Am I crazy that I want to know where my kids are???

United States
July 2, 2009 5:02pm CST
My kids were nice enough to bring home a little boy two days ago. I of course sent him home, and told him he had to have permission to come over. So, he shows up again today, with his brother, saying he had permission. Now I had to explain that he also needed my permission. So, I sent a note to his Mom, with my address and phone number, and told her the boys were welcome to come over tomorrow. I let my kids walk them home (they live in the same apartment complex as us). Now, if I was the parent recieving the note, I would have called the number and introduced myself and offered my phone number and address if needed. If my kids came home and asked if they could go to someones house, I would want to talk to that parent. Apparently people don't do that anymore and just let their kids run wild. Am I the only one that feels this way?
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14 responses
@lingli_78 (12846)
• Australia
3 Jul 09
i don't thing that you are crazy for wanting to know where your kids are... i will do the same as well if i am a parent... i won't let my children go anywhere without my knowledge... especially in the time like now... it is just too dangerous and we don't know what type of friend our children is mixing with... take care and have a nice day...
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• United States
3 Jul 09
Ya pretty much these days kids are running wild and parents just dont care where they are its really sad. ten years ago it would have been a big issue but now everyone does it.
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@Ritchelle (3797)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
just the thought that you gave a note to the children's mom with your address and phone no. is a sign already that you wish for the children's parents to let you know that you expect a call from them when their children would come over. are you sure the note reached the parents? if yes, and they still didn't call, well...not everyone were raised and not everyone thinks the same way .
@doormouse (4619)
2 Jul 09
you're not crazy,i live in a small village so i always know where they are,if i can't see them i can always hear them.I think it depends on the age of the child,now mine are getting older i like to know where they are but i don't intefer too much
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@jayrene (2713)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
you are not crazy, its normal. being a parent we always want to protect our child, so knowing where they are playing is really important for us. i tell my kids if they are going out to play, to tell me where that way i can check on them once in a while. we live in a small subdivision where houses are called townhouse and only wall separated us from neighbors. mostly people know each other here. sometimes my kids would bring playmates here and their parents sometimes would drop by in front of our house and check on them. and i do the same thing too.
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• United States
2 Jul 09
I agree that most parents do not do that anymore and let their kids go where ever and do what ever. Maybe that is why there is a rise on missing children. I am totally the same way. I wont even let the kids across the street come over because I they didnt get permission and my daughter isnt allowed over there because I dont know the parents. I think you got it right and that is the only safe and reasonable way to go about it. Good for you for sticking to your rules!
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@adam1980 (517)
2 Jul 09
if my children were to go to someone elses house to play i wold have wanted to go with them the first time to see that it was safe for my child to be there and to meet the other childs parents in person not just on the phone, people wander why so many children come to harm when they just let them wander aroud on there own like this
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@bonnie67 (10)
• United States
18 Jul 09
No your not the only one who feels that way. We have 8 kids. 4 of each. Only 1 is out of the house but we have a friend here so i still have 8 kids at home. We live in a small town and just about ever one knows each other here. But we still have rules for the kids. Our rules are we must know the parents and sit down and talk with them. We must know where they are going to be at all times. Name phone and address of the place they will be. With whom they will be with. Depending on what child it is and age there time to be home is 9 and the older ones is 11pm unless it is a church thing or school. Our son has brought home a friend and we asked if his parents new he told us yes. We told him to call his mom. He lied to us and than told us his mom wasn't home. That we needed to talk to an adult he called his parents cell phone and they said it was ok for him to be at our home. now a days i don't think to many parents care about there kids and where they are or they just need a break and pass them off onto others.
• United States
3 Jul 09
You are definitely not crazy. I live on my grandma's land and only family lives here so I don't have that problem, but if I were in your situation I would definitely do the same thing. There is no way my kids will be playing with anybody unless I know where they are and have met or at least talked to their parents
@cher913 (25893)
• Canada
3 Jul 09
i know there are parents out there that hate the summer because their kids are home. they dont care where they are, as long as they are out of the house. it is sad that there are people like that but when my kids were younger, i usually talked to the parents, now i make sure they call home (my daughters are older).
@tonniek02 (457)
• United States
3 Jul 09
No your not crazy... My children are Adults now and my youngest came home for a while. I told her I wanted to know if she was going to be home at night and where she was and who she's with. You never know when something might happen and you need to get in touch with them. And when I know who she with. I know who to contact if I have not heard from her in days or if I can't find her. I know who last seen her. It a mother that really loves her children that want to know were there at and who there with. In the world we live in today is nothing like it was when we were young. I told my girls just because they are older. Doesn't mean nothing can happen to them. It happens everyday. I told them to always be careful on who they talk to and think about what they are doing. If they feel it's wrong in there heart. Then it's wronge. So if your crazy, so am I
@jules67 (2790)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
It is a normal thing for you to do to have asked your kids friend's parents names and number. It was a responsible thing to do. Parents should know where their kids are going and better to know the family of the kids. Some parents would just find it ok that their kids are going to houses of the neighbor.
@cobra1368 (704)
• United States
3 Jul 09
I don't have children yet, but I would have to say that I would be like you. My mother always had at least a speaking relationship with all of mine and my brother's friend's parents. I think that makes you perfectly normal. How do you know what kind of environment they are going to if you don't even know the parents? How do you know that the parents even got the note? I suggest that you take the initiative and go meet them in person. Take a tray of cookies or something and just say, "Hi! I know my kids just love your son, so I thought I'd come by to meet you. Here are some cookies for you." Just go over to chat and offer your number in person and tell them that their son can call your kids anytime and he is welcome over, yada yada. That is the way I would handle it, anyway. I think you are a good mom for wanting to know where your kids are. It is ridiculous to settle for less when you have kids. My mother always knew where I was and at which friend's house. I think there is a general tendency in society nowadays to try to get around speaking to anyone anymore. Kids have their noses in their iPhones, texting away 24-7. You are right that no one wants anything to do with others outside of their circle of family and friends. It is a little weird. That is one bad thing about the advances in technology. It makes it way to easy to communicate by less personalized means (emailing and texting rather than calling or coming over).
@dreamr802 (987)
• United States
3 Jul 09
I grew up in a neighborhood where all the kids would just go outside and meet and play. We were in that type of neighborhood where all the parents knew one another or knew of one another. But if it was my kid, I would want to know what house they are in and to see if it's safe. Especially nowadays you never know how people are and unfortunately you can't trust many people.