for it which cause a great amount of weight gain. Now, I have decided after over 10 years the pain will not go away, I need my insurance to pay for laser surgery and they won't (at least not yet) but I want to wear those jeans...by next spring. Let them be jealous..is their problem not mine.
• Abbotsford, Wisconsin
20 Jun 09
Congratulations! Keep up the good work. As far as commenting unless I know before hand they are trying to lose weight I usually will not look close enought to notice.... I reached a milestone this week too. I walked 6 and half miles to the railroad tracks and 6 and half miles home.. So I did 13 miles in one day in 4 hours. I am sure I was able to push myself better than usual do to a adrenaline rush from getting into a fight with my mother she wants to sell my grandpas old house, and I want that house... she has never helped me get a job and drivers licence all promised the only help I asked was for transporation I would have paid the gas money, and to bad I wanted to surprise her by paying a certain percentage of my total earnings... But oh well. Her loss. I did my 13 miles in one day within 4 hours, and I am happy I did so as two weeks ago I could not even walk to the mailbox without pain... As I have a bad ankle so I am not sure if I lost weight but I can tell it helped strenghten my leg and ankle so that I can almost walk like normal. I am happy about that. - DNatureofDTrain
@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
21 Jun 09
Yes, anger and adrenalin can certainly get us moving. 13 miles in a day is very impressive. Pretty soon you will be able to run a 1/2 marathon. Losing weight should help the ankle. Maybe Mom can't afford grandpa's house. After Mom's are only human and can only do so much. Trying talking to her instead of getting angry.
• China
20 Jun 09
pressure to increase their own.To point to their own to encourage.control of our mouth.
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@lolislol (82)
• Finland
20 Jun 09
Sometimes i comment, but usually i don't bother.
@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
21 Jun 09
Why not? It might help people feel good abut themselves and motivate them to do more.