hanging out with friends?
September 1, 2009 8:39pm CST
My parent won't allow me to hang out with my friends because of the things they do, but I'm not like that! what can i do?...Hai. Well obviously i have problem its not the big thinks .But i need to know your opinion. I have this ground of people i call them "friends" they have really bad habits.. they drink they smoke and other are doing drug i things.. but i kinda surprised me that they are smart people and sometimes they are top 5 in class. My parent considered me as a smart ones and lately they forbids me being friends with them. I like being friends with them cuz they the only friends i have. I don't want them to hate me because of this. Everytime my friends wanted to go out with me, my father would be so mad at me and like right now hes not talking to me because of this.. I swear to god I'm not like one of them i just want to have friends. that's all what should i do. thanks
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2 Sep 09
I strongly believe that they're just protecting you from possible severe consequences. do you think you can still be the same smart guy if you start acting like them?? because this is who they are i think since their early times, so they got used to it. they fear that you might change and could loose your focus on your studies. the world we live in now is so difficult and unpredictable because people have the capacity to pretend and betray you in a heat beat.you don't need to swear to god since you already told us this, we believe you..
2 Sep 09
if i am in that situation i should tell my parents that even my friends have a bad habbits they are smart. and i will also told my friends to stop drinking,smoking too much .. i should be a good influence to them .... i will help them to become good person.
2 Sep 09
i agree that i would not understand the situation until i do have kids of my own but i think that it is inappropriate for parents to judge others based solely on the bad things that they do. even if your friends are what they call as "wild," as you have said, they are still being responsible as they sometimes reach top 5 in their class. i may have friends like yours too and it p*sses me off when other people judge them because they drink or they smoke or they do whatever, but sometimes these people are the best open-minded people you could ever meet. bad habits are that. bad habits. they can own a person but until a person is responsible enough and not make the habits rule them, then we have no right to judge a person. and you are what 27? is that your real age? hehe if you are 27 then parents' advise are always welcome but come to think of it, you are old enough to think for yourself. :) ask yourself why you are friends with them because as you also said, you like being friends with them because they are the only friends you have. i just hope that that is not just the reason why. :)
2 Sep 09
I think it is something you probably wont really understand until you have kids of your own, parents worry and they have to protect you and with the wild thing going on today they must do their best to shelter you...I used to hang around with rather wild kids and I was a very shy kid and i couldn't understand why my parents stopped me from going out with some of them but today i do understand...