on fitting in

i choose to be myself... but there are times, in some situations we need to adjust for the people around us... its not always bad to change to fit in with other...sometimes we really need to do some changes with us to adapt with the situation and with the environment that we're in... i think changing something with us to fit in the situation doesn't mean that we're not being our self...

I'm having difficulties to fit in, so what I always do was just be me. I cannot be someone I am not. But I try to adapt to the new situations and try to mix around

i try to avoid those people that i have no or less similarity with, if i dont fit then i dont go with them. i dont change myself just to fit in. just be yourself, don't try to change yourself just so you can fit in. because in doing so, it creates more trouble sometimes.

I don't fit in where i live,but i don't care.If people don't like me they don't have to speak to me

okay so speaking as one who feels like a social outcast, i think that trying to conform to what other people's idea of normal is is asking for trouble, because at some point you shall forget that you are pretending to be something that you are not, the mask shall slip and the real you shall peek out. this could be very embarassing. so what i think is best is if you hang around or associate with those that are similar to you, this way it will not be as awkward and you will not stick out like a sore thumb. i recently attended my niece's barbeque at her daycare, she is 3. anyways there were other parents there and grownups. i guess i need to explain, my dress styly is alternative, think post apocalyptic chic. that is what i call the style, i always wear black and futuristic boots, always. this is how i feel most comfortable, i can dress in the dark and not have to worry about matching, all things in my closet are either black and red/white/grey. so anyways there i was, sitting there all by my lonesome with parents that i had nothing in common with, it was gruesome, they were staring at me. i was also the one the children gravitated towards i guess i look like a cartoon to them and i was the one playing with them, they don't judge they just stare and are fascinated. the parents on the other hand were giving me judgemental looks. if not for the love of my niece i would not have been there. if i walk down queen street in toronto or camden in london england, no one there stares, if i am in a heavy metal club no one there stares either. so i guess my point is stick with those who will not judge based on your appearance, interest or behavior. i try to be myself at all times, or the closest version of myself that i can allow others to see depending on the social and/or otherwise engagement.

being somebody you're not just to fit in w/ a certain crowd is like having to be an actress everyday which tough and tiring, not to mention depressing and destructive. but as like what the others have said we should learn how to adapt to our environment. maybe its like moving to another country you know, share something to the community you live in. learn to embrace a thing or two of whats common around you. it doesnt mean you'd have to live a lie or change oneself.