they drive me nuts sometimes

United States
September 9, 2009 2:25pm CST
Alright, so I have this friend. I'm not sure what and how to say to here. I have given her space but she knows that I am there for her. We had made plans this past weekend to get together b/c I have a bunch of baby clothes for her. I told her that I want them out of my house. I have literally no room to store them. They have been in my 2 y/o's bath tub for a while and my son has been showering with daddy. Anyway, getting off the topic. She never texted or called on Saturday til it was an hour b4 my son's bedtime. I told her that it was too l8 and that I had to stay home on Sun. She told me that it was fine and that she would fill me in on Sun. I asked if she was coming down and she said yes. I waited all day. She told me that she was going to be here 4ish. 4 came and went. I texted her at 4:15 asking if she was on the way and i heard nothing. Finally at 4:30 I called and texted to let her know that my son and I were going up to my parents for dinner. I wasnt going to miss out on a great meal for her. I heard nothing. She said that she sleeps all day b/c of her meds. That night, I get an i.m. from her @ 11pm!!! I didnt reply back. I'm quite pissed at her b/c I ruined 2 beautiful days waiting around for her to ditch me. I know she has a lot to deal with but she is loosing a lot more by the way she is acting. Finally, on Tuesday, I had mu husband take all the babies clothes to salvation army. I gave her months on end and I was going to take them to her but she always flakes out. I hope she gets it through her head that it is not always about her and that the way she does things affects other people as well.
2 responses
afresh94
@afresh94 (10)
• United States
9 Sep 09
I've known WAAAAAAY too many people like this. They always have an excuse and love to walk on people, use us. I have one friend in particular that if she is not hanging out with her random list of men that she prefers to make plans with before anyone else, then she is free to hang with the girls, so needless to say, unless they ALL piss her off at one time, she is never around. I have given up on people like this. There are only so many chances you can give this type of person, and I think you gave them PLENTY! Just forget her!
erbear0879
@erbear0879 (134)
• United States
9 Sep 09
Its so hard b/c I've known her since junior high. She always turns around an argument like its my fault. I have given her so many chances and finally I put my foot down and have not gotten ahold of her. She finally texted me apologizing for her being distant but that doesnt cut it anymore.
writermom8
@writermom8 (913)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
There are a lot of people like that. What's funny is that I know some who are so thick-skinned that they really don't realize that they're frustrating the cr*p out of others! I have found that the only way of dealing with these kinds of people is to tell them straight off about what I felt on how they treated me or the way they acted that was offensive to me. Some do seem to wake up from dreamland and learn to apologize and try to modify their behavior while most continue to be their irritating selves. When that's the case, I try as much as possible to minimize any contact with them afterward. Yes, your friend should finally bump her head and realize that the world doesn't revolve around her!