Do you believe in second chance?

@ucue2008 (926)
Malaysia
July 12, 2009 11:52pm CST
I do actually, but it hard, really hard. I'm kind a person who can easily accepted people apology, but the thing is, I know that person behaviour, and attitude and she will hardly change. It like this, this person has hurt me countless of times and last week, I saw she tried to do a small talk with me, but I ignore it totally. I know it wrong for me to do that, but I'm afraid of the risk, if i give her chance, she will still be like the old she. My friend told me she only be nice to me because she has intention. Even though I rarely talk to her and even when we meet, i will look down and still she has nerve to borrow my stuff and make faces when she saw something that she don't like. What should I do?
5 responses
• Philippines
13 Jul 09
i think second chances should be given to each and anyone of us. in my experience, i've done so many bad things that i couldn't how many - not the worst ones though - but enough to break good relationships from friends to relatives. but when it's in your heart to forgive, when you give that person the second chance, i think he/she values it. though sorry will never erase all the hurts that have been caused but at least it will be a constant reminder for that someone to never do it again for life is short and we can never tell what lies ahead of us. as for some situations, some peole are heedful on who REALLY deserves a second chance because some will just repeat what they do because they know that person will give them a second chance. but isn't God like that too? never gets tired of second chances. but what i can say safely is that, whatever is in your heart, follow it. =) try to be good even if others are not. =) cheers!
@ucue2008 (926)
• Malaysia
13 Jul 09
Thank you for the response. Yes I agree with u, but it hard to give second chance, afraid of the risk involved, like being more hurting . Thank you
@EliteUser (3971)
• Australia
28 Sep 09
Hey, Yes of course, I like to give people a second chance. I do accept peoples apologies, but yea as you have said, if their attitude will hardly change, then I don't really see much point in a second chance, because they might just do it again. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
@buping (954)
• China
16 Sep 09
for me, it depends on how importance she means to you. i know that it hard for someone to change behavior and attitude. but if she is very close to you, even she did something wrong, you could give her another chance.
@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
13 Jul 09
Yes. Everyone of us deserves a second chance if that person really want something changes toward the person he/she owes something. I think "second chance" would be the yard stick if she/he deserves it really. Well, if nothing would be changed after the second chance you can impose harsh and more heavier action to let her/him know you mean really something..good luck for it..
• Canada
13 Jul 09
For me, it depends on whether they understand what they did wrong? In other words, they get that acting a certain way is wrong, and won't do it again, instead of just being sorry that they hurt your feelings (and got caught).