Which is better for a child?

@themdno (403)
United States
July 30, 2009 12:49am CST
I know a couple, that is married and has two kids, age 3 and 6. The couple really doesn't even like each other, and fight every day. So, they are always angry, and blow up at their kids for doing any little thing wrong. I understand some times you need to be hard on kids, but these kids are never happy, always being yelled at. The main reason why they stay together, is so the kids wont have divorced parents. My other friends and I don't even like to be around them anymore, they fight so much and are always mad about something. If they are apart, they're both cool. Together, they yell and bicker non-stop. This made me think, they stay together for the kids benefit, but what is more important, having both parents together, even if they're constantly fighting, or having divorced parents, but a happy home? My parents are divorced, and I would rather them be apart, than unhappy and fighting all the time. What do you think?
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
Hello themdno, My opinion is,it is rather to get separated rather than staying in one roof yelling and disrespecting each other,As a wife myself,the only thing i got is self-respect.No one can ever give that to me first and foremost but myself.I had 3 kids too,but i choose to get separated.Yes,it is a bad impression for kids to have a divorced/separted parents(broken family). But,what is worst,living together and giving the kids emotional trauma due to shoutings and even giving bad parents image to them.Kids were the victims in here,it is not their fault to suffer such emotional trauma.Such kind of environment will affect them,and will leave traces of unhappy childhood.I would never let my kids suffer emotional stress at very young age.That is why i prefer serapation. Kids will understand the divorced/separation issue when they get older.
@themdno (403)
• United States
30 Jul 09
I agree completely, I wasn't happy my parents divorced when I was young, but now that I'm older I know it was for the best. Thx for the great response.
@ch88ss (2270)
• United States
30 Jul 09
hey thank you for asking the question that has been on my mind for 30 years, then strongly affecting me for the last 5 years. I really want out of my marriage, but have not done so becuase I thought It is better for the kids. i am going to read the rest of the responses to get some more feedback about what is really good for the kids.
@themdno (403)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Wow, sorry to hear that. I think that in most cases, it is best to stay together, even if the couple is unhappy. But, when the kids are always unhappy because of their parents problems, it may be better to leave. Of course, I'm not married, and don't have kids, & I'm sure it's much more difficult to know what to do when you're actually in the situation. Well, good luck, whatever you decide!
@med889 (5958)
30 Jul 09
Having parents who are constantly yelling at each other and fighting on trivial matters everytime says they are still together just for their children then I will prefer the partners to be divorced and explain to the children that they no more can stay together. Like this the children will not be exposed to fightings everyday. And children love their parents so a parent cannot build a nagative image infront of the children.
@ch88ss (2270)
• United States
30 Jul 09
good point.
@Craicha (801)
27 Sep 09
i came from relgious country that divorced here is not allowed....but i agree with you that couple that no longer happy in there married life need to part ways coz why keep there marriage life since theres no more love....if they dnt do divorced then whose gonna suffer there kids hearing the fight /argue , it only gives trauma in the mind of the kids and gives nah healthy in the mind ..:)
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
19 Aug 09
i think it's best if they'll file a divorce... the kids are the ones who's already carrying the burden and surely, it will influenced them as they grow older...
@marguicha (90683)
• Chile
1 Aug 09
I is known that it is best for a child to have divorced parents than to live in a sort of hell. That kind of household can damage them forever. They are subject to psychological traumas even if no one actually hits them. My two daughters are divorced and I´m sure the kids are better than if they had kept a terrible marriage. My grandchildren haven´t lost either parent but their parents are happier human beings and can be then better parents