Should I meet him? Can we be friends as before?
By amanda210909
@amanda210909 (33)
China
August 18, 2009 11:41am CST
I had a pure feeling of love to a boy named N,who is my classmate in high school.We fell in love at the last year in high school.
Finally we broke up because of the distance of our universities.
he always needs somebody to care about him .I have been the one in high school for almost 3years.
After the breaking up thing,we 2 never contact each other.To be honestly,I hate him for his behaviour... he found a new love then told me he could't stand his gf was far away from him.How i wishen i had never met this guy in my life!!!!
N,J(another boy)&I were very good friends before.J always tries to mention N to me,which makes me sick and angry ,for what i want to do is to forget everything about the ex-bf.
we haven't met for more than 2years.I even cannot remember N 'face.At this moment ,J tells me that N wants to meet me and talk with me .I am kind of scared ,not only him but also the hurt he gave to my heart 2years ago.
Should I go or not?What can I do...HELP//////
2 responses
@Jathop3 (42)
• United States
23 Aug 09
Talking from personal experience, it might take a while before you guys will be able to see each other as friends again. It sucks, guys can be such a jerk sometimes, still though they are only humans, who prone on making mistakes.
It was not till a year later tht me and my ex become friends in good term again.
And the reason for that was probably we got some time away from ech other, we were able to cool down our head, and we somehow became more matured.
So, yeah, if you ask me, the decision of meeting him or not is totally up to you. What do you want? What do you think is the best?
One thing though, don't run away. If you keep running away, you'll just unintentionally let him to keep hurting you. Personally speaking.
@amanda210909 (33)
• China
25 Aug 09
I just want to perfect myself before I see him again.
what is perfect to me? slim body shape,happy life ,success in study ~
It sounds ridiculous i know.maybe u can call it vanity~
it may also seems that i want to take revenge.
he would think:god,it is my biggest mistake to break up with her!!!she is just perfect..
that is all im my head .I mever metion it to anyone else.
I need ur advice:should i do this? or is it right?
@mickly08 (769)
• China
19 Aug 09
I don't know .It is also a hard question for me .From your words,you want to forget him,but you didn't .You still love him.You can ask yourself,do you really love him ,why?If you hate him,let him go.Maybe you try to find another boy friend,and forget him from then on.
@amanda210909 (33)
• China
21 Aug 09
thank you for your response~
I really appreciate it~
as a student,I just want to focus on my study~
I even don't have any idea what to say or to do when I confront him. So I quit...
life is rolling on~
I will forgive him ,maybe several years later.That's an issue of time.
