more than a good provider

@cainam (493)
Philippines
July 21, 2009 10:39pm CST
i'm already 25 but i still don't have a stable job and my boyfriend is very irresponsible which makes things worst. i already want to have a family of my own but i just thought of having children and raise them on my own as a single mother but would it be enough if i could provide them with their financial needs and will seldom be with them coz i have to work most of the time?.. i'm even planning to go abroad and come back only when i have enough savings to put up a business in our counrty and stay for good. i'm sure that my parents will look after my children while i'm away but i'm still bothered if that is a good plan.. pls make some advice. tnx
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6 responses
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
3 Apr 10
Well, i really understand the way you feel about things. I appreciate your attitude on living a responsible life by working hard. I advice you to concentrate on your work, go abroad, get enough savings and then have a kid. May be 2 years you work hard and get married at 27. This is how my wife plaaned and we are both happily married now.
• Philippines
3 Apr 10
i agree with you besthope. At 25 you're still young to get married. You should work first and have some savings before you start a family. For me your idea of being a single mom doesn't look good. Children should have both their parents. Yes! I agree too that you can support financially if you go abroad but can you provide their needs emotionally? the growth of its child emotionally is very important too because if you can't be there for them it will affect them in the future as they grow older. you can go abroad for two to four years and you can have enough of what you need. Then you can marry by then. After that you can have children and can provide them both emotionally and financially. May God bless you on whatever decisions you make in your life. Have a nice day.
@KrauseHome (35341)
• United States
26 Jul 09
Personally in my opinion I would be thinking twice about starting a family without having a Good man to help support them. And I would be filling your parents in on your thoughts and plans as well, as they may not be so willing to be for your plans either. You need to remember having children is a lot of responsibility and can be quite expensive so you need to plan accordingly and see if it is something that is really something you need to be doing as well.
@rberon1985 (5394)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
I have checked your profile and I found out that you a filipino. There is no money here in our country. It is really hard to look for a job. If you are not going to strive, nothing will happen to you. In your concern,if you think your boyfriend will not be a good provider, there is no reason for him to stay in your life. You can inform him of that. We are not getting younger, but getting older. It is a good idea that you have the decision of going abroad. just avoid having to be scammed by agencies. hope this help. may you have a great day!
• Malaysia
22 Jul 09
hi cainam having children is a big responsibility .. it is not good to just dumb your chilren to your parents during the most difficult period (baby) .. First of all if your sincerly seeking advise, dumb that irresponsible man and get a better one to father your child ... Both of you can work in your own country and save money and share responsibility ... You can then send the children to your mothers place only while your both are busy at work .. cheers
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
if you want to start a family with your bf,then think it over many,many,many times.can you stand as a provider for both of you?will it be ok with him if he stays at home and take care of the children?if you want to be a single mother,can you provide well for them?will you be working well abroad if you have children left behind in the country?think it over for many times and see the practical side of things.
@happy6162 (3011)
• United States
22 Jul 09
maybe you should go abroad and save your money. then you can come back and start your own business. after your business start making money you could then have a family as you will be the boss you can take off to spend time with your children. how does this sound to you?