Do not Interfere in Others' Business Unless Asked
August 26, 2009 3:46am CST
Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others' affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not confirm to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of god.. god has each one of us in a way. No two human being can think or act exactly the same way. All men or Women act the way they do beacuse god within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you will keep your peace.
• United States
27 Aug 09
I like this, but sometimes even the "unless asked" part doesn't work out. A friend used to call me constantly, telling me about her boyfriend and all their problems. I would listen. If she asked me for advice, I would give her advice, but only if she asked first. I would stress that my proposed actions were what I would do but she had to make up her own mind about whether she would follow my advice or not. It was totally up to her, and I warned her several times that, although this is what I would do in this or that situation, she would need to do what she thought was right. She took my advice and told me first how well it all worked out. I was proud of her because she has very low self-esteem and was finally standing up for herself. Then a year later or so the relationship started to fizzle and somewhere in passing she told me she didn't think he cared for her anymore (I never did think he cared for her, just due to his negative actions but I never told her that). Then she said, "If I hadn't demanded all that attention"....that "demand" was nothing more than he treat her with more love and respect..."and if I hadn't ever listened to you in the first place, then I think he'd still be in love with me." All I basically told her to do was to refuse to put up with negative treatment, with scathing verbal abuse because he'd had a bad day and to ask that he treat her with more respect and love. Still, when the relationship fizzled, instead of blaming her boyfriend who had always treated her poorly, she decided to blame me for the problem, who had always been there for her, because she had asked for and then taken my advice. Now, even if someone asks for my advice, I think long and hard before answering.