Does distance seperates relation too???

United States
August 15, 2009 10:29pm CST
Me and my bf have been together for 2 years now. We became best friends earlier, and then a year after that he proposed me. So after that we have been in a relationship for 2 years now. All this time we had been together at the same place. We study in the same college too so that is an added advantage. But now we have to move to seperate palces for higher studies. I am worried that might lead to unforseen consequences in our relationship. Though we have talked over it and he said he will always be there for me how-so-ever large the distance may be but I am still worried about our relation! Do long distance relationship work! Can we sustain our relation over a long distance without meeting each other for very long time?? Anyone with same experience? You are most welcome to share your experience here...
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@dhymhy (24)
• Philippines
18 Aug 09
hi.. i believe that absence makes the heart grow fonder. i am in a long distance relationship and it really is hard, especially when my bf can't frequently communicate because of the difficulty in telecommunication signal. we seldom talk but the bond that connects us grows stronger as time passes by.. true, it is really scary to commit yourself in a relationship where you are not sure where it's leading you both, especially that there are so many temptations, but to hold on and have faith that both of you will make it, that both of you will someday meet and be together will make all the sacrifice worth it. just don't stop believing in the power of your love. trust is also essential for only with it can a relationship really work. it's hard to trust someone but if you know that the person you've given your trust is worth it, then you should give it. also, don't stop praying. it's the best answer to every struggle and trial that come our way.
• United States
20 Aug 09
Hi dhymhy! Thanks for the lovely words! It certainly is hard to live at so much distance from your loved one and knowing that you wont be able to meet for quite some time even intensifies the pain. I hope my bond with my bf also stays stronger with the passage of time... You know what I liked the best of all that you said -"To believe in the power of your love".. I surely will.. Thank u!
@dhymhy (24)
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
thank you for picking mine as the best response.. i really enjoy sharing my thoughts, especially about life and love.. :D
@abhi_bangal (3686)
• India
16 Aug 09
Very very wrong. In my case, the distance actually got my relation going much smoother than it was before. I had this personal experience when I was in love. And you know, such relations are strengthened only in love and before marriage. I mean once you are married, then you are forced to love and like that person. When I was in love, I too had to be away from my girlfriend. And that gave a new boost to our love. I still remember that she always used to ask me when we are going to meet. And when we finally met, she told me that she knew how close I was to her only when I was physically away from her. So I think, only when you are away from each other, you know each other's importance and recognize and respect each other's love.
• United States
18 Aug 09
That's very true that when you are away from your love you realise their importance. I have been on a trip or two in the past one or two years and wasn't able to contact my boyfriend for sometime; that was when I really felt very eager to meet him and realised how much I loved him. Distance seperates you from the loved one but certainly makes the bond stronger!
• United States
16 Aug 09
I met my boyfriend in 2006. We started going together toward the end of 2006 and we were practically inseparable until Jan 2008 when I moved to a nearby state. I moved here thinking it would be close enough for him to come to see me but he's only been able to visit me twice in 1 yr and 7 months. We talk on the phone just about every night. He ask me to marry him often but both our financial circumstances aren't great. Yet even besides that I'm unsure about marrying him. Long distance relationships are hard. Only if you both are sure you want a future together would it be worth holding on to. That's my opinion anyways. The best thing to do would probably keep in touch but date other people.
• United States
16 Aug 09
That's absolutely what my circumstance is like! It's not possible for us to marry each other before going to different places because of the financial problems. But I like your idea of being in touch with him but not let that feeling haunt me! Thanks for the response! :)
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
16 Aug 09
friends, will not drop out just because of the distance.
• United States
16 Aug 09
That's right! Hope it stays true in my case too!
@simonelee (2715)
• China
16 Aug 09
I don't think distance will lead to break up's. currently I'm in a long distance relationship for four years now and distance makes our love more stronger. I think for couples who are miles away, trust and communication is the most important in able to survive, without it relationships will fail.
• United States
18 Aug 09
Thanks for your response! It is absolutely right that communication is the major factor. When two lovers are not able to meet for long then communication is what keeps the love going. I am glad that you have been able to maintain a steady relationship despite the distance. I hope it works in my case too and best wishes to you for your relationship.