Please do not scold children at meals or on bed.
By Zhu Huifen
July 20, 2009 7:49am CST
We have limited time to be with our children. I see very often at meals children do not have appetite any more when scolded by parents. It is not good for digestion, and will leave negative effect on his proper dining manners. The same is true with sleeping. Please control yourself, and have proper communication with children in good time.
21 Jul 09
I always try to hold myself during dinner time and his bedtime. Im with him everyday and of course, it's stressfull to handle him specially on his age now. Always wanted an attention and always wanted to get what he wants. But i still be patience, so it never spoilt his dinner, but i didn't know it would have a negative effect on his digestion. Thanks to you! happy posting.
• Guangzhou, China
20 Jul 09
You are quite right. Actually most of the time my son doesn't behave well when he has the meal. He finishes his food slowly. Sometimes I am really impatient to it. He is five years old. He shall finish food sooner. I try to be nice and remind him to finish his meal, rather than playing or watching TV. He says yes but he doesn't take an action. Sometimes it will drive me crazy and he feels bad. I feel bad, too. But I really hope he can finish his meal and I don't have to say it to him again and again. My intention is good but he may not understand now. I love China
20 Jul 09
Thank you or your good advise and i never scold them at dinner and bed time as what you feel is cent percent correct and it happens very oftenly with kids only as they thing very deeply over the matter which hurts them alot.
20 Jul 09
Yeah, I do agree with you as sometimes the children just react that way to attract out attention. After a long day at the office without seing them, what would be more sad than to scold them when you first met them at the dining table or perhaps just before they go to bed. What they need are hugs, kisses, brief attention and for their parents to hear their stories, problem or maybe just a mere kids jokes. :-) Happy mylotting...
• United States
21 Jul 09
Thank you for the great advice, warning and most of all :=) thank you =) for always putting kids first above all else. This brings me back to some bad child home times, As I child I always fear meal time, because I get scolded and could not leave the table. I forget the pain now that I am a mother myself, the only time we have any family time is dinner time. We take this time to talk about our day etc, but my son seems to take this time to rudely speak to us about what ever it is. But after reading your message, I realize I have wasted valuable time during dinner time. Tonight dinner time will be different. Thanks for the reminder, children are our future and we should let them know their existence are important to us parents.
23 Jul 09
gosh. i kept on doing that with my two boys. they're too hard headed specially my eldest son. i dont know why the things i prohibited are the things he wants to do. grrrr honestly im tired of him. i know he's my son, he is my obligation. though i love so much thats why im telling him the things whats best and good for him.
23 Jul 09
Thank you very much for bringing this up. I greatly appreciate your thought. This will greatly help me in dealing with daughters from now on. You see, I have a teenage daughter and I have been having a hard time dealing with her. But recently, I've been adjusting to my role, and she is cooperating. I just want her to enjoy her youth, because I wasn't happy in my teenage years. I'm trying hard to make her happy. Nobody really is an expert to this matter but any ideas and suggestions from your fellow parents are a great help. Thanks again!