Am I going to continue being a third party?

Hello there , What do you mean by committed? He had a fiancee or he is married. If he has a girlfriend and he loves you,just like what you have said,he should need to make a choice between you and his present girlfriend.Just think about this,you can't start a relationship as yourself being the third party.A relationship must be a legal one,if he can't be faithful to his present girlfriend,do you think he can be faithful to you either? And if he is a married guy,well,why not search for someone whom you can call your own my dear?You know very well that you can be a homewrecker. ....Never start a relationship with a forbidden one,you will likely not to be happy at the end... A relationship must be founded with love,trust and faithfulness,ot else...it is not love,but maybe just lust. Have a good day my friend

i understand how you feel. the question here is how long will you wait? What is the agreement of the two of you? Will you still remain as lovers or what? you should clarify it to him. There are lots of people around.Why not try loving other person. Why will you continue loving a person who will continue to hurt you. If you can still ease the pain, go ahead, but how long will you ease the pain. Be open minded. Open your heart to other people. thanks for sharing and may you have a great night!

i think it's a very dangerous relationship and also very painful. no matter to you, and the another two people who are involved. I don't think love could be a competition or fight. if i were you i would quit first to see what will happen. from your side you maybe find another person worth your love, for you boyfriend maybe he would find who he really loves. also i think you should look at your boyfriend again and seriously. Do you still believe he loves you? if he does how can he made you in this situation. it's not fair to you. you are innocent. anyway, my suggestion is too cool down the relatioship first, and find another world to see.

I guess my impression is that you're gay right? well, if you want to talk about that with him, i suggest you pressure him to do so. otherwise, you can't just wait for him forever, there's a lot of guys out there probably waiting for you. . try to date other people since you're the third party, you might another attraction with some one..just an advice.

Hi kelvin I totally know how you feel. Because I'd already experience that kind of scenario. I was totally devastated. I never thought that I'll fall with someone who's already committed for years. It is not they're already married or something. Both of us were still studying that time [college]. He's not my type but the thing is we have a lot of things in common. We started texting. We get so close to the point that we have pet names and we're still talking till dawn everyday. I get used to it. It's like his my boyfriend but he's not. We talked a lot. Everything is mutual. I found out that Im already fall for him. And I am sure he is the same way. We never exchange I love you nor confirmed it. But you know how love is, totally strong you can sense it. And yet ours is so strong. I know from the very beginning that he's committed. But I just can't help it. It is terrible for me. It is not worthy. So I give up the friendship we have and the unknown relationship. Because I can feel that he's thinking of ending his relationship with the girl. The girl is a the cousin of my close friend that's why all of the time I was fighting alone. Can't tell it to my friends. At the end, I give up. because it is the right thing to do. [sorry this is long, I just want you to feel and for you to know that I really do feel the same way before] For you, kelvin. I dunno. Since for me I end up giving the love. Even he's my first love. If you can fight that feeling, go on. If he can fight for you, take the risks. If he's really in love with u, then both of you should fight. Because in this situation no one can fight alone. But think first. Is it worthy?

Kelvin, i think you are having an infatuation...think about it and do not let your felings get you carried away

[b][/b]Sometimes we have to choose between right and wrong, you know it's wrong to fall in love with a committed person but still you continued because you follow what your heart dictates you, but hurting deep inside at the same time, because of guilt and knowing you will never have him completely. You are the only one who can decide for yourself if you are ready to accept things as they are or take a new leap and look for someone you can love and call your own. Good luck kelvin!

Hi Kelvin, I think most of us reading your post have been disappointed if not down right divastated from a relationship gone bad. You are in a hopeless situation here. I would always ask my friends, who found themselves in the type of love affair, this question? you love him, he loves himself,who loves you? You both were wrong for getting involved before he was free, doesn't look as if he wants to be free or promised you that he was going to be. He has a soft place to land, (his "committed" relationship),when your relationship ends,do you? You must love yourself enough to let go, which won't be easy if your feels a deep, and replace those feelings with out projects and other people, not necessary a love affair. You can do this, letting go, it has been done before.