I feel like I am stuck in life

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I am currently in my second year studying my fine art degree. I love it, it is the thing I have known I wanted to do since I was little and I certainly wouldn't want to do anything else degree wise. However, when I started my degree my intentions were alot different. My plans in life were to go onto do another degree after this one so I could finally become qualified as an art therapist and help others. After doing my course for a couple of months it was becoming obvious that my M.E. (that I have had for 13 years) was becoming worse and I was too ill to be in as much as they wanted me to be. The rest of the first year was a struggle but with help from a mentor I somehow managed to get all the work done that I needed to. She did say to me though that I am going to end up failing in the end if I don't transfer to the part time version of the course which means it will take me longer to do. Well at first I was really not liking that idea as by the time I could of been qualified as an art therapist I would of only just got my fine art degree. But I eventually came to terms with the fact that I couldn't help that my M.E. had got bad and I agreed to do so. This is probably the best point to say that I also have moderate clinical depression which quite often leaves me crying for days and unable to leave the house anyway. I also have social anxiety which is another hurdle to come across when it comes to doing things. So anyway, in order for me to go into part time education I have to find the funding for it as part time students can't recieve the funding like I had been able to before. I have been advised to apply for benefits as it is my health that is leaving me feeling this way. However, the process will involve speaking to lots of people which I am mentally unable to do right now. In fact the whole process seems so hard I just don't know where to begin. I am doing this all alone as I havn't told my parents as they will be less than sympathetic. The days where I am feeling well enough to get out of bed I feel like I should be going to sort all these benefits out but I just don't feel mentally well enough. The thought of being around people makes me feel even more depressed. I am on medication and am having councelling for this but it doesn't seem to be making much of a difference, more just that's it's taking up even more of my time making appointments with people so I have less energy for other things like sorting the benefits out. As you can see everything seems like a complete vicious circle. I am now going back to university full time which I have been advised against. I am still mentally unwell and being in the studio last year was so anxiety provoking for me I could only get by during the day by slashing my arms (sorry to be so graphic about it). By going back to university full time I will probably make my M.E. even worse but I have to do something in life. As my mother constantly reminds me, I can't sit and do nothing. I have to say this really annoys me as I am disabled yet my boyfriend has been doing basically nothing for 2 years and my younger sister doesn't do anything either. I know of too many people who don't do anything and live at home yet I am not allowed to do that to get better. I have no idea what to even care about in life anymore. I don't have any friends because of this anxiety. I feel very alone in everything. My family don't have a sympathetic bone in their body about me having M.E. and say I should be having a job while studying full time so I can learn to drive and have a car. Anyway, I have got to the age where I feel I am ready to move out anyway. I want my freedom and everything but I can't move out as I won't be able to earn enough money to support myself. The most I could work is part time which will no way near be enough money. I have a boyfriend but he is now a student too and couldn't afford to live with me either. And having social anxiety means there is no way I would be able to live with anyone else like putting an advert for a housemate or something. Anyway, I didn't want this to seem like a big moan because I do like my life I am just so confused as to what to think, what is the most important thing to do and it is so hard to know what the most important thing to do right now is and what I won't look back on and think was stupid. I don't want to give up on my studies. I don't want to sound pompous or anything but I know I am clever and I like knowing I am using my brain to do something and not letting it go to waste. I am not sure really what I want people to say to this. Maybe you might have an idea of where to start. I just thought I would write it all down since we get paid to write on here and maybe someone will be bothered to read all of this and have some insight into the situation. Thanks to anyone who actually read this.