Why some people can never change themselves?

@mastinet (467)
India
August 25, 2009 4:28am CST
Why is it so that some people can never change and they always want to remain as they are? Most of the peoples who do not want to change have some attitude problem and they think that they are the one who are always correct in all situations. While the case is always different.
6 responses
@vandana7 (67604)
• India
25 Aug 09
I will disagree with u on this mastinet. :-) even though u gave me BR. :-) Everybody changes, subtly. Some more rapidly in one aspect, while others more rapidly in another aspect. We all form some habits and routines over the years. Even these change slowly. U may be talking of people who as the first post put it, are on defensive. But then, they have not yet come across adequate reasons to accept that change. Right now, the RAM and ROM of their brain is not adequately free to accept ur reasoning, if u can accept the comparison. Hopefully, the changes u want to c in them are reasonable. Give them time. They will come around. Dont expect everybody to do it like another person. We are all different, with different makes.
@mastinet (467)
• India
25 Aug 09
Thanks. Fully agreed. Everyone is not alike. Different people have different thoughts and different behaviour. Time also plays an important role in change. Everything can not happen in minutes. Well change is the demand of current era and we have to mold ourselves accordingly.
@cvrajan (356)
• India
25 Aug 09
Pose the question to yourself! Think of how you were 5 years ago: how your likes and dislikes were, how your attitudes were, how your outlook towards others was, how egoistic you were, to what extent you had capacity to manage your anger etc. Now think of how you are now, in comparison with what you were 5 years ago. Have you become less egoistic? Are you able to manage your anger better? Do you get excited to things the same way you had been then? Have you turned more diplomatic? Are you in a position to accept others' view points better? Does anyone very close to you can give a honest certificate to you that you have changed quite a bit for the good in these 5 years? If you get lots of positive (and absolutely honest!) "yes" to many of these queries, then I would say, you are qualified to pose this question!
@mastinet (467)
• India
25 Aug 09
Thanks for your suggestive comments. I agree with you that one should look into their own behaviour change before going for others. The questions you put are very true and they will definitely benefit me in assessing myself.
@san_683 (88)
• India
25 Aug 09
that is a psychological factor present inherently amongst ppl.in any field you take ppl try to outwit the other person and then show off their talents in front of everyone.They feel they need to be right always and then if someone contrdicts them, they go on the defensive and always say they are right, being arrogant. This becomes a habit of theirs rite from the childhood, nothing could be done, just need to ignore such people. The main reason for their attitude is their ego centric nature....
@mastinet (467)
• India
25 Aug 09
I fully agree with you dear. some people can never change even if God try it too. They always want to remain defensive and safe
@dlr297 (5418)
• United States
25 Aug 09
I do not know why people do not change, and they think that they are always right. you would think that they would learn from their mistakes, and try to change into a better person.
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
I think change should come from the heart and there should be a commitment to. Its never easy to change bad attitude and bad habit but it all starts with the willingness to do so. without the willingness change would never come forth
• China
25 Aug 09
hi matinet.i think some people can never change themselves,beacuse they don't have upward mobility.so they can never change themselves.