your best friend want to check your wallet.

@shibham (17025)
India
August 6, 2009 6:22am CST
hi mylotters.... yesterday evening, i was sitting in a beer bar with my best friend. after some time he wanted to check my wallet and uttered wow.... i always carry more than two thousand rs. = 82$ in my wallet because anything can be happened. when he asked for the wallet, i hesitate to show him but i trust him and i felt nothing wrong in his covet. then i offered my wallet which changed his facial expressions. he has a lot of economical crisis with just 50rs.=1$ daily income. so he surprised seeing that amount of money although he knows that i am a lecturer with a satisfactory salary. i found him suffering from inferior complexity. from that time it began to tease me. i found myself guilty. was it appropriate to give him my wallet? what you would do in such a situation? please share. i am in a big puzzle. your responses will get rid off me from my puzzle. thanks everyone.... SHIBHAM 06-08-09
5 responses
@cbeee3 (2064)
• India
6 Aug 09
Please don't feel guilty.There was nothing wrong with what you did. I think it was not the best thing to do for your friend to ask for your wallet. I mean, its kind of odd to me.Even if 2 people are best of friends this is a bit strange. Also, since he too is aware that your jobs and hence your salaries are different, it is but obvious that what you carry around would be different. He set himself up for feeling inferior.He first looked at your wallet knowing very well that your salaries are different and then when he saw that you had more money he felt bad. I think it was a bad call on his part to ask you for the wallet. Please talk to him and sort it out, but I see no reason for you to feel guilty.
@shibham (17025)
• India
7 Aug 09
your responae will get rid off me from my stress. thanks for it
@cbeee3 (2064)
• India
7 Aug 09
You are most welcome.I am glad I could help in some small way.And always remember, you did nothing wrong here.:) God bless you.
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@med889 (5958)
21 Aug 09
I have many friends but so far no one has ever asked me my wallet because I suppose they know that such things we do not generally ask from someone even if that person is your close friend, I respect this act a lot though. I have also never ask their wallet even in jokes.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
22 Aug 09
yes med, u are right. but as my situation i just want to ask u what would u do? i agree with you that we should not ask anyone for their wallet even in jokes. thanks for response.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
Hi friend, I also wonder why,it's him who asked to see your wallet,so what't wrong then.Is 2thousand rupees a big deal?Pesos and rupees were of the same value,the last time me and friends had dinner at Bollywood restaurant here in our country we paid a good bill amounting more than 2thousand pesos.And when our indian friends knows about it,they really say's "that's too much ".But eating at fine dining restaurant here in our country maybe too costly,so,2 thousands pesos or rupees is not enough,you should prepare to spend at least 5thou for a dinner with fine dining.And even with bars here,my brothers were folk singers and i usually visited the bars they were singing with the band.And when they ordered for their drinks(i don't drink)and some finger foods,i always ended up paying the bills more than 3thousand pesos. So,i don't understand why your friend acted like that,when he knows you had a good salary.So,he should be expecting that amount in your wallet. hmnn
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
7 Aug 09
Personally I think he was way out of line to check your wallet. That is your personal item and he had no business in it..friends or not. It's not your fault that his salary is not the same as yours. You have worked very hard to get where you are and there is no reason to feel guilty about that. He's the only one that has the power to change his situation.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
9 Aug 09
yes but i think he got the complte liberty to check my wallet. yes he can change his current situation and i also helped him but he runs after a huge amount of money. thanks for response.
@vklancer (135)
• India
6 Aug 09
i would definitely give my wallet.i think my best friend is aware of my financial status,so just by not showing my wallet to him doesn't conceal my financial status.even in your case i think your friend might have put such an expression bcoz he dint expect such an amount in a wallet.
@shibham (17025)
• India
6 Aug 09
yes dear friend, u are 100% right. anyway my friend is well known about my salary but when i saw his facial expression, i found something i had done wrong. i had no need to show my wallet which lead him to complexity. anyway i am regretting now. thanks for response.