Why can't I get along with my mother?

United States
June 30, 2009 5:16pm CST
I don't know what it is about my mom and I but we can't spend more than 2 hours in the same area without getting into a major fight. Mom pretty much raised me on her own and I love and respect her so much for that, but why can't we get along? We used to be best friends, now all I can ever get out of her is how screwed up I am, how much I am doing wrong with my kids and what I need to do with my life. Why is this and what can I do to make it better?
5 responses
@ucue2008 (924)
• Malaysia
2 Jul 09
How old are you? I used to be in that position when I was a teenager, but now as i'm grow old, I become to be more understanding of my mother. I tried to be in her shoe, by understanding her more, how is she felt and what make her decide whatever she decide. Moreoever when you remember what she has been sacrificed for you, you will feel thankful and appreciated her more. So, you begin to respect her more. If you cannot spend 2 hours with her, spent less time, but more quality.
• United States
3 Aug 09
I also was the same way. As a teenager my mother and I fought all the time. As I started getting older, I also got wiser. I learned to respect my mom and all the sacrifices she made for me. We still have our differences, but can talk it out now without getting in a fight. Also I have noticed that daughters and moms that are very alike in personality tend to fight more.
@EliteUser (3964)
• Australia
28 Sep 09
Hey, Don't worry about that, it happens all the time with most people. It happens with me, my parents always tick me off, and they always want me to do what they want me to do, and I am a grown adult and still they treat me like I am 3 years old. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
• China
2 Jul 09
i have had a same situation with you.i was very boring and asked myself a same question why i can't with good temper for her and why i always with impatient tone for her.she is the one who raised me and put all her heart on me in the world.i broke her heart again and again.so one day when she burst out crying in front of me and she said she only could live in a home for aged when she got older.anyway i was changed since that period of the time.i get along with my mom very well and treat her as my friend.this course of my change took almost 10 years.
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
I really thought it was only happening to me but I guess not. I am experiencing the same issue with my own mother. I hardly call her so I do not get to talk to her because I end up feeling bad after we talk on anything. I honestly love and respect my mom but we just have this thing between us where we cannot get along the whole day without having a bit of a quarrel or fighting over a little thing. My advice is to spend time with her no matter how hard it is for you. All they want is to show them they are appreciated by spending time with them out of your busy work week because that is all they want. Trust me when i say that. I learnt it the hard way and thus right now I am trying to have that relationship with my mom again.
@shimanaja (493)
• Indonesia
1 Jul 09
what happened to you and ur mom is a common thing that happened to the others... Me had the same situations with u about my mom. But..the most important Don't make ur relation with ur mom getting worse. Cause..she still ur mother who raised u and love u very much more than u think. i think u know better than that..don't u?..:) May be our mom has different way to describe her feeling to us..and may be has different way thinking too. She's a mother..but she's only human too...who can make a mistake.. Try to understand her...by ur the best way of course...,avoid make conversation that she realy hate, and make sure that u realy respect her in the deepest ur heart..... Hoping ur relation with ur mom getting better....