How is your relationship with your mother in law?

Indonesia
July 27, 2009 10:13pm CST
After you get married, do you feel your mother in law is like your mother? Can you close with her? How to overcome a bad relationship with your mother in law?
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@windymyre (210)
• United States
28 Jul 09
I love my MIL! But I also joke it is because I'm in Michigan & she's in Arizona! She came here for a visit in 2005 & we got along great. She complimented me on the flowers in my yard. Then we had to rush to AZ last year when she had a heart attack. We stayed in her house while she was in the hospital. She didn't mind us staying there one bit, gave us key to her house & car. We took care of her dogs & I paid her bills for her while we were there. She has now put us in charge of those things in the event she becomes ill again. And we have our own set of keys to her house. She is not judgemental at all, even when she knows we are not making the best choices. We talk to her on the phone at least once a week & e-mail all the time.
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• Indonesia
29 Jul 09
That's nice relationship. I am happy for you.
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• Canada
29 Jul 09
She sounds like a real angel. If only all mothers-in-law could be like that. Sadly, if you re-arrange the words "mother in law" it can spell "woman Hitler." LOL Glad your mother in law is not one of those. :)
@2babita (1074)
• India
28 Jul 09
Well,my mother in law was like my mother.I got married very early age when i could not wear my dresses properly.She taught me everythings.I am thankful to her.
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• Indonesia
29 Jul 09
You are lucky I guess. It is very rare a mother in law can treat you like that. Thanks for the comments.
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@med889 (5958)
28 Jul 09
I have a boyfriend and I also know his mother, we have talked many times and if ever she will be my mother in law in the future then I think I will be lucky because she is modern, mature, intelligent and a woman who understand women. I believe I can be very close to her, if ever there is a problem between us then I will perfer my husband and her husband to do not interfere at all as we can solve a problem without too many people interfering between us. I personally thinks I will not encounter too many difficulties with her as she lives far from me and she works so she does not have too much time either like me to quarel.
• Indonesia
29 Jul 09
That's nice. I think you are lucky to have a mother in law like her.
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• India
28 Jul 09
i am close to her from now only that before marriage... so that i could build a good and peaceful relation after marriage ...
• Indonesia
29 Jul 09
That's a nice tip. I mean the relation is built before and after married. But, how to overcome different background and value after getting married relating to take care children, cooking, etc? Thanks.
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@aschip (166)
• India
28 Jul 09
My mother in law is a great person. She is very lively and active kind of a person. She goes trekking in Himalayas every year where she would walk for 10 hours a day for 10 days or so but she is back with all good memories and is ready for next year. She has a great sense of humour and amazing will power. I respect her and love her alot. Our relationship is more of friendship than mother in law-son in law types. I am lucky to get such a cool mother in law :)
• Indonesia
29 Jul 09
Waw.. that's great. I am happy for you. Hope your relationship with your mother in law will continue like this.
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• United States
28 Jul 09
I never been married or anything, but my two older sisters have and their mother in laws are real PITA. They just hate each other, it's like a grudge on someone without bothering to know them. When I'm around them, which isn't often and I do try to stay away, they'll always have something mean to say about everything, I think it really depends what kind of person they are. I just think my sisters are bad luck and ended up with evil mother in laws. lol.
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• Indonesia
29 Jul 09
I am sorry for your sister. I guess you are right it is a kind of luck to find a nice mother in law.
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• Canada
29 Jul 09
Because of the distance, I haven't even met my mother-in-law. We have talked on the phone, though. It would be nice if I could have a bit of a relationship with her. She sounds like a really neat lady. She's in Kentucky USA, and husband and I are both in Ontario Canada.