How do you forgive those who have hurt you?

China
September 3, 2009 10:16am CST
Forgive means you have forgotten the hurt in you heart,otherwise, the hurt concentrate in your hert and hurt you more.When you want to forgive,you will find trouble putting it out of mind.The more you persuade yourself, the more difficult you find it to forgive.Have you ever forgiven others or being forgiven by others ? Have you got the experience that you haven't recovered with someone but you have forgiven him or her in the heart?Talk about how you have forgiven the one who hurt you?
2 responses
@sredith (239)
• United States
3 Sep 09
Forgiving and forgetting are really not the same thing. Just because you have made the choice to forgive someone doesn't mean you're not going to remember the situation, and that's not necessarily a bad thing. The reason you should forgive a person as that the longer you dwell on the things that hurt you, the more you're hurting yourself. Chances are the person that hurt you isn't feeling half as bad as you are, so why would you punish yourself because another person hurt you. I have made the choice to forgive those that have hurt me in the past, and I have taken those memories as learning experiences. I still remember what has happened, but I don't use it as an excuse, and I don't hold the past against people, but I am more aware that painful things can happen, and I am more cautious about who I trust and let get too close to me!
@smileonstar (4013)
• United States
3 Sep 09
For me it might take a long time to forget or forgive if someone I loved hurt me so bad. But if Im in the same relationship then I have to forgive in order to work out together. I used to get hurt before and it took me almost 5 years to forgive him. I think if I still mad or angry with him until now, it means I am not over him yet... so let him go for good. he has move on , so am I