Please Help !!

India
July 4, 2009 5:37pm CST
I love this girl whom i met 7 years before..from last year we got into relationship..we love each other a lot but recently there was a problem..we both share long distance..i stay in india whereas she in U.S. Girl is really simple and i can talk a lot about her..so i'll cut it short..shez sweet,caring,loving and my bff and my love of life.. recently we had problem..her parents caught her talking to me and this happened once before..dis was the second time she was caught..and she was asked to cut off relationship with me because of my surname which her parents dont like..she got damn confused between these things..she was trapped..she dont want to disobey her parents but the same time she wants to marry me in life..she decided to be my bff again..she tells me to forget about love thing whatever we had..i just can't do it :(..she tells me to forget her..so i decided to complete my studies in U.S. and get a nice job and get her back by convincing her parents..but she continues to say that i wont be ever able to convince them..i told her whatever situation is we have to fight together ..thats what love is all about..we both are doing graduation..so i told her its not about my surname..her parents probably want her to study.. she tells me to find another girl for me ( which hurts both of us a lot )..All i could tell her is i respect you and your decisions but ill come back to you after my studies but she keeps saying..no use bcoz parents wont allow and i dont want to disobey them :(..im trapped too :( im confused..her parents dont even know me..noone can judge by just a surname..what shld i do to get her back? :( im confused..should i wait for hurt to heal?we both are in first year engineering..we both are hurt..she still loves me a lot but she just dont show it :(..i respect her and i truly love her..i wont be able to move on ever without her.. PS : In our relationship we never had fight and we still love each other plz help ..thank you
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
5 Jul 09
What you had is calf love.At the age of twelve we can't expect people to be aware of true love and the consequences.Now you are at the end of your teens and so you have the speed.But think a while.She is in U.S and you are in India.If you can go there and meet her you have some chances.Is it possible?Waiting for her and planning to marry after your studies,I don't think it will be practically possible.She might get married at the time you finish your studies.So,pacify your mind as she will not come out of her parent's will.Don't get offended.I am just explaining the facts as a third person.Everybody has a calf love and one should not get left down if it is not successful.Cheers!