Outrageous excuses

United States
August 23, 2009 11:37pm CST
Do you have a friend who is constantly making outrageous excuses for not getting together with you? Excuses that are so outrageous that you feel like they must be true because no one in their right mind would make something like that up and expect someone to believe it. I have one friend who does this all the time and recently I have been wondering if she's being taken advantage of (because 9 out of 10 of her excuses are work related) or if she's lying to me, expecting me to believe her. Like one day, she was supposed to get off work at 1 and kept telling me I'm still at work, I'm still at work until somewhere around 5:30 she tells me I'm on my way home now. What kind of manager just keeps adding more work to someone until they are four and a half hours past the end of their shift?!?! But it's so absurd, I think she'd be nuts to make something like that up and expect me to believe it so it must be true. Has anyone else had to deal with absurd excuses from a friend? Were they lying to you or did you decide they were telling the truth and let the whole thing go?
7 responses
24 Aug 09
I know what you mean. I have a friend who always agrees to meet me and then she either tells me she can't make it or don't call at all. I think that she always intends to meet me but when it comes to it she can't be bothered! I got one excuse (i now don't speak to them now!!)that I couldnt come to dinner with a group of them because they'd already booked a table - this was the type of restuarant that you wouldn't need a reservation in a million years!! To be honest, it may not be so unrealistic that work always gets in the way. It could be that she's broke and doesn't want to tell you so she's taking on extra work for more money and just blaming her boss. I'm self employed and I often have to break plans because I have to take work when I can get it but I'm honest and open with my friends so they understand.
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@snowcat46 (2323)
• United States
26 Aug 09
I've had friends like that. They lie and lie. They want to keep me as a friend, cause then they can get me to do things for them, but they don't really want to spend time with me. I ditched them. But it could be their work is doing that. My hubby kept giving me those lines, and I got really suspicious. So I drove to his work, and there was his truck. I did that a few times, and he was always there. I didn't like it, but I dropped the subject. Then I later started working there too. Staying late was par for the course!! They'd tell everybody NO OVERTIME ALLOWED. But certain people (the hard workers that gave it their all) kept getting grabbed to stay late, work more days, come in early. For over a year, he was working 12/7. It was a hard year. Good financially, hard physically and mentally. Sometimes he'd have 16-18 hour days. At least I only had 12 hour days. They were bad enough. Depends on the person. If you need to, for your own peace of mind, see if their car is at work. It might be tacky, but sometimes one just has to know.
• United States
25 Aug 09
I guess you could confront the person who is giving the excuse and see if it really sticks. Or, you could call the manager and complain that you are a business client and there idea of keeping you waiting is unprofessional, if they exclaim that they don't hold this person over their time limit then you have caught the fly in the web.
@enciel (371)
• Philippines
24 Aug 09
well i guess i have never had someone do something outrageous excuse just not to meet up. i do not know your friend but if it's about work anything can happen. if her boss really works her overtime, i can say that thing can happen. it is happening to me and my workmates as well. it's like i know i am supposed to get out of office at this hour but when i am about to go home my boss piles up suddenly a big chunk of work to finish that day! i am not sure if your friend is really lying or not since you know her more than me. if ever it is real and she does not meet up because of work excuse(or not excuse) i think if she really wasn't lying she'd ask to make it up for you the next time since your get together doesn't go always as planned. if she does ask for a way to make it up to you to another day or perhaps during her weekends i think she could be sincere or telling the truth?
• Philippines
24 Aug 09
Maybe she's not interested on where will you hang out or what type of get together you are going. Or maybe she's a little stress out during workdays to go for a get together. It happens a lot and me myself makes an excuse not to participate on friend's party and the likes. It's not that I don't want to be with them but what I want is to pamper myself from a very long day at work. But surely your friend is still your friend. :)
@lsnggrp (180)
• United States
24 Aug 09
Hey! Sorry to hear about your situation. I have not had a friend that would make outrageous excusses to get out of hanging out with me but I have had so called friends that I considered "best friends" take advantage of me and I know what that feels like. When I was about 16 and a half my parents got me my first car and I was the only one in my group of friends at that age with a car and a license. Now I am one of those people that will go above and beyond for friends and people that I care about and usually people take advantage of that. So when my friends would ask me to drive them here or there or pick them up from work drop them off places I would do it in a second without thinking twice. When I got in a bad situation a few months later I had nowhere to turn. Why? Because my so called friends turned their backs to me and no one would help me. They weren't there when I needed them so I ditched them. And I think that is what you should do. If she keeps doing this over and over again then you need to tell her that you think she is BS-ing you. Listen to what she says and if you still think she is lying then ditch her, you don't need friends like her.
• United States
24 Aug 09
Oh my goodness, I know EXACTLY what you are talking about! I had a friend just like this when I was in high school and honestly she had been my best friend since we were about 7 years old. I ended up finding out that the reasons behind her never being able to come over or stay over night or vice versa was because of her lying to her parents, saying bad things about me so she wouldn't get in trouble of things she had been doing, and she was blaming it on me, which was total BULL. But yes, everytime Id ask her about something, like what she was doing on this date, she would tell me one thing or anything, and eventually I got so sick of it, she and I aren't friends anymore because she is a stealing thief, almost had to go to jail but is pregnant and on the bracelet, and is a pathological liar. LOL. Wow right?