A loved one stealing from you

United States
August 15, 2009 3:23pm CST
It always hurts when you are stolen from. Your safety is violated, and you lose something that belongs to you. But it hurts even more when you find out that someone you thought was close to you steals, no matter what the thing is that was stolen. In high school, my boyfriend stole from me once, and it hurt me to my core. I asked him to get the both of us a juice from the lunch line, and gave him two dollars to get it. I should have gotten .80 in change. When he returned with the juices, he didn't give me any change. I asked for it, and he handed my .20 cents. I stood there, shocked and astounded. It wasn't like the other .60 cents would have made or broken me, but it was the fact that he lied about it. This is a person that I thought the world of, that I loved with my heart and soul. All he had to do was ask, and I would have given him my last; but instead he chose to steal from me. I told him exactly that, and that he didn't have to steal. I would go to the ends of the Earth to make sure he had if he asked, there was no purpose of taking it from me and lying. So, have any of you had a loved one steal from you? How did it make you feel? Were you more worried about what was stolen, or the person that stole from you?
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9 responses
@roniroxas (10577)
• Philippines
15 Aug 09
it is true when you know someone stealed from you it is really painful specially if that thing is important to you as well or it has sentimental values. it is more painful if you realize taht the person who stole it is someone very dear to you. one more thing is if you ask them if they have it and you know that their answer is a lie then that would be more heart breaking. i've lost at love before from someone who is use to lying just like breathing so i know how painful it is.
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@agv0419 (3030)
• Philippines
16 Aug 09
Yes it is painful if your loved one steal from you. I know that feeling because I thought my money is safe when I hide it my coin box. I found it out that my money was stolen because I know how much my money was. I'm suspected who stealed my money and it is painful to know that person is a member of the family. It is hard to trust someone these days even your family betrayed you.
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@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
15 Aug 09
Oh yes.. In fact, both of my parents. My real dad would steal from both my sister and I when we were younger, cash, or pawn off anything of value that we had ever bought him to have money for booze :/ In turn, my mother would take money out of my savings account (I was under 18 and so the bank said her name had to be on the account too, even though it was my job earnings) to make up for whatever my dad spent during the month that should have gone towards paying the bills. I am 30 years old, and I can only remember two years having gone by since 1996 that someone hasn't stolen an item or cash from me. Each time except one, it was done by family members. Needless to say only one or two people are allowed in my home, and they aren't family. I was extremely upset, because the items that were stolen varied greatly.. My rent / bill money, family photographs, CD's, collectible items I had been saving to open up a business, my car and then my bicycle, I was sad, and after a while of this repeated behavior (The police were called on many occasions but they would never do a damn thing, even if someone was caught red handed with the stolen items in their hands, IF they even showed up so I could file a report!) .. I became angry. Extremely, booby trap my house angry. That sounds dumb I know, but it got to the point where they were even stealing my makeup, undergarments, and things like letters that deceased relatives had written me before they passed. It's left me extremely untrusting and paranoid :/
• United States
15 Aug 09
My brother stole from my mother. There wasn't much she could do about it. He said he'll never do it again but we can't know for sure. She did feel betrayed. He could have asked her and she would have given it to him but he choose to lie to her.
@suesan35 (479)
• Sri Lanka
25 Aug 09
Hi drknlvly: When you are young, you tend to be very idealistic and hate to think that anyone you love can do anything wrong. However, as you grow older, you come to realize that nothing is as it seems. For me what is worse than money or any item being stolen is when the trust you have in someone you love is stolen from you and I think thats exactly what happened to you 'drknlvly'. Like you said the money itself is not the issue here, but that lovely feeling of trust you had in your boyfriend was broken forever and unfortunately when something like that happens when you are young, you tend to be distrustful of everyone for sometime. Oh yeah, it happened to me not once, but twice, and I never did get over it.
• Romania
25 Sep 10
Hi suesan. You seem nice and wise and i liked how you talk about the subject. The same thing happened to me but with a much higher amonut of money. too much to tell and not to be ashemed of how silly I was. I would love to hear your story suesan I am going through hard times and I would love to hear that I am not the only one going through the same situation. I would even like to exchange e-mails
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@shontia08 (846)
• United States
16 Aug 09
in my case i wasn't worried about what was stolen i was more hurt by who stole it. i had money on my dresser and at the time i shared an place with a roomate. i felt comfortable leaving money out and so did she. anyway we were going to the beach one weekend and my brother wanted to stay the weekend at our apartment, of course i didn't mind but i had no idea he was going to take my $40 that i had on my dresser. when i got home i confronted him about it, he denied it, a couple days later he gave the money back because of his conscious. I feel the exact same way as you do, because i would have gave it to him in a heart beat.
@gemini_rose (16208)
16 Aug 09
Yeah I have had a loved one steal from me, my son. He is 17 now but when he was about 7 or 8 he went through a stage of stealing money, he would steal money out of a savings jar that I had for days out for us and the worst he did was steal the money out of my hubbys birthday cards that his dad had posted through the door. It was a bad time and it hurt me so much that he would do that. The trust was absolutely destroyed for a long while and everytime money went missing he would be blamed straight away. We managed to get through it and now he is older he realises what he did and regrets it all the time so at least he learnt a lesson.
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@izathewzia (5145)
• Philippines
16 Aug 09
It really hurts when people of whom you love so dearly are the ones who steal from you. Who betrayed you. Who do bad things to you. Even it is too small, still, it hurts deeply. Maybe because we expect that they will be the kind of person who will not do it to us. So when they do it, it hurts madly.
@patofgold23 (5075)
• Philippines
16 Aug 09
you know, i undertsand how you felt that time.. i was in the same boat years ago... i dated for 3 years and he steals from me over and over again.. from petty change to money I leave in the car.. i don't know why i kepy mt eyes closed that time i guess i cared for him so much he steals from despite the fact i pay for his bills and everything i'm glad i finally had the coursge to break up with him
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@LittleMel (14062)
• Canada
3 Jan 11
not stealing. just borrowed and not returning it when I asked. they were not my 'loved' ones, just people I thought were good friends I felt bad, not because what they did but because I trusted them it wasn't the first time my trust was broken so I should've known better not to be too kind I got back all that was borrowed from me and since then I keep money out the equation it turns out a good thing LOL I need it now to pay off my debts before interest gets higher