Can a person live without a partner in life?

Life without love - A couple in love
India
August 12, 2009 8:11am CST
Hi Dearones, I really wonder if anyone can live without a partner. I have seen persons divorced, 'still single' even in 40s... I really doubt whether a man or women can live alone? Is it possible for a man or woman to live without marriage? Or Can he/she live without a partner throughout the life? Is a partner really needed for a person? What if he doesn't have? Does a person is living happily with partner till his/her end? 'Cause some are living alone... Please share your experience..... Have a nice day always... Cheers..God bless ...
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51 responses
@cwong77 (2011)
• Malaysia
12 Aug 09
I think there are people who do lived alone, and never had a partner to part with.. however, for my own opinion, I think having a partner is a geez to the beautiful life, and we could be lucky to have a faithful one... anyway, GOD make us come alone, and surely will be leaving alone too..
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• India
13 Aug 09
Hi cwong77, Well said.. Really a great saying.. We came alone and will have to go alone... Thanks for responding... Have a nice day.. Cheers
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@Maggiepie (7821)
• United States
13 Aug 09
[b]But...a person who has God is never "alone." Maggiepie "WHERE'S THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE?"[/b]
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@cwong77 (2011)
• Malaysia
13 Aug 09
phillip_shiny... thanks... we just got to be well prepared if we are leaving alone ya...
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@divkris (1163)
• India
12 Aug 09
It depends on the way you are brought up. If a person (gal/guy) is brought up with many siblings and other relatives then i think they will need somebody to hang around when they grow up because they cannot live all alone. On the contrary if a persona has been living single or has been lonely from the day he/she was born then i think they would not mind staying single. I would have loved to stay single and spending my life to serve people and also fulfill many of my wishes. So, it also depends on what your aim in life is - LOL
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• India
13 Aug 09
Hi divkris, Really true.. Its the way the person brought up.. Thanks for posting ... Have a nice day... Cheers
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@Archie0 (4669)
16 Aug 09
I think chosing to live as a single person is perfectly acceptable. It certainly goes against societal norms, but there are many ways to lead a fulfilling life without a partner in life. I believe it is wrong to diminish the value of friends, because you are not married. I think we should cherish all relationships, and not feel inadequate by not being married. I hope that you strive for a life full of happiness and enjoy many special people in your life.
@Capsicum (1444)
• United States
12 Aug 09
I to wonder about this with so many men living alone these days. If a women has friends ,most can do without a man. Just have fun while out.As for a man (IMHO) needs a women most I, see that are this way are un-groomed,not ironed,sickly and have a very poor diet. Maybe it has nothing to do with it but ,I am starting to wonder ! Are these men hiding something ? That a women would have a hard time with or make them un -Manly if anyone knew ? Or are they to arr argent ,for any women to Indore? Good question probably not they answer you where looking for though huh. The women will move on the men stay alone???
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• India
13 Aug 09
Hi Capsicum, Men who are living alone are really living alone with the past memories with some girl they loved the most.. I guess... But as you said they are really not cared from who they really love... Thanks for posting your thoughts... Have a nice day,... Cheers
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@Capsicum (1444)
• United States
13 Aug 09
This is the case with one of my neighbors ,A doctor at that.He is pining for a love who left him 15 years ago. So he sleeps,eats Wawa food and drinks to much.But he is a very superficial guy.Who treats women like crap,at least the one he hangs with. I would never take the verbal abuse he gives her.He treats me very nice but ,knows he would get it back in three fold if he pissed me off.Nothing worse than a man with a ego.
• United States
12 Aug 09
Hello again my friend Phillip! :) I could live alone. However, I know a lot of people that they always need to have someone next to them. As for me, I never rushed into relationships and I rather be alone than in a bad relationship or an unhappy one, never the less. I was raised in a very strict family and I got my real relationship when I was 26. I really thought he was the one and moved in with him. We were together for 3 years and then decided to go out separate ways. We are still friends to this day, I can't believe we've know eachother for 10 years already. He is a good guy, but I guess he wasn't ment for me. It took me a very, very long time to get over this relationship, maybe because he was my first love, so I decided to just be by myself for 4 years. I then went out with someone for a few months and I found out he was laying to me in the process so I decided to let him go. No friendship after that brake up...LOL...I tolerate just about anything but laying. I then decided to be on my own again until 8 months ago when the girls at the salon where I go to get my nails and hair done insisted to introduce me to someone. I really did not want to meet him because I have other priorities right now, being out of work and all. Anyway, I end up going out with him and he turned out to be a wonderful person. I can't believe it's been 8 months already and we are still together. Finally, I found my match! :) So that's my story and I am sticking to it...LOL...ha ha ha Take care my friend and happy mylotting! :) Olivia ~
• India
13 Aug 09
Hi Olivia, Really nice to hear your experience.. Thanks for posting... Really I too have seen men with women only for laying as you said... Have a nice day..God bless you.. Cheers
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• United States
18 Aug 09
Thank you Chocolate...I just saw the picture of your niece..she is beautiful...what a gorgeous, precious little angel she is... Take care friend Happy mylotting! :) Olivia~
@shimanaja (495)
• Indonesia
13 Aug 09
For me the answer is NO. i cant imagine live without a partner in life, can you? living alone like lose some of the parts of the body. To reach the better life must live with a partner in life.
