Is Cheating Worth It?

United States
July 10, 2009 5:10pm CST
Hey Mylot, I was thinking of the homicide-suicide case of the famous football player (Steve McNair) that just recently happened. He had a wife and four children, and he had a girlfriend. It was stated that his girlfriend killed him and then killed herself because she thought that he was also cheating on her. I think this is a really messed up situation to be in. I would never wish this on anyone. But do you all believe that he deserved this because he was being unfaithful? Do you think cheating is worth the possible consequences? I know that this is an extreme case. But other individuals do end up being hurt by some other cause. And what would you do if you found out your spouse was cheating on you? Let me know your thoughts...
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@andy77e (5170)
• United States
11 Jul 09
It's not up to me to determine if he deserved it. I am one that believes that you reap what you sow. If you do evil, evil will be done to you. Not a karma belief, but simply that G-d allows evil to happen to evil. Is it worth the consequences? I suppose that's up to the person considering it. In my case, absolutely not. I wouldn't be able to look at myself in the morning, let alone the rest of the fall out. If my spouse was cheating on me, I would remain as I am and continue to be the best husband I could be. That would not be easy, nor would I pretend it wasn't a big deal. But I keep my word as best I can. If I promised for richer for poorer, sickness and in health, for better or worse... then that is what I promised.
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• United States
11 Jul 09
I respect what you are saying, but if my husband cheated on me I would try to get to the root of the problem but I would possibly end up leaving him. We would have made our vows before God but I believe adultrey is a case for divorce. I don't think that individuals should get divorced over every little thing, but something as big as this, I would not blame them. Of course it is up to those two individuals to work it out. If the they get past it then that is good as well.
@andy77e (5170)
• United States
11 Jul 09
I understand. That was simply what I would do. I know others that divorced for that reason, and claimed they had the right to. That's their deal. This is mine. Everyone must do as they believe G-d would want them to.
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@spison (26)
• India
11 Jul 09
friend what can a person do if get finds out that his partner is cheating on him/her. the best was is communication,if theres a communiaction and understanding between both of them we can discuss this issue and we should see whether the relationship is going sum where or just a fake and if any one is not agreeing witht the other then theres nothin but to be apart thats the best thing to do and i will also do the same thing, whts the use if ur partner is cheating on you,we can forgive them one time but not eveytime.
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• United States
11 Jul 09
Yes, I don't think I'd be able to be with my partner he if constantly cheated on me.
@uicbear (1903)
• United States
11 Jul 09
I really don't understand cheating on someone. For starters, if you don't want to be faithful to one person, don't get married. It's just that simple in my mind. So when you wrote, he had a wife and four children AND a girlfriend, my blood started to boil. So you can now carry this thinking over to having a commited relationship, if you want to date more than one person, you better make sure the people you are dating know that you are seeing other people. Don't make it seem that they are your one and only. I can see how the "girlfriend" in this case would be suspicious of him "cheating" on her, since he was already cheating on his wife with her. It's just messed up. But did he deserve to die for it? No. A good swift kick and a trip to divorce court would have probably done it for me.
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• United States
11 Jul 09
Yep, I couldn't have sait it any better.
@choang (36)
• United States
11 Jul 09
this was a very sad story. I dont think that he deserved it at all. No one deserves to have their life taken away from them. Especially over being unfaithful. She should havev just broken up with him. She took his life as well as her own over something that was not worth it at all. Yes, it was wrong of him to be unfaithful but not worth dieing for. If i found out that my spouse was cheating on me, I would just confront him about it and break up with him. if someone cheats on you them they are obviously not good enough to be with you.
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• United States
11 Jul 09
Yes, I would do the same. I dont feel that I need to harm someone because they don't think I am good enough for them. It is much better to leave with your dignity.
@iriscot (1290)
• United States
11 Jul 09
Why was McNair cheating on his wife and family? How come so many professional athletes believe that they can do "no wrong" regardless of what they do? We have to remember that those with exeptional athletic talent are put on a pedestal early in life, and they believe they can get by with anything they decide to do. We see this happening with politicians, movie stars and those that are idealized. We, of the "common folk" will probably never understand those who seem so great. McNair's case is in the headlines now, before him it was Governor Sanford, who is next on the list. Regardless of what kind of home life McNair had I really feel sorry for the kids and his wife, they will have to live with this the rest of their lives.
• United States
11 Jul 09
This is true. Oftentimes, these people are placed higher than everyone else, which is due to them being in the spotlight. I definitely do feel sorry for the family though because the children have lost their father.
@piya84 (2591)
• India
11 Jul 09
I heard about this case i felt bad for him.Cheating is not good.It can not be justified with any reason.But still its unfair to take someones life for cheating.I guess his girlfriend was psycho.
• United States
11 Jul 09
Yes, I agree. Cheating can't truly be justified because you always have other options (leaving the partner, etc). I just wish he did not end up in the situation that he did for the sake of his children.
• United States
11 Jul 09
Cheating hurt all involed. Its always a lot to loose. My guy cheated on me and a part of me has not been ok since it happen. Before you cheat i think you should think of what you could loose.
• United States
11 Jul 09
Yes, I definitely agree with your statement. I think people really should think about their actions before they do it. They never know what may happen and all the hurt that they can cause.