Why we have so many excuses and reasons if we never get what we expected?

@mobhomeir (7565)
Philippines
August 24, 2009 6:44pm CST
Our candidate for Ms Universe never even selected to top 15 finalists. She is Ms Bianca Manalo. After the event I already heard some comments and some excuses why we lost... In your point of view, why we never accept loses and failure of something out of what we expected...? If we would just set our minds not to expect too much confident I think we never would come to into like this... What is your opinion about this...?
8 responses
• United States
25 Aug 09
It's so true. Every single day, someone, if not everyone uses excuses for everything that didn't happen "right". I think we are like that by nature, we can't accept failure very well. If we weren't to do this maybe we would be able to correct what we did wrong the first time that made us not succeed.
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@agv0419 (3030)
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
I'm stop expecting that our candidate going to get award or going to chose on top 15. They making us believe that she going to make and I heard it many times from the past candidates. I feel sorry for her it is not her fault because there are many candidates to choose from. I don't know why Venezuela always won I think it is because they are very serious about it and they have training school for Miss Universe. I think it is not our time and I'm hoping that they going to get notice the beauty of Filipinas in the years to come.
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@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
26 Aug 09
You're right. I think the best thing for us to do is, we learn to accept defeat and failure because we are NOT the one competing on any events. If we think ourselves thatwe are the best or we are better, it would not be right. What about the others? Why we boast ourselves when we would not be the one judging the event? Can we really be sure we would win? I think the best for us to do is, exert more effort to win next time and never boast ourselves to other nations. If we know how to celebrate wins we must also learn to accept defeat and failure... Yes you're righ, "better luck next time"...thanks for responding...
• Philippines
26 Aug 09
This is comparable to the attitude like in an election if the Philippines that if the candidate lost, they we're cheated or any other excuse that you can think of. These are the attitude that I think we should be avoiding if we want progress and let's move forward because a loss is a way to win next time.
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@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
27 Aug 09
You're right my friend. I think we would not make to feel ourselves too confident on any events so that if we can't make it our ego would not be so touched because we said nothing to ourselves prior to the events...thanks for responding...
• Philippines
26 Aug 09
i think it is because having an excuse lessen the disappointment and frustration we feel everytime we fail to achieve what we wish to achieve. isn't it true that even if we don't expect that much it still hurt when we don't get what we want. it's a natural reaction when we meet failures. it's just how life is...
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@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
27 Aug 09
Yes you may be right. For me, to avoid frustration and disappointment we must not boast our ability to achieve what we expected to be. I mean, we would not put too much confidence on our candidates or even to ourselves so that when we could not make it, at least we said nothing that could touch our ego...I hope I made myself understood...thanks for responding...
@russso (1701)
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
I think it's very Pinoy to find an excuse after a loss - it happens all the time. In a basketball game for instance, if a team doesn't win, either it's luto or the refs have preferential treatment for the other team. I guess the best way to look at this is to simply accept that there are others who are better, that's when the cliche-ish saying, "Better luck next time..." applies. It wasn't our time to win the title Ms. Universe again. This pass the bucket attitude isn't really healthy because it makes a person not accountable for things that he or she has done. It's important to accept things as they are and not to expect so much. Nice topic.Ü
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@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
I like what you mean. I appreciate it...thanks for responding then my friend...
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
Hello Martin, Failure is normally cannot be accepted so easily.But just like what winners always say " i win and you lose...that's the real fact " Wether the loser will commented and say against the winner and even if the loser will enumerate all excuses just to lift her ego..it doesn't make a sense anymore.The WINNER IS PROCLAIMED...who will care to hear the loser's explaination then? Acceptance should always be the name of the game...be a sport.Always bear in mind that in every contests/battles...there is only two categories to be considered...WINNER and LOSER. And as a Filipino,we should accept that,our Expectant lose this time...let's try again next time..
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@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
Yes that should have been our mindset. Accept without any excuses and enjoy to the fullest the winning moment. I was not blaming our Bianca because she never had any excuses but for those people who never been in the event were the one commenting most. Life sometimes you're at the top next day your at the bottom. If we know how to accept success and wins we must learn also to accept the agony of defeat in this way if we master this on ourselves the agony of defeat would never be so hurting...thanks my dear friend for responding..
@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
25 Aug 09
Hi friend, This is a fact that we complain of our fortune more than Nature. The kinder the latter the harder the former. There is lack of both introspection and retrospection what I feel. Mere complaining against our fortune or finding faults with other would never help. what is necessary is to look into the shortcoming of yours. Just taking the example of Ms. Universe I have seen them becoming one from a country you would probably need to check the maps to locate the place but why not from Philippines or India or China?
@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
Sorry my friend you're using deep analogy he he he I can't hardly catch that but I appreciate you for that. You must be a writer or a journalist. Well, in my opinion, this would be as simple as this; If we know how to celebrate the winning moment of our lives we must also accept failure and losses because life is full trials. Another thing, we must not be boastful on our capacity, on our ability but we would just save it on the actual event of whatever role we play in our life.. if we would do that the agony of defeat would not be so hurting... he he he I hope you got me understood my friend, did I said well? he he he Thanks for responding...
@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
This is always a common reaction of people who never know how to treat life fairly. Well, if we look at the real meaning of life, defeat is normal and so with failure, we can never attain what we want in life all the time, it's pretty amusing on why we could not just face the truth. As a Filipino, me too had high hopes for Bianca Manalo to place in the Ms. Universe tilt and I was even a little disappointed when no Asians managed to be in the top 15 semifinalists. But I regained my composure quickly and just treated Ms. Universe contest as one of those contest out there who always have a disappointing twist that may not be favorable to other people. But I never blamed anybody or even Bianca why everything failed. It is a reality that we must accept and hopefully learned from those failures so that the next time, Philippine representatives will be more cautious and mindful what things to be done.
@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
Yes. I did not mean I blamed Bianca, in fact I appreciate her for job well done. But for those other people who had some reasons and excuses it should not be...you're right we must learned to accept failure so much so if we also celebrate the winning moment of our lives...thanks for your opinion..
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
I think it's normal to some who cannot immediately accept being lost especially if they think they have done their best. I haven't heard yet about the excuses, but I suppose what they should do is to analyze the situation. Ms. Venezuela won 2 in a row, and they have been winning multiple times. Therefore, it would be better if the local coordinators of Ms. Philippines will study the data and check how they can improve. Unfortunately, not accepting losses is also visible to our local elections which shows being unprofessional among politicians. Thanks!
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@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
You're right my friend. For me, in my own opinion, we should not count the chicks while the eggs are not yet hatched. Another thing like this are those of our boxers competing internationally. Why we boast our capability our ability where the game is yet to be played. When they lost, there would always some excuses and reasons why they lost. Why just be silent and show our arsenals and strength during the game. When we lost nothing to be ashamed of...thanks anyway for responding...