how do you heal a broken heart..?

Philippines
July 30, 2009 10:44pm CST
HOW DO YOU HEAL A BROKEN HEART..? For those who have been broken and cut into pieces by the one they have loved, How did you recover from the heartache..? For those who has not experience this, how will you advice those who are broken..? I am not broken..haha, i just posted this one because i have this friend that seemed to have her world has been ended because of a certain guy who is not that worth crying for..hmmmpf
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
31 Jul 09
Time heals most of the heart aches.But the scar will be there,everlasting.You can't avoid it.So,for the time being one should try to find love with some other people or concentrate on his career.That way one can forget the ache for a while and at the same time get well to a good position in life.Remember there are more people like you.Everybody have loved and lost and you are not new and so don't think you are the one with a heavy loss.Cheers!
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
agree with that..it will surely heal but the wound will create a scar that would definitely stay forever, and will make us remember that once in our life we have loved so much and the saddest part of it was, we gave our all its just that it didn't turn out that good..
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
1 Aug 09
Yes!If it had turn good with all pour best efforts we would have been the happiest person in the globe and we would appreciate our love for ever.It is sad,it didn't happened that way.Was it to mean we are not lucky enough to win her or that loved not is not lucky enough to have us is really a million dollar question and that too will be answered by time alone.Cheers!
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
Learn how to let go and it will be easier for you to heal a broken heart. Find something to be busy of so you won't stop thinking of the person who hurt you. Healing may take time but it's you who can heal it soon. Cry once and cry no more after.
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
yeah, that's right..!cry once and cry no more after..
@Ithink (10500)
• United States
31 Jul 09
Honestly the only cure for a broken heart is time. It doesnt hurt to try to get yout mind on other things to distract from it but time really does make it easier. Hearing someone saying there are other guys or that he wasnt the one wont help either, it just makes it worse. Be there for her to vent and just try to be supportive.
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
yup, joining her in her struggle seems to be a good way to lessen her burden..
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
well, its easy to say to just forget that guy as his not worth of ur tears.. but the truth is its really hard... its alright to cry so just let her be and let her talk and burst out everything. dont tell her shes wrong for loving the guy coz she will only feel more bad since for all people u as her friend supposed to understand her and give her moral support better tell her that maybe his not the right guy yet.. as a friend better invite her to go out.. like out of town to pre-occupied her mind into something than thinking about her ex... personally its also been hard for me when i reached that part... i cried for months even for years before i accepted the fact that theres really no us.. my friends didnt say anything about him... they just listen and let me cry like river... then i voluntary stop coz i just feel pity on myself.. i just concentrated to my job and put my heart into it.. then i meet my bf right now... luckily his he best one as far as i know... and i wish he will be the one..
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
yeah, i think, understanding her and being on her side to support and listen to her is the best..then wait for the time when she realizes that she already moved on or she is willing to love again (i hope)..
@jeffy483 (65)
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
for me what i did was making myself busy with my work and going out with friends...
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
yup..as what the others said, making oneself busy is one of the healing factor..and of course, with friends to accompany her is also helpful..
• Sri Lanka
31 Jul 09
If you truly love someone from the depths of your soul then, there is going to be a small pain and hurting there when you think about him/her. It doesn't go away with time, but you get used to it and it stops hurting so much. Then you start to love life again.We have to know that departing from loved ones whatever the circumstances is a fact of life.When it hurts talk with someone.Cry your heart out.Write your pain in a journal or pen it into a poem.The initial part of the hurt is the hardest.When you get through it,it becomes calmer much easier.It still hurts but it becomes bearable.
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
being used to it becomes a relief..if someone usually experienced such, then s/he becomes stronger every new love life come..every heartbreak really hurts but experiencing it as usual will give us somehow a relief, because we might get hurt again, but thinking that we have been hurting before will not be that painful compared to the first one..
• Malaysia
31 Jul 09
Well only time can heal this, there are nothing much can be done except just to ease the pain and reducing it thats all. After a while or perhaps a long time, you will definitely be alright, but memories will be the poison to cause the pain to be back again and hurt you but not going to be as bad as it used to be.
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
yeah, memories will serve as a remembrance of what the relationship really was..
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
in behalf of the pains and all the struggles, i can still manage to be glad that i encountered another break up again... i used to be thankful once i end up my relationship with someone because i feel like i'm much closer to my true love and that would be the person whom i'll choose to marry... just think positive... there are a lot of fishes in the sea...
