Are you concerned about divorce?

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India
September 9, 2009 4:14am CST
I guess most people know about Sir Paul McCartney's divorce. His ex-wife has a good amount of his money. In most countries divorce law favor the women. Even if its the woman who wants to get the divorce the lawyer can make the case favorable for the woman. The man can be in a lot of trouble and loose a lot of money. On the other hand there laws in certain countries which favor men. Men can easily divorce or get rid of a woman. The woman would be left on her own and would not get support from the society. Man or woman, are you concerned about divorce?
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31 responses
@celticeagle (120473)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Sep 09
I am a woman and if I was in a situation where divorce was in the immediate future it would be a positive to think that it would probably be in my favor. I think that alot goes into this. Woman for many years stayed home and took on the house wive title and I think she was due alot in the case of a divorce. Now days it depends on the situation. But, even now, woman are still usually on the lower end of the totem pole when it comes to income, hourly wage, bonuses, etc. Depends on the circumstances.
10 Sep 09
today, divorse for everyone, it is normal
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@med889 (5958)
9 Sep 09
I am a law student and I have worked with some lawyers in the past, we get more money when we make divorces for people so at first I was a bit disturbed with the cases we were getting but once a woman told me to keep my advises for myself and do her divorce right now because it all matters to her so from that day I only do my work instead of trying to help them get together again.
• India
10 Sep 09
It was your good heart which made you give advice. There are some people who throw our advise back at our face.
@mohitseth (568)
• India
9 Sep 09
no i would not do anything so that i think of divorce. i want a perfect married life with mutual understandind. bye,happy mylotting.
• India
9 Sep 09
Being positive is good. Hope you have a good married life.
@bunnybon7 (37649)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Sep 09
hey the way i see it is if the person is good with you or is worth your time you wont seek divorce. i was divorced, or rather i did divorce 4 times because my first 4 husbands always turned out to be completely different then they led me to believe and very abusive. so, no, i wouldnt be concerned if its not working out it just never will.
@AKMEDIA2 (328)
• United States
15 Sep 09
Money shouldn't be the primary issue in a divorce. If there is a divorce which is the worst case scenario it should be because two people absolutely don't love each other anymore.
@harmonee (1236)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I'm not concerned about divorce. I do agree that most countries favor women, but I have seen it go the other way with my inlaws. My mother in law cheated and left my father-in-law. She then took him to court and tried to take half of everything. She ended up with nothing. It gave me a little faith in the system, that not every woman will end up with a favorable divorce decision just because of their gender.
@sugarlen (138)
• Philippines
12 Sep 09
In the Philippines, we do not have any divorce. We continue to keep the Catholic belief that what God has joined together, let no man put asunder. However, we have annulment and legal separation when a couple can't really stand being together.. though this is quite tough and very expensive to undertake. So the lesson in life is try to get the person whom you really love and can withstand the test of times despite adversities in life.
@suesan35 (479)
• Sri Lanka
12 Sep 09
Divorce is sad. In some countries its so easy for people to divorce that they don't even take the time to see if their marriage can be saved. For some, it's a joke. Married and divorced in 3 weeks. I can never understand people like that. Why did they get married in the first place? Is it that they are well know and want to be in the limelight like celebrities? They then get bored with their life and in order to get attention again they divorce. It's so sad if there are children involved. On the other hand, if the husband is abusive or if he can be dangerous, there's nothing you can do about it. In marriage there's nothing called 50-50. I always think that marriage should be 100%-100% in order to be successful. Also, I think its demeaning to fight for property and money once the love is gone. If he or she doesn't want you, why would you want the other things that anyway don't belong to you? I'll get out with only what I brought, unless the husband gives something willingly.
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
As a filipino living here in our country where Marriage is very important to us, I am very much concerned about having divorce. Always find ways to settle things between your partner. Practically, divorce here is expensive. Godly, you have to prove to yourself that you married a person you loved most and remember you swear to God.
