how late is too late....about children learning how to talk

@roniroxas (10576)
Philippines
August 21, 2009 12:25am CST
i have a friend who is bother about the speech of his child. i have four children and i told her that it all depends on every child. not becuase you saw some that can speak when they are one and a half that means your child will or must speak also at that certain kind of age. my cousin started speaking when she was about to celebrate her fourth birthday, that was the late my mother told me. my mother told me that my cousin has a lot of sibblings already she was the youngest of 9 sibblings and she was the late to talk for she can get anything wihtout talking. my obgyne told me that she started speaking also when she turned four years old and she grew up to be a chatter box. so for you how late is too late? by the way my friends baby is three years old and only knows simple words.
14 responses
@dpk262006 (56217)
• Delhi, India
21 Aug 09
Hi dear! I believe that every child has its style of learning and every child takes his own time to learn and speak. Every child develops in his own unique way, even two siblings behave different, when they are one year old. Some are very fast in it and they start speaking at an early age of one and a half years and some start speaking after two and half years' time. There cannot be any uniformity in it and parents should not worry unnecessarily on this account.
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
my mother once told me that our children are like our fingers in our hands. it came from the same hand but it has different looks and heights. every finger looks different from the other fingers. and it is true. even twin who look a like there is still something different that makes them special. thanks for the response
@dpk262006 (56217)
• Delhi, India
22 Aug 09
Hi dear! Your mother's contention was absolutely right, all fingers our hand are not equal so is the case with children, they cannot be alike. Deepak PS - Your new photo in your avatar is looking great!!!
• United States
21 Aug 09
There isn't really a time that would be considered too late for a child to start talking... it just depends on the situation and the environment that the child is in... but i would say that if the baby doesnt start picking up on words soon you may want to take them to a specialist
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
welcome to mylot and hope you like it here like most of us do. your suggestion to will make all her worries disappear. bring the child to the professionals will make them analyze if this is nirmal or not. thanks for the response and goodluck with you and mylot.
@tonniek02 (457)
• United States
21 Aug 09
maybe the child just dosen't have anything to say....My grand daughter didn't say much until she wanted to. No she talks up a storm. But she still has her days that she just don't say anything. and she is 3 years old. But my daughter could carry on a complet conversation when she was 2. My husband said don't worry about the grand daughter. she will talk when she has something to say. But she was taking everything in..
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
well that a cool way to explain that and i think you are right. i think that is true on some children. they learn to say only when it is important than just to whine the whole day with nonsense lol. thanks a lot for the explanation and i will pass it to my friend.
@smileonstar (4013)
• United States
21 Aug 09
Hello, I have two children and they both are girls. One is 4 year old now and another one is 17 months. Guess what? my first daughter know how to talk when she is 3, that was not full sentence yet... just 3years and 6 months, she starts talking pretty good. But my second daughter know how to walk at age 1 and now she is talking as well... (I speak two languages and they both do the same) my second daughter knows very simple words in both languages. Children grown up in different way, sometimes they are late and sometime they are early so tell your friend not to worry about. She will talk when it is time. If this is her first daughter then it might take a lot of time for her to do thing around cuz she is the only one... whenever your friend has the second one, watch he/she will pick up so fast than you think and that's what happen to my kids now.
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
thanks for the information smile, i guess your second child learned faster for there is someone who is older than she looks up to. i agree that there are kids who are slow and there are children who can really learn a little faster than average. thanks for the response
• United States
21 Aug 09
Hello, I have to say that it all depends on the child, and after reading your disscussion post, that just shines more light on the fact that, it all depends on the child, just like my son did not start walking untill he was two years old, now you can get him to stop running, he do not even run, and my husband and I could not wait untill he started walking, well not now because we are the ones that has, to run and catch him when he runs away from us Happy My Lotting!
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
31 Aug 09
well i think kids are really like that, once they learned something they dont stop doing it. i can remember when my first born learned how to tumbling all he does whas that. he can even watch tv with head on the floor and feet raised up. thanks for the response
21 Aug 09
Hi Roni, Tell friend tha children are very clever really, they will speak when they want to and, they take everything in and not to worry, I was a lter talker and now you can't shut me up, lol. Tamara
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
24 Aug 09
that is what i heard around, that if you are a late talker you end up being so talkative that it is hard to shut you up. i also adviced her to seek a help of the expert so she wont be worrying much. it is better to get advice from the experts. thanks for the response tamara.