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
haha, yeah, there are lots of fishes i the sea, just sail properly then you would be able to catch a big one..^_^
@momiecat (997)
• United States
31 Jul 09
Quite a while ago I experienced a "broken heart" over a guy whom I thought I loved and trusted. He did not deserve that pure love nor trust. He wanted a maid not a wife or lifelong partner. He cheated on me and abused me verbally and sometimes physically. It took a long time for me to realize that I was worth more than to stoop down and be with a selfish bast**d like him. I also found (and I was not looking) a nice guy who treated me with so much more respect and so unselfish that he would give his last dime to me. His heart was gold. It took time for me to heal and it took the kindness of a gentle, sweet guy to make me realize that the ex was not worth my grieving over.
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
wow..!really, the person that would certainly make us happy will come unexpectedly..i hope that my friend will be able to find that guy that would make her realize that her ex is worthless, and she deserves the best..
@308369666 (111)
• China
31 Jul 09
Not just a broken heart, broken heart I have wanted to feel really bad,but with my efforts,she has returned to my side,if two people do not just inappropriate,The end is also a new beginning,Do not become discouraged and to re-head.
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
nice..!haha, it could be possibly be a sort of a trial, that could mean a new beginning for them too..hehe, you did it huh with all your efforts..i hope my friend can do that, i will just accompany her so that she won't feel alone..hehe
@radx682 (327)
• India
31 Jul 09
First of all, you should divert him by taking him to some nice place, some friends also can join you. Make him understand that you are his best pals and you are always there in his good and bad. Make him realize how much his parents will worry about him if he is not going to concentrate on his life and future..Make him understand that she was not his best match anyway and there are so many good people around (parents, friends) him that he should not afford to lose.
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
actually she was a girl..hehe, anyways, you are right..making her feel that she is not left behind, that she has still friends that will help her in every problem she was will certainly give a relief..and taking her to a place where she can enjoy is a good idea..
@eselmaro (208)
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
We almost have the same answers in just a wink. It is time that can only heals the brokenhearted people. While I was watching TV with this love story plot movie, I noticed that there something we can do to move on easily. It is the fact that we should accept that the relationship is really over or else it would mark us a a rebound girl or rebound men. Being a heartbroken is not a disease, it is a part of being a mature person. Thank you.
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
yeah, its really acceptance..
@flzmlady (419)
• China
31 Jul 09
i make myself working busily and soon the heartbreak will be healed or at least covered up superficially. i know its kinda of hard at the beginning but you may try it.
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
yeah, it might not be totally healed, but at least, it was lessen through by making oneself busy and not remembering it..
@meng23 (146)
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
Broken heart can be healed by time. It's really hard. It undergone sometimes a long process to move on special if you are attached with this person. A person can recover from it when the person have accepted the fact that they can no longer with each other. Giving forgiveness to yourself and to your x boyfriend can help also in your recovery. Actually it is easy to say but really hard to apply. So meanwhile she must just go out with her friends, family. Try to explore the world and herself. You can help your friend by accompany her. Let her feel she's special. Show her that there are still people around her that loves her so much. Talk to her. Be a shoulder to lean on. And just listen to her grieve. I consider it as the biggest help you can give.
• Philippines
1 Aug 09
correct..there can only be recovery through acceptance..if we accept the fact that there could never be a second chance of that relationship, then, the faster you will be able to heal your heart and be able to move on..
@sagnik42 (3598)
• India
31 Jul 09
The best remedy for broken heart is time.But the mentallity and attitude of the person whose heart is broken also is a big factor.Being her friend, what you can do is help her spend some time in things which she likes.Distract her as much as possible.Try to keep her engaged in talks as much as you can.Distraction is a temporary relief.But time is the permanent one.
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
agree with that..i will do that..thanks
• India
31 Jul 09
Well, broken heart, when u love someone from heart and he or she goes away leaving u. It is said that time is a biggest healer, it heals all kinds of wounds. But for now i would suggest that tell ur friend to make himself busy in other works i.e divert his mind.
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
i certainly agree with that..time is the best healer, and keeping oneself busy is one way of forgetting such wound even for a small span of time..thanks for that comment..
• China
31 Jul 09
i think that not a good news
@ds6413 (2073)
• United States
31 Jul 09
Hello, it has phappened to me more times that I care to remember. After the last time I got up and decided to not let it get me down. I had to make myself remember he had the problem, I could handle the relationship just fine but he couldn't. I went out with my cousins and tried to have fun. I found out when a person has fun other psople like to be around fun people.I know this because I have been engaged two times and married once and divorced one time.