Kids
By sauman2006
@sauman2006 (125)
India
July 2, 2009 10:07am CST
When is the correct time to have kids after marriage? Do you guys think Kids are an unnecessaty distraction that a couple can do without for a considerable amount of time . i mean with kids they have so much on their plate they hardly have time to look at each other let alone have the time to reignite their romance . Invariably it fizzes out ..What say mylotters
4 responses
@Zhizho (1350)
• Indonesia
2 Jul 09
I think,kids is livelihood from god.So,accept them with love.But,I think need to prepare our self.it's better.Because many of people who educate their children with wrong education because they not prepare yet as parent.But,don't be afraid to have kids because preparing reason.it can doing by learning.The important is love them by your heart and when you find "busy" and feel difficult just think that it be your duty as parent.About time with your husband,sure,it will be different.But,it depend to us,how we face and drive our household.I'm sure,after have kids,we more love each other because we have new dream and try to reach it.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
2 Jul 09
I think that is depends on the marriage. I think that everyone should wait till at least a year after they are married. I think couples should take time to get through the newlywed phase and get used to being a married couple before they add kids to the mix. We had our first one pretty close after we were married. It put a lot of stress on the relationship because we were still adjusting to being married and didn't get to spend a lot of couple time together before it became family time.
@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Children are a HUGE commitment to a couple, they can and will change things but they in no way have to destroy a marriage. Yes an infant is going to require a ton of the parents time and for a while the marriage could suffer. But if you have a strong bond with your spouse you can survive and in the end children can add to a marriage in more ways than you can imagine.
@MyTimeNow (48)
• United States
2 Jul 09
I think it all depends on how you see children. If you see them as you said, an unnecessary distraction, then you should probably never have kids. But if you see them as an extension of your self and as an expression of love between you and your mate then that changes things. Kids are a handful and they take up a lot of time but they are also soooo much fun. Romance will always fizzle out if you dont put some time and effort into the relationship, weather or not kids are in the picture. When kids are involoved, you just have to work a little harder to make time for each other and keep the romance alive. Me and my man have been together for 7 years and have 2 beautful kids together and we still cant keep our hands off of each other. Its not always romantic but passion doesnt always have to be.
