can you be a friend to your husband's/wife's ex?
By ckyera
@ckyera (17332)
Philippines
June 23, 2009 6:06am CST
i am just curious about it, if we can be a friend to our partner's ex boyfriend or girlfriend....
in my case i think i can't really be a friend to them, for what reason i really don't know. I think it will be very uncomfortable for me...and i can't be a good friend for them...but i will not an enemy either...maybe its enough for me just to know them but not be a friend...
how about you? can you? or is it possible?
thanks in advance for sharing...
have a nice day!
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7 responses
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
23 Jun 09
I dun think i can be a fren to them as well.. IT's just too awkward, and there are just some things better to be left unsaid.. What's more, what if her ex has nto given up hope yet, and wann spoil our relationship?? It's far too dangerous.. haha =D
Furthermore, no matter how generous a person is, jeslousy is bound to be there.. PLus, they have been together before, and we wont wanna be put to shame, whereby there are things, her ex knows while i dun right?? lol =D
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
6 Jul 09
lol =D They dun like u, because u are his wife eventually while they are already completely out of his life, no matter how much they wanna be involved in it.. lol =D Thus, the jealousy is there for sure.. hehe ^_^
Alot depends on how your husband handles his ex and thsoe past relationship, sp that it will not affect your marriage now ^_^
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
6 Jul 09
hahaha....
my husband i think is not interested with them anymore...and it looks like i am more interested to know somethings about them...my husband don't care.
i remember there's one time we saw my husband's 1st gf on the street, well of course they say hi, hello coz the girl is a family friend before...my husband tries to introduce me to her and of course i smile! but to my surprise, this girl didn't give me a look! hehehe she just talk to my husband and after a while just go w/out saying anything to me...
she's a jerk! hehehe...i am wondering why she acts that way when she is also already married!
she's a jerk! hehehe...i am wondering why she acts that way when she is also already married!1 person likes this
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
5 Jul 09
i agree with you...this is also what i am thinking and i think i can really never be friends with my husband's exes! aside from the fact that i really never had a good impression to them and them to me, actually they don't like me...hehehe and when they saw me, all i got is a sharp look or they just snob me...hehehe but me, i just smile...
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@cmnavarro (251)
• Philippines
6 Jul 09
i don't think i can be a friend to someone i don't like... like my girlfriend's ex hihih i don't think it's a good idea to be friends with them while i'm still with my gf...
thanks!
@bdugas (3578)
• United States
23 Jun 09
I think that if you are with some one that has an ex and they also have kids together, and you want to be with this person, it is important to get along with the ex for the kids sake. What happen with them is gone and if they get along then there is no reason to be jealous, if they wanted them they would still be with them. They are with you, I think people that are jealous of the other person, has a fear of losing that person, back to them or to someone else.
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
23 Jun 09
maybe yes...in that case we really need to get along with the ex...just for kids sake
maybe there's really a jealousy factor here and fear of losing the one that you love...but i think your reaction to your love's ex will still be depends on how was them with you...
like in my case, my husband's ex are never good to me...actually when we saw each other, she can't even look straight to me...hehehe
thanks for sharing...
@fernandezmindoro (146)
• United States
23 Jun 09
hmm. being a close friend to a partner ex could be uncomfortable for some. but i believe if things are left in the past then why make it a uncomfortable situation. they departed for a reason. but if they departed as friends then so let it be. as for myself i am really good friends with my husbands ex. we don't go on chattering about things that happened between them and we're both happily married and she's a wonderful friend. so of course there's nothing to fuss about. at times i even forget that she was my husbands ex. i honestly think it's more uncomfortable for my husband than anybody else in this situation. but it is, what it is. ; )
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
23 Jun 09
wow, that's nice of you...and yes maybe your husband is not that comfortable with the situation...hehehe
at least now i know that it is really possible for some...but not for me i think...
maybe it depends on the ex...coz in my situation his exes are never been good to me..they always say bad words about me before...maybe that's why...
thanks for sharing!
maybe it depends on the ex...coz in my situation his exes are never been good to me..they always say bad words about me before...maybe that's why...
thanks for sharing!
@crippledcrossface (53)
• United States
11 Jul 09
nope...i wouldn't be friends with my husbands ex gf. i will start a fight.lol. nah,you're right that's enough to know them and thats it, no connection or so forth because you'll never know if they're trying to get ur man behind your back.lol.i don't know.i just don't trust them girls. =) peace out
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
23 Jun 09
I know that..
. On myself maybe I could do that but I think never on my partner. That's all I can say. hehehehehe
. On myself maybe I could do that but I think never on my partner. That's all I can say. hehehehehe 