@grace118224 (1040)
• China
21 Aug 09
Well i think two years old is late . Most of children around here just begin to speak when they are 1 year old. I don't know when my son will speak . But many people told me that their children began to speak some simple words like " Dad, Mummy" when they were just 8 or 9 months old . Now my son is half a year old and i speak to him as much as i can in order to make him speak earlier.
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
my friends baby starts to say mimi and dada also around 8 or 9 months. but now he can only speak simple words and he is three. some of the children which is the same age as him speaks a complete sentence already that is why she is bothered. but for me i told her that atlrast she knows that her baby is not deaf or mute for he can hear and speak. thanks for the response
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
21 Aug 09
I should also say that it depends on the child. I have kids and all of them, as I can remember, started talking short words like "dada", "dede", "mama", etc. at age one. I also know some kids who started talking only when they went to school or months earlier that age. I guess it would help kids to talk early if parents are talkative like my wife. she usually talk to our babies, talks a lot of non sense just to try to communicate with them, starting at day 1.
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
yes that is true. but i think my friend is talkative as well and her husband too. but as you said it all depends on the child. some of them speak early and some of them takes time. that is the only child they have and my friend even gave up working since she found out she was pregnant to be a full time mom. but i guess there is nothing to worry. thanks for the advice and for the responseas well. enjoy your weekend
@kmaram (2535)
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
Hi there, well i guess it depends on the child. My daughter was less than 2 years old and she can speak many words even when she was less than 1 year old. So now that she will be turning 2 years old she can say many words already. I have a nephew who was turning 3 this October, he can't speak much unlike my daughter. But he can recognized many things already, he can write abc's, 1,2,3's and also shapes and colors but the problem is he can speak that much. Maybe there were child who speak late but it doesnt mean there is problem with them. But for me if child is 5 years old is really a late one already. ANyway, i hope i can make sense here, keep on mylotting
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
of course you make sense kmaram. and you explained it very well. yes i believe that children has their own phase. like me when i was a child i learn to sing earlier than i can walk. and one of my child was walking when she was 9 moths old but was late on learning how to read. my first born learned to read both english and tagalog when he was 5 years old. yes i agree with you that 5 years old is late. thanks for the response and havea nice weekend ahead.
• United States
31 Oct 09
I can understand and appreciate the "don't worry about it" responses as I tend to be a laid back, mellow parent. I however have a different perspective: I have a nonverbal 7 year old daughter. I would ALWAYS advise any parent who is concerned about any aspect of their child's development to have them screened for Early Intervention Services. Taking your child to speech therapy might seem sad or scary for some parents, but for the kiddo it's just like play time! And you can catch them up a lot faster when they are little and the issue is identified early. That way they can interact with their peers when they start school and so-forth. Then there will be no or at least less difficulties when social awareness starts. So the 3 year old isn't speaking much, parents are concerned. That should be the biggest indicator: the parents. Follow your gut instinct and get your baby some help. Again, it's fun for the child and will help them before the issue becomes a problem.
• India
26 Aug 09
u r right it can take app 4years for kids to learn to talk , my son is 2Y old and can speak only words , so it differ from child to child tel her not to worry
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
Kids develop in their own pace... i have a friend whose daughter started only to talk at the age of 4... they even thought she was deaf and mute and even took her to a speech therapist... but then... she grew up to be an honor student and is now a registered nurse... My daughter started talking at the age of 1 but walked on her own when she was like 17 months old... quite late in my family where most kids walk even before they turn 1...
@alicia812 (648)
• Australia
22 Aug 09
Hi roni. Kids are different. If your friend's child is merely three, I think there is nothing to worry about. My son Alvin only started talking lately; he is turning three in october. My MIL thought he was already too late to start talking that she was so worried about him. Now that he started talking, nobody can stop him anymore. He is such a chatterbox. Amazingly, he is also starting to spell, not simple words, but words that even kindergarten kids might find difficult to spell (like rocket, guitar, cookie, pie, horn, sheep, slide etc.). Kids are all different. We just need to be patient with them. Tell your friend to talk to her child straight - not baby talk; let her child get more exposed to interactive television programs for kids. It also helps a lot that a parent watches with the kid and talk about the program with the kid.
@horsesrule (1960)
• United States
22 Aug 09
I live with my daughter and her three sons and the youngest boy was three going on four before he started saying simple words. I know this isn't the case for everyone but it turns out that he is on the autism spectrum. He is four now and can say some very simple sentences but he is no where near the level of speech that he should be. We're trying to get him into special ed pre-school to see if they can help but its a long drawn out process that's taken us more than a year and we still aren't finished! But I agree that we should not compare children with other children because everyone is different.