What you will do of your grandparents?

Philippines
June 26, 2009 9:55pm CST
I have a friend telling me that she wanna wants sent her Lola to Home for the Aged center. What is your idea for this situation? For me , I will have to hire a caregiver in my own house to take care of my Lola rather to have it in the particular place of old age people. I missed the company of my grandma thats why I dont want it het to be far from me. What about their friends any idea of this matter? Pls. kindly share your opinions. Enjoy mylotting here.
10 responses
@zearah (5289)
• Philippines
27 Jun 09
To personally take care a granny or lola is such a rewarding and great fulfillment in one's life. For lolas or grannys we could expect that they only have a remaining shorter life (if we are going to consider the normal length or span of human life). This is the best way to let them know how much we love them! For after this short time they will leave us. And forever we will be a part.@_@ Thank you@_@ Happy mylotting^_^
• Philippines
9 Jul 09
Hello zearah! Very well said . thanks
• United States
27 Jun 09
Don't do it!!!! My mom had a stroke back in 2004 and after that she was put in a rehab/nursing home and they were supposed to help her get back up and walking. Well as soon as the money ran out from medicare they stoped helping her!So she never got back on her feet and is paralyzed on her entire right side of her body. I feel awful because I am i no shape to take care of her because of my handicap. My place is too small and I have to get a larger place. I want her home so bad. I hate having her in that awful place. If you have a big enough place do what I plan on doing. I am going to get a live in nurse. Offer the nurse a room for free in exchange for taking care of the senior person that needs care. My mom only need her pants changed every few hours and helped in and out of bed and bathing. And she can help make meals. She will not get any pay,at first but once I get the letter from the Doctor then I can get her care giver pay from medicare. So it is better in the long run to keep the person at home. PM me-if you want to talk or more help with what to do ok.
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• Philippines
9 Jul 09
cookiecrambles good day! So sorry to hear about you and your mom. I agree with you today. We need to do good ways for them as they care and love as what we are now today. Its so great bonding to a whole family starting from them . So happy to see each other, serve and helping one other fir the good pf the elders.
@ckyera (17263)
• Philippines
27 Jun 09
i want my grandma to live with me...spend the rest of her life with me and make her feel special and loved... but this will no longer happen for she is already passed away... but i am happy that before she go, we will able to take care of her, make her feel how much we love her and that she is very special to us... with your friend...i don't know what's her reason in bringing her grandmother in that place...but i hope she have a good reason in doing that...for me, if that's a choice of the person and as long as its okay with her grandma and the place have good facilities, then its okay...just make sure to visit her always... maybe she can't give good care to her grandmother if it stays with her and maybe she think that the Home for the Aged can give better care to her grandmother...
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
Hi there ckyra! She decided to have this because all of them are so busy with their jobs and businesses thats why they sent to that agency. No one of the family offers for special services in her thats why they got it.
@ckyera (17263)
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
oh well that's sad that not even one in the family offer their home to the old lady... i just hope that that will not happen to them on their old age... our grandparents need our love and support on these last few years of their lives...
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
That's what I am afraid of now.
@gracie04 (4556)
• Philippines
27 Jun 09
I would not allow my parents or grandparents to live in a nursing home though I need someone to take good care of me too.. Since I have an ailment, maybe I would just hire a resident caregiver or a nurse to provide their medical needs.. you know, sending them to a nursing home would make them more sick and unhappy and i would never allow that to happen..
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
That's a great idea gracie04! thank you.
@babshish (1390)
• India
27 Jun 09
Hi, I will never ever leave my grand parents in any situations. I personally very much attached to them, and my thinking is when they were capable they have done a lot for us and helped us to become what we are today. And now when they require our attention and help, we are trying to get away from our responsiblities by sending them to the old age home. That is really a very bad thinking of today's generation. . Just think how you will feel, when the same will happen to you, your childrens will put you at such place when you need them. Noway guys we all should try to change our minds, I know it is difficult many times to deal with aged people, but aged people are more like small childrens and they need to be treated in different manner, but leaving them is no solution. I hope I have not hurted anyones feeling. if so, I am sorry.
• Philippines
8 Jul 09
grandma's, loving, caring, repays - grandma's, unstoppable, love
I go with your ideas babshish. Lets take care of them as they also take care and loves us much as we were young those days. Its time to repays their good deeds to us and also the unmeasurable support and loving care.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
27 Jun 09
I dont have one. But i kiss my mom on her cheek, before stepping out of my house.
• Philippines
9 Jul 09
Thats a very great sign of love and care to our mom.
@samicool (30)
• Sri Lanka
27 Jun 09
I dont know why your friend is trying to sent her to a aged center.But i know one thing for sure.If you are sending them away to a aged center you are also getting away from them .ask your friend to put herself in to this situation and think about it!
• Philippines
9 Jul 09
You are right samicool. It is also my feelings if I sent them to an institution.
• United States
27 Jun 09
My parenst are in there late 50s . A couple of year ago grampa was driving and feel asleep at the wheel . He had to have a triple bypass surgery . My dad went to Virginioa and drove both my grandpa and grampa to there house in Utah...after a while they convinced my grandparents to move in with them . It was that or they would bring them to a nursing home . I will do the same for my parents when they get older ..I'll take of them like they took and are still taking care of me :)
• Philippines
8 Jul 09
You are right then KOREILLY23! It's our turn now to nourish ,care, and love as a return of all good things they shared and imparted to us while we are youngs those times. Thanks a lot.
@zhuhuifen46 (3487)
• China
8 Jul 09
This is a social issue often talked about, but with no fixed answer as good or bad. If the senior needs constant medical care beyond ability of an home sitter. it is better to have him or her under professional supervision. But there he or she will take time to be used to the new environment. To make it up, the children must do their best to visit the Home regularly, if not frequently, with material and more important the emotional supplies. I believe most seniors will be considerate for their busy children, and find new friends and hobbies the new home.
• Indonesia
27 Jun 09
at my country..every grandparents always stay with their son and i very sad if i see some people senttheir grandparents to home for the aged center.i disagree for that..