What Advice Would You Give Your Teenager About Being in a Serious Relationship?

United States
July 30, 2009 12:33pm CST
Today, teenagers get into relationships that are much too serious. The girls seem to fall so deeply in love, they think, with the boys who just want to have fun,so when the relationship dissolves for one reason or another, the girls,sometimes boys, are devastated, sometimes beyond repair. Do you have or know a teenager who is in a much to serious relationship? What advice did you give them about this relationship?
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@ShibbyKid (279)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Well, i am not a parent, just another teen. I have also fallen deep really fast for this boy. But i do something that most wont do because they doubt it will even happen. I guard my heart if he ever decides what "we" had is not real. It helps me get over them a lot faster, no i do not want it to happen but when it does it really helps. I do not cry as much and it is very easy to let them go sometimes. Keep smiling.(:
• United States
31 Jul 09
Hi,ShibbyKid, Nice to hear that you are a strong and intelligent young lady. We all have to suffer some heartaches in our lives, but we can lessen the pain if we realize that there is a possibility that pain will occur. I very happy that you took the time to express your feeling on this topic. Proud of you.
• United States
31 Jul 09
(: Thank you so much. It was a good topic to discuss.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
31 Jul 09
My daughter is not a teenager yet and may well move out of the house by the time she reaches that stage! (lol) I hope that when the time comes for her to experience first love at such a young age that I can give her advice from my own experiences. I fell in love with the man I married seven years later when he was just a boy of sixteen and I was fifteen. We became exclusive to each other immediately and although we were together for years before we married, it didn’t work out and we divorced four and half years later. The reason for the bulk of our problems was immaturity and not being aware what marriage entails and the hard work it requires. The advice I would give to my daughter is how vital it is to become aware of who you are and to consider your wants and needs very important. For me it boiled down to low self esteem. I got so serious about the first boy I was involved with as validation for myself without getting to know that I was valuable enough to have met my own needs. As far as a broken heart goes it is paramount to remind your son or daughter that he or she will survive and that there is someone better out there for them. Easier said than done...
• United States
31 Jul 09
Hi Paula, I thank you for your excellent response, I really appreciated it. Your story is a prime example of what can happen when teenage relationships get too serious. Yes, immaturity is a big part of a relationship disasters. I love the advice you have chosen to share with your daughter, when the time comes.
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• United States
30 Jul 09
Having been a teen in a serious relationship I would say that many things get better with age. It really is worth it to not get into a more physical relationship during your teen years because honestly it will never be as good as it will be when you are married. For some reason that truly does make a difference. I would also say that teen boys are just not that bright sometimes, it is not their fault, their minds are just not developed completely. I would also say that you can be the coolest kid in the school and still be a virgin. It is not shamefull but instead something to be proud about. Anyone can have sx but not everyone can say they waited until they married. Wow I sound like I am lecturing. I promise that I am not, it is just that I thought I was in love, and I was, but he was not. He told me he was, but like I said boys can be stupid sometimes, he was really in lust. True love will wait and never presures. Sounds corny but it is true just ask my husband.
• United States
31 Jul 09
Thanks for sharng your comments on this topic. You really do have some great insight on it. I know teenagers are attracted to each, that is just natural, but the relationships are getting too physical and serious. They are not ready to handle the possible consequences of their adult actions. I too, believe that you will have more fun with your mate if you are more mature and/or married.
@debrakcarey (19924)
• United States
30 Jul 09
This has been going on since Cain had his 13th birthday. It's pretty much standard teenage angst to be so very much in love. Frankly, it's hormones and the only thing you can do is let them go through it with minimal interferance....except to give them information on how to keep from getting pregnant or an STD. I did tell my daughter up front...it's not about LOVE...it's about HORMONES. She acted like she understood, she even agreed...but still got her heart broke. It's one of lifes lessons, I guess.
• United States
31 Jul 09
Hi, Thanks for stopping by and commenting. I have to agree, that falling in love is a natural state of being and hormones do play a major role in how our teenagers are feeling about each other. Having the "talk" with them is about the only thing we can do, except be there if their hearts get broken.