Moving up from friend?

United States
July 11, 2009 11:49pm CST
I met this girl in one of my classes whose really cool. I've spent time with her, took her on a couple dates, but haven't told her I have a crush on her. Now over the summer, we decided to see each other (we normally live about 2 hours apart when we're not at college). The week before I went up to see her, she got back with her ex, but still said she was excited to see me. Now I'm still keeping up the friendship, but I'm trying to figure out what to do. If she breaks up with him, when should I tell her my feelings for her? Or is it too late? How do I not mess up a friendship while still trying to pursue more than friendship? This is all so confusing.
5 responses
@x_Jo_x (1040)
12 Jul 09
I think you should think about telling her how you feel, regardless of if she has a bf or not. There is no harm in telling her how you feel, the worst that will happen is that she doesnt feel the same way. But at least she knows and can make a desicion. It sounds to me like she really likes you, and i think you should go for it! Just make sure that you tell her very nicely. Make sure you say you dont want it to ruin the friendship, and above all else you want to be her friend. But just say lately youve been starting to have some other feelings for her and you were just wondering if she had been feeling the same. Dont go up to her and say "I am totally in love with you!!" if she has another bf and you are unsure of her feelings, although that is a great thing to do and as a girl, i would love it if a guy i liked said that to me. But just so you dont ruin the friendship, try and keep it more simple. Try and slip this topic into a normal conversation somehow maybe. Good luck!! Hope she feels the same way! let me know how you get on
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@nigarish (70)
• India
12 Jul 09
"hey friend don't get so much messed up......i will give you very simple tips and tricks to make any girls of your choice for a date......but it doesn't means i don't respect the true feelings......first thing i want you to do is "u have to just confirm it first that are you really serious for that girl or not .....and if you really are than that girl will realize it soon...girls and women are very sensitive at heart and they can feel the true feelings of men...so friend my technique is just very simple but it requires patience from you.....first thing don't propose her till she is having her ex.....just spend more and more time with her....but remember you have u spend your time more than her ex do.....this will make her to think about you every time (at least she will think more about you than her ex)....when she again get break up with her ex...then you get more near to her....and realize the best time..and propose her......propose means don't ask her that you love her......you have to just talk about your feeling for her....fallow these steps ,there are 90%chances that you will able to get her........"best of luck my friend
• United States
12 Jul 09
this doesnt help!
• India
12 Jul 09
dudes i asked you be just patience.....i am telling you it will work ..........love is all about timing if you want to win.......may be you want quick results......i tell you seriously man your curiosity doesn't gonna work on her......just make some space in her heart........lets play a prank to your fren.......go to her tommorow and just ask ker that you love her......and after it don't wait for her reply and move from there.....just don't talk her 1 day.....don't meet her, don't recieve her calls......next day talk her......if you find her attitude is positive than move up your relation .......and if the above thing doesn't happen than ask her that you have a bet with me to make a prank of best friend(her).......hws that??????????
@msedge (4011)
• United States
12 Jul 09
Expressing your real feelings is the best thing you can do and be prepared whatever answer she would have.Regrets always at the end so you can avoid it by not keeping what you feel for her.I believe that love started in friendship and develope into a special feelings.Take it from me,thats how my husband and i ended up in marriage.
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
12 Jul 09
this kind of situations happened most of the time and i don't think it's confusing unless both of you guys aren't single anymore... it was never too late because it's plain too obvious that she has interest of you because if not, she wouldn't waste her precious time just to have dates with you. if the girl is very open-minded, i don't think she'll get mad at you if you'll confess your feelings for her. anyways, there's no harm in trying... :) so just informed her in a nice and decent way. i know your intention to be with her is good
• United States
12 Jul 09
Maybe she just wants to be friends. I know, i have been in the same situation, kinda. I have a friend that i want to go further with, but to my knowledge she doesnt, She just wants to be friends. its hard. I think you should tell her, but not when her x bf is there. I think the rest is for you to do. Dont listen to me though this is just my opinion. Hope this helps!