@sredith (239)
• United States
11 Sep 09
When I had my divorce it was fairly simple. We didn't own anything together, we didn't have any children or any money, so my only concern was finding a new place to live because the place was his. So it was a really clean divorce for the most part. I can't imagine having to sit in court with lawyers arguing trying to divide up assets!
@happy6162 (3011)
• United States
11 Sep 09
No, I am not concerned about divorce. I have been married to my loving husband for 35 years now and do not plan on getting a divorce. We do not agree on everything but who does.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
11 Sep 09
I hate divorce my friend. That is why I am very much concerned about it. I hate to heard about husband and wife get divorce and some cases where they cannot consider about the strong commandments of God, to preserve the sanctity of marriage. Even the law equalize the right of husband and wife. I don't agree about it and I strongly oppose divorce. How about you my friend are you agree about this?
@suzzy3 (8357)
10 Sep 09
I always feel sorry for the person left on their own,while the other one goes off with someone.Especially when kids are involved.It is always sad when a divorce takes place.I hate seeing someone taken to the cleaners and left in poverty ,male of female.
• United States
10 Sep 09
I believe in divorce under certain cases unfaithfulness abuse ect. My fear of divorce nowadays is no one really works at making it work. I think too many people act like a marriage is a temporary item to get rid of when they get bored. Marriage is suppose to be sacred not a temporary situation
@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
10 Sep 09
I am not too worried about divorce, and if you are worried about it I guess you are not in a healthy relationship to start of with. I know the chances of divorce are quite high, so I can't close my eyes and believe it will never ever happen to me, but for the time being I am hanging on to my gut feeling that our relationship is good the way it is. I am not married yet but I have been engaged for a while. In the Netherlands you can marry someone and not have your money and property be engaged in the progress, I don't know how it's called in English (I would have to look it up). So either you choose to marry and split your earnings if something happens, but if you choose the other way around neither of you can ever get anything of the others persons money or belongings. It's very popular for rich people who want to make sure they person who is marrying them is not just in it for the money.
@magickat (382)
10 Sep 09
I am in the process of getting divorced at the moment. Fortunately this is an amicable split so there is no fighting over money etc and there are no children involved. We divided any money equally and it is now just a matter of waiting forthe legal procedures to go through. I think it is very sad when divorce becomes acrimonious, partners can become greedy and it can be very tough on the children.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
10 Sep 09
I have been through divorce and aside from it being a very painful and sad experience it was for the best in my case because my ex husband and I parted amicably and have both since remarried other people and have happy families which would probably not have been the case had we stayed together. Having said all that I do think that divorce is a concern nowadays with more and more couples heading to the courts and it is a concern when children are involved. My ex partner and I did not have kids and that made the whole procedure relatively simple albeit very emotionally painful. I do think that people do choose divorce over the hard work required to keep a marriage alive because it is, a lot of the time, the easier alternative and I confess I may have been guilty of that too although I was fortunate in the end. My belief is that before walking away from a serious relationship one should consider having left no stone unturned and only when there is no more that can be done one should contemplate divorce.
@ds6413 (2073)
• United States
10 Sep 09
Hello, well since I have been married and divorced I'm not in much of a hurry to marry again.My ex and I had not much property. He got his things and I got mine. I didn't ask for support. I could have asked for half of his retirement but I just wanted to be let go.I did not want to be in contact with him. I have not seen or spoken with him since I left with nothing but the clothes I had.Since we had no children there was no reason to ever speak with him.
@careguarden (5674)
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
Yeah, I'm concerned with divorce because I don't really like the thought of it. Marriage should be for a lifetime, divorce should only be applicable to abusive couple. As nowadays there's an increasing rate and cases of couples breaking up simply they're not happy with their partner, or they fall out of love. That's absurd reason. Couples should not be too selfish thinking only their own happiness. They should take consideration of people who would be much affected on their decision, especially their children. They should give a good example about the meaning of love and marriage.