What would you do if there is NO apology? is there forgiveness without apology?

India
June 23, 2009 10:41am CST
hi everyone, i have seen in relationships there are loads of arguments, but the question here is who comes first to apologize. Here, mostly girls would be the first to come up to apologize. even if it was the guys fault, while arguing the girl might have been angry and harsh which that guy wouldn't like, so the girls would apologize first. it is pretty unfair! But what would you do if it was your boy or girl friend 's fault, you both argue and fight about it and in the end no one apologizes. after some time or days you had to call her/him to convey something. so would you forget whatever happened before and start talking normally. or would you expect an apology? i expect it, i don't like to extend my days without talking. I used to apologize no matter what, but in future i won't, i don't want to be taken advantage of my weaknesses. what do you do? share your experience. thanks
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@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
14 Jul 09
It is better for us to apologize for what we did is wrong. It will give us confident on any occasions that make us free from unease...
• India
14 Jul 09
yes, you are right. but some people do not admit their mistakes. thanks for the response. good luck!
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
Do not admit their mistake because they are guilty. People admitting their mistakes is free from any guilt. It is better for us to forgive someone, if someone will ask for apology. We need more space in our heart to give more ways the love that should reside on it. Things should change depend on the situation we have. If we do not admit mistakes. How can we know that mistakes is always a mistakes or an erroneous that must be corrected. So, that we can preserve the good things in our life... If you have chances to talk with that person and think that you committed wrong on her/him. It does not mean that you put down your ego or principles in life. There is no principles or any ideology in terms of forgiveness and apology. Bong
• United States
23 Jun 09
If it is not my fault I do not apologize at all. I use to do the same, and I always kinda felt like there was something wrong with me. or I would not be happy with anyone. Than after a relationship went wrong I realised that he would blame me for the things he did! Oh no I told him my piece of my mind. I am a calm person and will always talk things out, but I will never take the blame of someonelses doings. Every one is responsible for their own actions. Dont let anyone take advantage of you. Stay strong
• India
24 Jun 09
you are right. everyone is responsible for their own mistakes. i hope everyone realizes it and correct their own mistakes. thanks for the response. goodluck