Ever had a friend like this...?
By zoey7879
@zoey7879 (3092)
United States
August 23, 2009 3:58pm CST
I'm still, supposedly, good friends with an ex-boyfriend, but I still don't think that I have him sussed out. One of the reasons he cited for ending our relationship, was me cutting people out of my life - however, they were people that were using me and just causing drama. Since then, he's been with or has tried to be with just as many new women in just as many months. The last girlfriend he had was so jealous of him talking to people that she flipped if he talked to me, and when he said "I love you" to a female friend (who is a lesbian by the way). My friend was all "Oh you're my angel, you're my life", etc. over, but because of her jealous nature ended the relationship.
Now he's in another relationship, repeating the same behavior "You're my angel, I'll love you forever" and she's worse than the last woman. He defended a friend during a verbal assault from a stranger, and she flipped and gave him the silent treatment for the rest of the day. He told me that he'd told her that he's just about done with her over this behavior - now today he once again caters to her. *Gags*
I'm so sick of my male friends bowing down and "going ga-ga" over 20 year old women who act like they're in junior high and I really am considering whether or not to tell him that if these are the types of women he's going to continually date that I'm not going to continue our friendship because I don't like seeing him subjected (whether it gets him his jollies or not) to this kind of abuse and control.
Does anyone feel that I am wrong for this? Do you have or have you ever had a friend like this?
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4 responses
@silencool (30)
• Singapore
23 Aug 09
so far i never had friend like that. if there is, i would do the same thing as you. i am the type that cannot sit down see my friend is played by the others. but for me, our friendship is the most important, so my advice to you is to be careful not to hurt your friend's feeling. hope you all the best!!
@zoey7879 (3092)
• United States
23 Aug 09
Yes, I don't want to hurt his feelings, but he doesn't really seem to care much about anyone's feelings but his and the bimbos he dates. He blows some friends off a LOT when he dates someone, and it's usually because these girls borderline bimbos have thrown some kind of hissy fit. I don't blow my friends off when I date someone. If the person I'm dating has a problem with my friends, the person that I'm dating is the one that has to go (because chances are that they aren't going to stick around anyway!).
I love it when people talk about how great their relationships are and then they talk about their partners doing stuff like this or how their partner doesn't let them talk to people of the opposite gender... If their relationships were so great, they'd be secure and have trust in their partners to begin with.
@vandana7 (98963)
• India
26 Aug 09
Well, I have never had friend/s like that. Thank god. And u sound intelligent and smart girl, so why are u around this guy anyway, who from what u have written sounds so immature, and desperate to get some girl. Look for somebody who is as intelligent and sane as urself. U have climed the next step of ladder my friend. So both of u are no longer at the same level. He has a lot of growing up to do. :( How can u even be friends for old times sake with a guy like that! Let go. Let him make his own mistakes, and learn his lessons. If he cant, its his problem. U r under no obligation to be his friend, remember?
@DawGwath (1042)
• Romania
24 Aug 09
Such behavior is not only childish, but it's also selfish and destructive (in both cases). If someone can get that jealous over small things like that, it means he/she doesn't trust us enough, so he/she doesn't deserve that kind of special attention from me. When I began my relationship, this was one of the main points I brought into our discussions about our relationship: what are our limits and how do we interpret certain behaviors like kissing a friend (usually on the cheeks) or telling someone that I love them (a very good friend, male or female). If these things give her motives to distrust me, then we can't have a relationship other than a one night stand.
@streethawk420 (1)
• India
23 Aug 09
hey buddy dont worry...........if u think u r rite .den why the hell u care abt rest of the world.....just be u r self..............u are the only one....have an rich atitude.... i truly think u have did an grate job.......u r absolutely right in my way.........!! all yhe best ...buddy.....!!