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• India
13 Aug 09
Hi shimanaja, Really nice to have your thoughts in this discussions. Thanks for posting.. I too had to think about it.. Have a nice day... Cheers
• United States
12 Aug 09
I don't think I could live without someone in my life. I am a very nurturing person, I need someone to care for and be with. I also love to listen to people.
• India
13 Aug 09
Hi bluehibiscus, Thats really nice of you.. Thanks for posting.. have a nice day ...cheers..
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@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
12 Aug 09
I am almost 50 and still single. I think some people just plain have trouble being close to other people. I can live with someone for a short time, but then they start to wear on me and I have to leave. I have to live alone in order to not feel confined. Right now, I have my niece living with me. I can tolerate that because for the most part she stays to herself. Whenever I lived with other adults, there would always be something about me that they didn't like and when they would try to change me I would blow up. I think that the people who are able to stay with a partner for life have learned a lot of skills that I never did learn. Thanks for bringing this up.
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• India
13 Aug 09
Hi daeckardt, Thanks for sharing your experience.. Really I really love the last lines.. Skills you have learnt are really great without a partner,... Have a nice day always... Cheers
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@yogambal_64 (1016)
• India
12 Aug 09
It depends on the mental status of the person actually, if he or she is really in need of a partner in life. At the same time it cannot be concluded that all people living with a partner are really happy, it may be just that they are pulling along. I know instances of people who leave their better half even after they have become grandparents, just living alone and not divorced. They both are staying alone and not divorced and have their own reasons. So I feel the mental ability alone of that person decides such factors.
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• India
13 Aug 09
Hi yogambal_64, Really true.. It too depends of the mental ability to live alone.. Thanks for sharing.. have a nice day,,,... Cheers
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@codemage (65)
• India
14 Aug 09
In my view there will be one time in life when one really needs a partner's help.I am sure any single person would definitely miss someone when he reaches the age 50-60.
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
14 Aug 09
I do know of people who were single their entire lives, and they did live happy lives. So it clearly is possible. I'm single and 32 myself, and I see no reason I'd want to change that anytime soon, or in the foreseeable future. On the other hand, I do understand that some people need to have that other person in their lives, and best to them for it. At work, there is an Asian couple, that work together. Their kids are already in middle school (12 or 13 years old), yet they are still playful and enjoy each other. More power to them. Most, at least here in the US, do not have that. Even one of the co-workers said there was no way he'd be that playful with his wife, let alone work with her. To me, the risk is too high. Fights, splitting up, divorce, separation, children shuffled around to different homes, visitation on the week end, growing up hating one or both parents. No, I don't want that on my head. Single is the life for me. :)
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@webearn99 (1744)
• India
13 Aug 09
Yes! One can live without a partner. If the definition of a relationship is commitment and emotional satisfaction and security, then it is possible. It is the lack of faith that triggers the break up. There are a lot of examples of such people, Mr. Kalam, the former president of India. He was committed to his trade, that of a space scientist, and did not find a physical relationship a necessity. Celibates of religious persuasion such as Mother Theresa or Swami Vivekananda are also worth noting. What do you think?
@rajupaul (975)
• India
12 Aug 09
In my personnel view it is not possible. As because view of people will be different with each other
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@mayka123 (10756)
• India
3 Sep 09
This I think totally depends on ones state of mind. You can be lonely in a crowd and you can live all alone and not feel lonely. Below is a poem that I have composed and written on another site. It just reflects my feelings. I woke up in the morning With no one to hug me But still I say I am happy today I prepared my meals With no one to help me But still I say I am happy today I left for work With no one to wish me goodbye But still I say I am happy today I went home in the evening And there was no one to welcome me But still I say I am happy today I went to bed Alone with my dreams But still I say I am happy today
• India
8 Sep 09
I love it.. Great poem... It reflects my feeling in this too... Thanks for sharing.. Cheers... Hope you don't mind it for a late appreciation....
