In your personal life, do you always have all the answers?

@Citychic (4078)
United States
July 11, 2009 4:22pm CST
Hey friends, I'm a little bit confused and would like to know if any of you out there have had a time in your personal life, where you felt confused and you didn't know what to do about a certain person that was in your life. For example at first you felt like you loved them but then they did something to make you mad. So you decided to try to find love somewhere else. Then when you looked somewhere else, it was the wrong thing. So what did you do?What would you do if you were in this situation?
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@savypat (20246)
• United States
11 Jul 09
Time to get out pen and paper and make some lists for yourself, sounds like you are reacting emotionally instead of with a cool head. Any situation, list good things and bad things, then take a good look and make a choice. blessings
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@Citychic (4078)
• United States
12 Jul 09
Personal issues........ Thanks for your response Savypat, you give very good advice. I think that some renegotiating might be in order. Life does have cycles and changes and we must be willing and ready to change with them. Happy mylot and keep on mylotting, you are really good at this.......
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• Philippines
11 Jul 09
In that situation, you just get mad and walked away. I t never tells you that you totally lost your feelings to that person. Give it a chance. Find that person again. Life has never ending cycle of events. Do the things that will make you happy. Find him.
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@Citychic (4078)
• United States
12 Jul 09
Personal issues......... Will consider the advice that you've given vined_pards and thank you for giving it. Just that alot of time passes when one is in the undecided stages and things happen and I guess that's just life. But will have to wait and see after renegotiating takes place. We negotiate on everything else in our lives, right, why not in our relationships? Happy mylot!2
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@sjvenden27 (1850)
• United States
12 Jul 09
Yeppers that is a definite thing.. I get confused on how to handle certain situations... I am use to some else telling how I should feel what I should do..etc... now that I am away from those influences, it can get rather confusing or questioning my own judgment.. I would have to say that in the past I was extremely hard on my sister... I was very judgmental.. And sometimes out right rude... I do not do that as much anymore.. I have learned by the wrath of my ways.. It is better to just talk to someone versus condemn them or criticize them... At the time I thought that I was helping my sister, I was not trying to hurt her.. Now realizing that my intentions were right, but the way I expressed my concerns for my sister were completely whacked...
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@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
12 Jul 09
Just now I responded to your temptation question. Now to be frank even after my marriage I felt I was attracted to a couple of girls and knew they too were but I pulled the cart and let it go without a driver and now I am ok. Do not know what the morrow would bring me.
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@trinale (1480)
• United States
12 Jul 09
WOW! This a deep one. Ok, to answer your initial question...do I always have all the answers? The answer to that question for me, you and everyone else is YES. It just takes some of us longer to get that right answer. Age, experience and maturity are factors that need to be accounted for with each individual. Now, using this scenario: "at first you felt like you loved them but then they did something to make you mad. So you decided to try to find love somewhere else. Then when you looked somewhere else, it was the wrong thing." Well let's see, 30-35 years ago, I may have done the same thing you did, get upset and move on to find something better on the other side of the fence. Now, I understand we both are going to occasionally do or say things that make the other angry and deal with it through communication. If so reason, the scenario didn't go down that way and I "went looking elsewhere" and realized I was wrong. I'd be right back apologizing all over the place for my part in it and pray I'll be taking back. You say in the scenario, you were confused, but you didn't mention how long you were in that state before making the decision to look elsewhere. The best thing one can always do is make decisions with a clear head. Cheers, Stan
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@EliteUser (3971)
• Australia
28 Sep 09
Hey, I don't think that in our personal life, we have the answer. I think that we always need to be on the look out with our eyes peeled, because we need to look to life for the answers. I wouldn't know what to do in your situation. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
• United States
12 Jul 09
If it only took you to get mad to go check out the grass on the other side of the fence, then you should look at your idea of a relationship is. It isn't all just fun, always going good. I don't know what made you upset but if it was enough to send you walking then you need to "Stop" "Think about it all, why, what for's, expectations, reality, etc. Then push the "Start" button again.