Do you have ever fallen in love? How do you have said those 3 words to her/him?

India
July 22, 2009 1:14pm CST
Do you have ever fallen in love? If yes then who appears first, you or your partner. How do you have said those 3 words to her/him?
4 responses
• United States
26 Jul 09
I have been in love twice in my life. The first time with my now ex-husband, and the second with my current boyfriend. The first time, i coudln't tell you who said it to whom first. But the second time, he definately said it first. I think i was so scared to fall in love again after being so hurt the first time. After my current boyfriend and i had been dating for a little while, he eventually told me he loved me. I was so shocked at first, and scared, i didn't know waht to say, i actually think i started crying a little bit, and responded by telling him that i cared for him a great deal, and loved spending time with him. I continued rambling and said somethings about hoping it woudln't be weird or awkward or change things between us if i coudln't say that i felt the same way at that point in time, as i just coudln't say it if i wasn't sure i meant it yet....he just smiled at me and said, it's ok, i am not trying to force you into it, i know you care about me, i can see it in your eyes. You don't have to say anything in return if it makes you uncomfortable. It was at least a few more weeks, if not a month before i finaly realized...i do love him..i should tell him. So what it i had been hurt in the past. That was the past, with someone else, and this is now. If we can't admit how we really feel, it is just lying to ourselves, not to mention to them. I think i thought that if i didn't say it outloud, it wasn't real, and if it wasn't real, there was no way it could hurt me in the future. But then i realized that even if i never said it outloud, and our relationship were to come to an end, it would still hurt. So what was the point of not telling him how i really felt?
• United States
26 Jul 09
I fell in love at first sight with the man who is now my husband almost five years ago. But it was so scary because I hadn't even believed in it until I went through it, and I had no idea he felt the same. So I waited a week before I couldn't take not telling him any longer, and in a love note I wrote to him, at the bottom I put, "Mi amor" (Spanish for "my love") in some sentence. (I'd have to find his love note binder with all my notes in it to see in what context it was.) He read the note in front of me and once he was at the bottom, I asked him, "Do you know what that means?" He said thought he did, and gave me a note that simply said, "I love you..." It's such a sweet memory because both of us were so scared that we'd scare the other away since it was so soon. Now we can't tell each other enough. We even have little love songs we've made up that we sing randomly to one another. We are such dorks together because we let our love just make us silly. :)
• United States
22 Jul 09
Well, being a women I don't say the three words first. I wait for the guy to do it. The reason for this is, that you don't want to blurt it out and make a man feel uncomfortable. Guys get uncomfortable real quick when you talk about feelings and they don't feel the same way. So, I am willing to say it as long as the guy said it first. After the first time...then I say it whenever.
@babshish (1390)
• India
22 Jul 09
Well, everyone fall in love in his/her life at some time, the only difference is that some are able to express their feeling and say those three words " I Love You" and some are unalbe to express their feelings ( there can be many reason for this). As for me, yes I have fallen in love and luckly married to same women, so I do tell her these three magic words and I also tell this three magic words to my one and half year old baby. And I do really mean it.