When you're angry with someone, do you let them know or not?

July 10, 2009 2:53am CST
Do you let the person know that you are angry with them or do you just keep it to yourself? If it's someone close to me, I will let them know but if it's someone that I'm not close with it's unlikely. What about you? Also, do you think it's best to let someone know that you're angry with them because if you tell them they might be become scared or afraid of you.
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@jayrene (2713)
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
that really depends on what that person did to me. if it is something that is just a simple thing that i find annoying and got angry with, then i wont let that person know i am angry at him or her at the moment. but if it is really something big for me, then definitely that person will know how angry i am with him or her. i dont care if they get afraid or scared with me. close or not ill let them see my anger.
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• India
11 Jul 09
yes i cannot stop myself when i am angry but i always tray to be cool and most of the time i do it but sometimes when i can't control n its too much then there really something that can't tolerate and after all it's natural to all human being.
@shibham (17028)
• India
11 Jul 09
when someones tells a lie or i am blammed without any cause. i don't think that i should let someone know about my anger. lol
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
11 Jul 09
i will let him know if i am angry with him.i don't want to keep in heart and i have to say out and let others know why i am unhappy.
@sameroad (3181)
• United States
11 Jul 09
it depends... a lot of the times i don't. sometimes i don't have too because they will know lol but i don't know.. depends on the person and why for.. i usually just keep stuff to myself. its not good but i just never know how to tell someone or i don't wanna make a big deal out of anything.
@eggnog (46)
• Philippines
11 Jul 09
If im angry with someone, i let them know. Its not because for them to be afraid or scared to me, its because in the first place i am a prank person, second for them to know what my feelings are, at that stage he or she can apologise to me or we can talk for some good reason
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
If that person is not violent, I will tell him/her directly. Of course, I don't wanna get hurt if ever that person will attack me. But seriously, I try to confront the person that I'd argued with because I don't want to keep all hatred inside me.
• United States
10 Jul 09
Yes i let them know and i tell them why i am angry with them cause it isn't good to hold anything in just makes it more harder!
@jheLaichie (4439)
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
For me, it depends upon the weight of the problem or its context. Usually, if it's just a minor problem, I'd rather let him/her/them know. But if it's beyond to my control of emotion that will cause an outburst of feeling, for the both of us, I'd keep it myself and let time pass. Time that goes long, maybe a couple of years after. Then that would be the time that I should let him/her/them know.
@submerryn (1304)
• Malaysia
10 Jul 09
It so depends on the situation. Is it worth letting the other person know that we are angry with them, and put a strain to the relationship? If situation permits, I'll just get on with life and forget about it. But if the recurrence is high, I'll definately let the other person know that I am angry with him/her. I'll try to maintain the relationship for the best I can and only resolve to confronting when I can't take it anymore.
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
I guess if I am angry I will tell it straight to my hubby. Before I used to keep quiet and will never talk. But since he gets so pissed with what I do, so I changed my attitude to talk. About my distant friends, relatives, well probably I would still keep quiet. I don't know, this is me.
@SHAMRACK (8350)
• India
10 Jul 09
Dear friend, I hope for it depends how well I could hand my emotions or anger. May be I would just show it straight or other I would just avoid it and keep in my self and pretenting not in angery. But if I could I would not like to be angery and mostly I am able to keep it myself and controlling it.
• Malaysia
10 Jul 09
Usually when I am angry I don't have to let others know because they will notice it in my tone of voice.
@ckyera (17202)
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
well, me i don't usually say it straight to their face that hey i am angry with you! they just feel it, coz when i am angry i just keep quiet and i do not talk much to that person and sometimes i can't even look at them...simply because i don't like to see them! but just good that i rarely get angry, i get offended but never angry... but when we are already okay again, that will be time that i will tell them that i don't like what they have done to me and it makes me angry...i just tell it for them to know and so next time this will not happen again and avoid same incidence... thanks and have a nice day!
@bingchen (1126)
• China
10 Jul 09
i can let them know what i am angry with them.because i have few angry with somebody,i don't hope that this become very serious and let us embarassment,so could not easy angry to them.somebody can make me angry whose attitude and behaviour is so serious and distroyed my advantege,so i couldn't intolerate these people.because they knowed what they do can hurt others right,i couldn't forgive what they have done,so i let them know what i do for them.
@Zhizho (1353)
• Indonesia
10 Jul 09
Yes.I do.Because my type can't keep my feel or my face to someone who make me angry.I think,she/he have to know.I can't hide my feel.I don't care that they might scared.the important for me is we have to know the truth or make the problem clear.
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
10 Jul 09
I agree wth your 2nd thought as i do the same if iam angry with someone and i never scared or afraid of them to express my anger on them but i dont want to make them huret with my worst talk and behaviour as i always do when iam angry.
@ladysakurax (1163)
• Canada
10 Jul 09
I think it's important to let the person know. What happens if the person does the same thing again ? Some people forget that they aren't alone in an island...there are many people around them and they aren't considerate to others. They will keep on walking over your head so you have to stand up for yourself. I always say to the person: I would apppreciate it if you don't do this again..i don't like it. I think it tones things down and scares less. If it's someone I rarely see, I wouldn't other. But people I would meet on daily basis or whom I see often is a necessity to be honest. cheers :)
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
Oh, I don't have to tell someone I am angry with him or her because people are almost always able to tell if I am angry or not. People will always see it in my eyes if I am angry. If looks could kill, I might have already killed a lot of people with my stabbing look whenever I am angry. Does that sound scary? Hahaha...
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
i sometimes let them know i'm angry. For a close friend, i will tell him/her nicely. By telling him/her what's wrong. It's inevitable for someone not to get uneasy when you just told him that you're angry. But for a stranger, i just won't mind him.