Do you find it hard to understand other people?

September 9, 2009 2:20am CST
I have this teenage boy who is part of my group. He seem so cool and that is annoying me. I knew he is experiencing a lot of difficulty in life and has experience many failures in the past months. He is not doing his task well but does not bother to say sorry or no sign of being affected that he is bothering a lot of people. I don't want to look at him, hear his voice or just get near him. But one day the inevitable happens. We get together as a group and I would need to listen to what they all are going through. I was interested with the others but with him I don't know how to respond. So before his turn came, I made a decision to listen to him... really really listen and see where he is coming from. I'm asking God for compassion and love for him. Because I felt I run out for him. Amazingly, when his turn came and I tried to really understand where he is coming from. I felt this flowing compassion for him, like a river overflowing to me. And then I begin to love him. Now after that event, he is also responding to me better that before!
3 responses
@med889 (5958)
9 Sep 09
I have to admit that I do find it a bit difficult sometimes to understand people and those especially I do not know before, the way of talking and argumentative go totally on the wrong way though. I have a friend who is well off compare to us but she complains a lot about her life and sometimes she will tells you her problems which she thinks exist and in fact does not so this makes me a bit angry also as she is inviting problems and we infact have to find solution for problems. So I do not understand how their mind function. There is one saying which says "what is mind? Matter. What is matter? Never mind"
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
That is really hard to understand. But maybe your friends needs attention. If you said she has things that supposed to make her happy and content and keep imagining things or problem which she doesn't actually have. You have to get to know her more. And I'm sure you will understand her better
@rmuxagirl (7562)
• United States
18 Sep 09
I do find it hard sometimes to understand other people. I work with people that have different ways of doing thing and personalities and I have to say I dont understand my co-workers all the much anymore. Some of them do things that make you say/think...."What the h*ll where you thinking"
• United States
10 Sep 09
I find it difficult to understand people that have accents from different coutnries. I believe to me they are the hardest to understand, i do try my hardest to understand them but it is hard. I went to the doctor about a couple weeks back and he was not from America at all but from a different country and i was by myself and trying to understand everything he was saying at times it as difficult but after all i could understand everything he was saying by putting together little bits and pieces of things he was saying since i could not understand it all.