Who is more excited about getting married.... Men or women?

@tjades (3592)
Jamaica
July 22, 2009 8:35pm CST
I was surfing the net just now when I came across a blog where the guy stated that he was engaged to a beautiful woman he wanted to spend the rest of his life with. His concern: He has sought advice from married people he knows but the comments he gets are not encouraging. These include comments such as: he shouldnt do it... He's screwed now... and that he should not have gottten engaged at all. Based on the nature of those comments I figure they are all coming from men. To add to that I have spoken to a few guys who say they were not ready to get married when they did but felt forced by circumstances or their partner. Seems that many guys are not that anxious about tying the knot whereas we women are usually beside ourselves with joy and elation. (Sometimes I doubt what guys really expect from women.) I mean do they expect a woman to share herself with them until they feel its time to either marry her or dump her? I definately would hate to think I got marrried to a guy who felt he was forced into the marriage but I wouldnt want to have a guy feel he can have things his way until he decides when to really stay or leave (if you get what I mean). Men (mind you not all are like this) they tend to want to enjoy themselves and women are a big part of that enjoyment. What do you think though? What are your observations.... Who is more excited about getting marride.... Men or women? What are your thoughts onthis?
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@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
23 Jul 09
Hi tjades, I am not proud to say that guys have a tendency to 'scare' off their mates whenever they are going to settle down. This is especially different from ladies, whom would be nothing but supportive towards their bride-to-be friends. I think it's the moment when most guys would dread because marriage for most means the answer to being committed, being tied down with the lady that one love and would have more commitments so to speak. Like no more guy to guy hang-outs the much, everything to be done must be with the notion that there is someone new in the life and stuff like that.. It's a different feeling for ladies, I would mostly think so, because marriage is the best reason that could ever happen. But of course guys are more than happy to find 'The One'. It's just that there's an underlying and under-current understanding or secret message or radar between guys which says something like 'That's it!'.. Some take it well but some don't. But most have done better after marriage and accepting the fact that their mates are no longer part of their major lives and that they have someone to love and to love them.. Therefore, to answer your discussion, I would say both are excited to get married, only that guys take a longer time to digest it..
@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
23 Jul 09
I must say I like your spin on the topic. I guess many men really do take longer to digest and absorb marriage and all the things which comes with it. Thanks as usual for sharing Zed
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@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
24 Jul 09
It's my most pleasure, tjades..
@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
25 Jul 09
Thanks so much for the BR, tjades..
@yugasini (12836)
• Anantapur, India
23 Jul 09
hi tjades, both men and women excited with marriage ,marriage is leagal so no worry and other things to fear...have a nice day
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
23 Jul 09
And that it is... Thanks for sharing yugasini
@yugasini (12836)
• Anantapur, India
24 Jul 09
hi,tjades, thanks for the comment...have a nice day
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• United States
23 Jul 09
I agree with you. I think women are more excited about marriage than men. But in my case it is the other way around. He wants to get married and I think I feel a little pressure. So I guess it all depends on the person and how they feel about each other.
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
23 Jul 09
Ha... Reaction fromthe other side of the fence. I wonder how many women ever felt pressured by the man to tie the knot. Now that would be interesting. Thanks for sharing and sparking another interest here Jamiegurl.
• United States
23 Jul 09
no problem...lol
@Sweeten (159)
• United States
23 Jul 09
I think it would depend on the people in the relationship. In general youd think both men and women would be equally excited, although this doesnt happen often it seems. If i had to choose one it would be the women that appear more excited.
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
23 Jul 09
Most people seem to be of the same opinion and that is the one i have chosen as well. Thanks for sharing and happy mylotting
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
23 Jul 09
I think women are more excited about b/c they tend to dream about that day the whole time they are growing up. Men just kind of go along with it. I know when Hubby and I got married I was more nervous than anything and just wanted it over with. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
23 Jul 09
Thats the typicalfemale reactiin which I am used to. I must admit though that I have seen some pretty nervy men at the alter especcially when the bride takes some time to get there. I guess we both feel some level of apprehension but more so the woman. Thanks as always for sharing Twoey.
@jlamela (4908)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Based from other people's testimony, girls are more excited to be married than boys. Women are always on cloud 9 when marriage is the topic but men always cringe maybe because of some financial issues which traditionally bother men..hehehe
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
23 Jul 09
Thats true. I guess a guys reaction is imfluenced by different things. Thanks for sharing jlamela
@psphacker (1054)
• United States
23 Jul 09
In my opinion men are more excited about getting married with a women.
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@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
23 Jul 09
I'll tell you this much.... You are one of the few men I would have ever heard that from. Thanks for sharing.
@sizzle3000 (3039)
• United States
23 Jul 09
I think that men are happy that they are getting married but I do not think they have the same excitement that a woman does. You see as little girls we dream of the day we get married. We think of the dress and the lovely flowers. Little girls practice walking down the isle when playing with their friends. Little girls seem to spend more time thinking about their big day. Some girls think of having a small wedding while others grow up looking forward to a large wedding with all the bells and wistles. In the same aspect little boys are busy thinking about cars and school and making money. When they get older they think of having someone by their side to share their good fortune with. They even think of the physical benefits to marriage. So it is my opinion that boys are raised to think about marriage in a different way than little girls. I can honestly say that when I got married my husband was glad that we were getting married but he did not get all excited about the cake and dress. I went with girlfriends to find my dress and flowers. I also picked out most of the wedding arrangements myself as well. My husband thought his only job was to show up and say I do. Well, he did show up and he did say I do and we have been happily married for over twenty years. My daughter is now looking forward to getting married next year and her boyfriend just lets her pick all the stuff out for the wedding. When we were looking at the wedding glasses he watched her pick out what she liked, then he said yes he liked them as well. I think he is just letting her have her way because it means more to her than him. This doesn't mean he loves her less or that he doesn't want to get married. In my opinion it is just a man thing.
@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
23 Jul 09
I like your response. It does put into perspective how men tend to view marriages based on their upbringing. Thanks for sharing Sizzle