Will a broken heart keep you from loving again?

Philippines
November 13, 2006 11:35am CST
I just had the toughest fight of my life, and that was to recover from a broken heart. It was not easy, but I am glad that i have truly surpassed it. I got my strength from God and my family, and i kept myself busy with work. A failed relationship, regardless of the depth of the pain, should not put us down. It should rather inspire us to be stronger, more dependent on ourselves, and value the presence of our support group, our family and real friends.
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15 responses
@StarBright (2798)
• United States
13 Nov 06
Chin up! No matter how disastrous this relationship appears today, you will survive. It only hurts a little while. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again. You don't say how much time you had invested in this relationship. Stop crying and start looking objectively at what was happening. You might find it was not so beautiful as you remember. Maybe you are mourning what you were hoping and wishing for it to become. Think hard. Was this person truly honest with you? Did you really do all the wonderful things together you wanted to do? As one comedian put it so well, really think about "why you crying." You may be surprised. People with children and years invested in marriage have to pick themselves up and go on. I don't hear marriage or children in your story. If so, you don't want your children to grow up in a dysfunctional home. So, good riddance. If not, consider yourself lucky. You found out in time. This is clearing the slate so you can meet someone who is truly worthy of you. Living well is the best revenge. So pick yourself up. Go do something really nice for yourself. Look in the mirror and see the beautiful person that you are. Continue your counseling so you don't have any trust issues. Keep your family and friends close. But whatever you do, don't mourn over a turkey.
• Philippines
13 Nov 06
Thanks. I was shattered and devastated, but i was able to bring back the broken pieces together. I wish i knew this site during the time that i needed some outlet. It would have helped me a lot... Anyway, i am doing good now. Struggling yet coping. I draw all my strength from the Lord and my family. I am not inspired by the thought that other people have bigger problems than me, but by knowing that people who had problems survived. Life is beautiful and i choose it that way!
• Singapore
14 Nov 06
I'm sorry to hear that! but then, at times like this, i kept tellng myself that 'I deserve better!' and never give up, waiting for the right one to come along. i believe everyone have someone special waiting for them out there. so do not despair, my friend, wait for him!
• Philippines
16 Nov 06
Thanks. I hope you find your mr. right too. Take care!
@StarBright (2798)
• United States
13 Nov 06
Chin up! No matter how disastrous this relationship appears today, you will survive. It only hurts a little while. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again. You don't say how much time you had invested in this relationship. Stop crying and start looking objectively at what was happening. You might find it was not so beautiful as you remember. Maybe you are mourning what you were hoping and wishing for it to become. Think hard. Was this person truly honest with you? Did you really do all the wonderful things together you wanted to do? As one comedian put it so well, really think about "why you crying." You may be surprised. People with children and years invested in marriage have to pick themselves up and go on. I don't hear marriage or children in your story. If so, you don't want your children to grow up in a dysfunctional home. So, good riddance. If not, consider yourself lucky. You found out in time. This is clearing the slate so you can meet someone who is truly worthy of you. Living well is the best revenge. So pick yourself up. Go do something really nice for yourself. Look in the mirror and see the beautiful person that you are. Continue your counseling so you don't have any trust issues. Keep your family and friends close. But whatever you do, don't mourn over a turkey.
• United States
13 Nov 06
Sorry, not nagging. I got a little carried away with waiting for my "slow to respond" computer. I pushed the SUBMIT too many times.
@Lxandra79 (1535)
• United States
13 Nov 06
Nope..i pretty much get over a guy in 3 months.
• Philippines
13 Nov 06
Actually, i get over a guy in a few months too, sometimes even in a month's time, but that would be a hell of a month.
@melody1011 (1663)
• India
17 Nov 06
No i would never do that to myself. I feel it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. So I would openn my heart and love once again. Im a person that needs someone to love at all times. so i guess I would move on
• India
17 Nov 06
no not at all
@StarBright (2798)
• United States
13 Nov 06
Chin up! No matter how disastrous this relationship appears today, you will survive. It only hurts a little while. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again. You don't say how much time you had invested in this relationship. Stop crying and start looking objectively at what was happening. You might find it was not so beautiful as you remember. Maybe you are mourning what you were hoping and wishing for it to become. Think hard. Was this person truly honest with you? Did you really do all the wonderful things together you wanted to do? As one comedian put it so well, really think about "why you crying." You may be surprised. People with children and years invested in marriage have to pick themselves up and go on. I don't hear marriage or children in your story. If so, you don't want your children to grow up in a dysfunctional home. So, good riddance. If not, consider yourself lucky. You found out in time. This is clearing the slate so you can meet someone who is truly worthy of you. Living well is the best revenge. So pick yourself up. Go do something really nice for yourself. Look in the mirror and see the beautiful person that you are. Continue your counseling so you don't have any trust issues. Keep your family and friends close. But whatever you do, don't mourn over a turkey.
@shellyrios (1212)
• United States
13 Nov 06
no, I think it just helps realize what more you want for yourself and in your next relationship. I think you are doing the right thing and also when God has someone for you, he brings that person to you or you meet that person unexpectedly.
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
13 Nov 06
A broken heart won't keep me from loving again, I'll be a little more causious and worried that it'll fail again. But sooner I'll begin to love again.
@macubx (11414)
• Philippines
14 Nov 06
i usually wait for my broken heart to heal for me to love again..
@brokentia (10389)
• United States
13 Nov 06
To some extent, it would stop me. I have been hurt too many times to let myself be that completely open. It would take alot of time to get me to that point again.
@mahanta (105)
• India
14 Nov 06
Broken heart can always be repaired because it is never broken
@supersach (1523)
• India
13 Nov 06
Its good to see that you fought your way out of the difficult situation and came out as a winner. But just because some guy broke your heart, it doesn't mean that all men are same. There are plenty of good guys out there so don't stop searching for the one that TRULY loves you. Good luck.
@Madfrog (166)
• Romania
13 Nov 06
depends
@shellyrios (1212)
• United States
13 Nov 06
no, I think it just helps realize what more you want for yourself and in your next relationship. I think you are doing the right thing and also when God has someone for you, he brings that person to you or you meet that person unexpectedly.