How will you twll your family that you are a lesbian?

Canada
July 11, 2009 1:34am CST
It all started when I was in elementary where we were not allowed to mingle with boys. I had alot of friends and got interest with sports instead of dancing and singing. We were three girls in a row and my parents gave us everything we want during that time... even the clothes we want to wear but not with me... At a very young age, my parents felt that my younger sister has a boyish style and attitude and they let her grew that way. At first, I felt life was so unfair because I cannot even tell my parents that I also want to wear pants and not dress or skirt. Many years have passed, both my younger sisters became lesbians and they were accepted in or family... Now, how can I tell them that I am jsut like my sisters? I had relationships with girls without anyone knowing about it. I secretly kept myself in a shell and just tried to have a boy-girl relationships. However, they never last that long... Until I met this guy that I thought would change my life... would change my mind and will of heart... Our relationship being partners lasted for 2 years until I got pregnant... I proved myself that I am a woman and will forget about my past identity... We had a child and my family loved him so dearly... On the other hand.. maybe it's true that a lesbian will always be a lesbian...
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5 responses
• United States
19 Jul 09
I am still trying to tell my family but I dont think that I would be accepted. Theres a passion I have for females that I could meet a man that could change it but I will always love a woman. After relationships and hookups its the best Ive ever had and I dont think that you are completely straight either. Do you still look at women like you did before?
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
I am not sure what to say since am a guy. but i think it was like you have suppressed that part of yourself that you also want the most. the part of being lesbian probably something that you didn't do in your past life, that's probably why you're wanting and craving it now. simply do your best to forget it and focus on taking care of your child. because sometimes, we just can't get back the ones we miss in our past events. i know i could have, but there's no turning back. not saying that am gay, am not. just can't bring back the things that we mostly want to do..at least not all of them/.
• India
11 Jul 09
Well, are you really a lesbian or do you only think you are one? There is a difference between the two, you see. How is your married life? If you are having a satisfying relationship with your husband; yet find yourself dreaming of a lesbian relationship, you could be both, couldn't you? I don't think there is anything wrong in talking this out with your family, provided they are broad minded and won't be shocked about it. Do talk it over; at the same time, do some serious soul searching too in order to find out what you really want. Cheers and happy Mylotting
@devmitra (274)
• India
11 Jul 09
relationships are meant,as to my belief fr an emotional support.they are there to make you feel,that you are not alone.you were trying to find that emotional solace in girls owing to proximity with them,which doesnt mean you are lesbian at all..im happy fr you,that you have gt yr love back..all the best fr life..
@Ammudoll (549)
• India
11 Jul 09
Oh please don't think that you are a lesbian, you are 100% a woman and have given birth to a child. I hope your husband must be very nice person and good at heart. More importantly when you have found some one who is romantic then your are very lucky in your married life. Even in my school girls used to sit in a seperate class and I never had such intentions or thouhgts to build relationship with girls. I always had feelings on men only. If we feel and motivate ourselvesthat I am woman and I don't like to move woth woman then you can completely forget about it.