friend or foe?
@friendship4lyfe (520)
Saint Lucia
June 26, 2009 4:38pm CST
Ok her is my problem.I have this friend who i talk to occasionally.We sometimes hang out together but she isnt part of my crowd.She has a lot of problems and so i listen and sometimes give advice.
Anyways she came to me a few months ago with some money problem now mind you i am currently unemployed and she makes good money.So she asked me to borrow her some cash.The amount wasnt very high but when you have a daughter to take care of its a lot.That happened like february of this year and its june yet she havent spoken to me nor is she taking my calls.So i sent her an email bcause i thought she forgot.Well she ask me to leave her the h e ll alone.So like the friend that i am i paid her a visit to find out that she wasnt home.I left a message for her asking her for my money.After all that was my daughters allowance and i should have never given it to her.
yesterday evening i was here doing my thing,my phone rung and i was so surprise when her boyfriend who is a police officer was on the other end asking me to stop harrassing his woman or else i would have to answer to him.I gave her $500 of my daughter and now its like war.He couldnt afford to help her then but is so quick to threaten me.
I woke today and paid her a visit at work.She has done that before and got away but not with me.She is a teacher so i spoke to the principal who called her to the meeting.Can you just imagine she started to denial it but the principal asked her to just stop.I am the second or third person who has come to her work place for the same thing.Can you imagine the principal is her uncle so he knows her well.He Paid me half and promise she would give me the rest on monday since today is pay day for her.
My mom asked me is she my friend or foe?I said she is none because she is a loser.What would you have done?
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9 responses
@kanecn (149)
• China
27 Jun 09
Definitely she is not your friend, a real friend never ask you for money when you are employed. If i were you, i wouldn't lend her money, that doesn't mean i'm not helpful. Asking you to borrow her money when you are in crisis is not a token of friendship, i couldn't have a close relationship with people like her.
@janetc2012 (71)
• United States
27 Jun 09
She's definitely not a friend of yours. The same thing you did I would have done because believe it or not 500 dollars is a lot and the fact that she didn't even bother to return your calls and then threatens you is straight up wack. It was smart that you went to a relative because no one can embarress someone better than there own blood and in the end give them what they deserve
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
27 Jun 09
i don't think a friend will do what your friend do to you... i won't be lending her money from the first place if i myself am unemployed and need the money to survive... if she is a real friend, she will understand and won't force you... especially she has a job and you don't... that make it even worst... anyway good on you for pursuing your rights... i hope you will be able to get all your money back... good luck... take care and have a nice day...
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
27 Jun 09
Always hard to trust people? Isn't it? Well, I gave a friend some money one time, and she turned on me. I learned never to trust her again. I would not have lent her so much money first of all, second, I would have told her to pay me back before I gave her anymore money. If she never paid me back, then I would know not to trust her, and I would cut her off. I would not be her friend anymore, and I would tell her to find someone else to cheat.
@marshalharoun (16)
• India
27 Jun 09
its really a very good question.I have no opinion on this .but this discussion looks interesting.
@Fdamarins (2)
• Philippines
26 Jun 09
well from my insight, maybe she WAS a friend, but now she's neither. borrowing your money should have the responsibility to repay you, for when you agreed on. when you visited her she closed doors and it means she's not a friend anymore. what an a**hole. but i wouldn't say it a foe eitherway.. there's just some definitions for a foe and in your case it still doesn't fit to. well, it's just some of my opinions.
btw, be patient. fight for your rights but don't lose your principles and burst out along the way. take it down to legal processes. goodluck:)
@OConnell87 (1042)
•
26 Jun 09
she is defo a foe, be nice till you get the full amount back and then turn your back on her, she prob did not have any probs, just giving you the sob story so that you would feel guilty into giving her money, she is a typical scammer. And she shouldn't be let off with doing that she should be reported and also i wouldn't want my kids being taught by her, what type of person is she if she can easily scam people how is she treating the kids. As for her boyfriend he is prob in it as well and saying that he is a police office would be meant to scare you so that you dont pursue for your money back
@jayrene (2708)
• Philippines
26 Jun 09
she is definitely not a friend, she is a swindler... gosh...
those stories she told you, maybe those werent true at all and she's just using it to get at your emotions and pity her so you can give her what she was asking...
good thing you're not the kind of person that can easily be frightened, like that calling or her bf who was a police officer, others would cower on that one and wont bother getting their money back, but you did good.
i hope you get all your money back, and that woman get punished or something... she will probably scam other people too after this.
@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
26 Jun 09
She is definitely not your friend. You had just been a victim of someone who cannot discern right from wrong. These kind of people just go about pestering others by borrowing money with no intention of paying. They couldn't care less if you need that money for something. That is your problem. Don't lend money anymore. Tell the borrowers to go to a bank or the money lenders who legally charge payment with interest. Good thing you had some of your money back.