@simonelee (2718)
• China
31 Aug 09
Yes, its possible to live without a partner. My brother inlaw's aunt was been single since birth. And I saw her contented with her job being as a retired Bureu of Internal Revenue director, she shares her blessings to her brothers and sisters children and to all her great gradchildren. I don't think having no one will greatly affects persons life, right? It matters on how a person run his life, how happiness defines her/him. If a persons been nice to others she won't be afraid getting old and afraid no one will gonna take care of him'her, that's what i beleived. You'll never be lonely if you only find happiness in your heart.
• India
8 Sep 09
Dear simone, What you said is really overwhelming... You'll never be lonely if you only find happiness in your heart. Great... Appreciate it... Cheers
• Australia
15 Aug 09
As much as I love my partner, I was much more content on my own. I think that if you tend to be a solitary person (as I am), then it's quite easy to go through life without a partner. There certainly isn't anything wrong with remaining single, if that's what you want. Being on your own brings more freedom and control over your own life. For some people, that is far more important than having a partner.
• Australia
18 Aug 09
I have no interest in getting married, though my partner would like to. I personally don't see the need for marriage, especially when in today's age, it's turned into something you do to please other people, rather than doing it for yourself. I just don't see the point in spending thousands of dollars for what is essentially a party that lasts half a day.
• Indonesia
14 Aug 09
Yes, Phillip,,I think a person can live even without a partner. It must be his/her own decision based on his/her own purpose in life. Do you know sister or pastor in Catholic religion? They don't have any partner because they give all their life for God/religion things. It's their own decision and I think it's not easy to decide that. I have one teacher. She used to learn in monastery to become a sister, but she quit. Now she is ordinary woman, but the lesson she got from monastery change her mind. She doesn't wanna have partner, but she adopt many children from orphanage or pick child from street who has no home, usually a beggar,,etc. Another case is my auntie. She was so beautiful but she doesn't wanna a partner in life. Now she is 45 years old and she said it's a destiny.. I've ever meet my best friend auntie too. She focused herself in make money,, and yes, she is wealthy now. But seems like she forget about love-life. She doesn't has any partner and she already old too. Many boys just wanna her money..so now she's like "I'm rich now and still single, so what? no problem for me and I don't need any partner" That's my experience. So yes, it's people's choice whether to have or don't have partner in life (or maybe destiny too?...)
• India
18 Aug 09
Hi friend, Really I started this topic about having the sisters and pastors in my mind. Really as you said I too feel its based on three things. One is according to the experience, then according to the word of God and according to the destiny. Well said ChrysanTflower. Cheers... Have a nice day,...
@dbabcook (390)
• United States
13 Aug 09
I believe you can live without a partner but I don't know many people who want to live there lives completely alone. To have someone to share things with is always nice. I go through spurts where I wish I were alone but then the majority of the time I am very thankful that I have someone to share things with. I guess it is just up to each individual.
• India
13 Aug 09
Hi dbabcook, Really agree with you.. We need to have someone whom we need to share our feelings and our everything... Thanks for sharing your thoughts.... Have a nice day... Cheers
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
13 Aug 09
I think that one can certainly live alone and without a partner and feel quite content with one’s life. There is a difference between living without a partner and living without love. Many unfortunate souls live with a spouse and yet feel unloved and lonely and the same is true in reverse. I have a husband who loves me but he is not my only source of love; aside from him and my daughter I have my animals, my family and my friends who all have the ability to make me feel very loved and appreciated. So to sum up my opinion, we all need love in our lives but it does not necessarily have to be the romantic kind.
• India
13 Aug 09
Hi paula27661, Well said. You are absolutely right that a person can live with a partner without love.. Love is really needed for each and every person.. Thanks for your views... Have a nice day... Cheers
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• United States
13 Aug 09
All a person really needs to survive is food water shelter and air. You can deffinatly live without love.
• India
13 Aug 09
Hi babytaffster, Thanks for your response.. Have a nice day... Cheers...
@arnicki (10)
• Jamaica
13 Aug 09
I don't think it is possible for someone to live without a partner. We are human beings and thus we crave on interaction with other people. Everybody wants to be loved..need to be loved and tofeel that they are secure and cared for. I do not want to live alone...
• India
13 Aug 09
Hi arnicki, Really a person cannot live without love. Thanks for posting your response in this discussion... Have a nice day... Cheers