FOR THE MEN: How do you REALLY know FOR SURE that you're already in love?

Philippines
September 12, 2009 11:56pm CST
As I was browsing through the internet last night, I came across this particular site about love and men. Hmmm.... I thought why not give it a try and maybe I can learn a thing or two about men. And come to understand my husband a little bit more. You would think that after almost 8 years of being married, I know him well enough now. But!!!I'm still on the road of discovery. And, I guess, I always will. So, for the male population of Mylot... what makes you decide for sure that one smile from her makes you feel so complete...? What makes you so sure that she does make you happy for the simplest things she does for you...? And what makes you a 100% sure that just by looking into her eyes, you want to tell her the words, " I love you.."
6 responses
@zed_k4 (17633)
• Singapore
13 Sep 09
Sacrifice, commitment, fidelity and respect. When a man loves a woman, I believe these are the ingredients to a successful love, from a relationship right up till marriage..
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• Philippines
14 Sep 09
Hello again zed Thank you for sharing those important things. Indeed, any relationship won't survive if it doesn't have even just one of those you have mentioned.
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@zed_k4 (17633)
• Singapore
14 Sep 09
Not easy to do, I find.. but I'll die trying.. hmmmm ..
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• Philippines
15 Sep 09
I have a question zed. In a man's point of view. It's a fact that there are men who complains of having partners that nags them on a regular basis. But how do men define the true meaning of nagging? How will you best describe a true nagging?
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@cbakin20 (151)
• United States
13 Sep 09
For me, there's always been a certain feeling that I get. I can't really describe it at all. It's kind of similar to the fluttering you get when you're nervous, but also really different from that. It really helps me, though, to know when I get that feeling, I'm not just kidding with myself. And that's the point when I am the most happy and feel the most complete, with her.
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• Philippines
13 Sep 09
The feeling of being inlove can be unexplainable..cbakin. I've been married for almost 8 years now but still, I get to feel those "funny" feelings toward my husband. Positive "funny" feelings though.
@cbakin20 (151)
• United States
14 Sep 09
Yeah, I know exactly what you mean! It's great, and I love the feeling, but it certainly is a "funny" feeling. It's great that it can happen just by looking at the person you love :)
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• Philippines
14 Sep 09
I know what you mean...Sometimes, one look is enough. No words are needed. I do have a question though for you cbakin, well if you don't mind. Does admitting to what one feels, make him less a man? I just realized that my discussion may raise some disagreements. I have read once though, that it takes more courage for a man to admit to what he feels. But it doesn't make him less than a man. I'm aware that men and women have different views on so many things. But then, it doesn't hurt to know a thing or two about how a man see love and relationships.
@pandapig8 (362)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
I know for sure that I am in love when I do the things that I don't normally do and actually like it because when I do those things I remember just one thing. I remember her. I remember to smile because I remember her's. I remember to live because she has brought me a life that I do not want to let go of. That is when I know for sure that I am head over heels in love
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• Philippines
13 Sep 09
Sorry that i double posted, i just used my mobile phone to post and am currently having problems
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• Philippines
14 Sep 09
That's ok. I had the same experience with double postings, too.
@BlueGoblin (1833)
• United States
13 Sep 09
What's with all them men being hypersensitive in this discussion? Men don't talk about their feelings. I'm disappointed in all of you men. Women are naturally curious about such things. They can't help themselves. Best to stay mysterious and give them something to ponder while they cook your dinner. When confronted with such questions in the future just make a grunt and walk in the other room. This is how a perfect relationship works. You start talking about your feelings then she has more questions then she questions your feeling about her. Keep it zipped up!
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• Philippines
14 Sep 09
It never hurts to admit a thing or two. There are women who greatly appreciates and respects a man who's honest with what they feel.
@pandapig8 (362)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
I know for sure that I am in love when I do the things that I don't normally do and actually like it because when I do those things I remember just one thing. I remember her. I remember to smile because I remember her's. I remember to live because she has brought me a life that I do not want to let go of. That is when I know for sure that I am head over heels in love
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• Philippines
14 Sep 09
The site I was talking about stated that for most of the men interviewed, there's one specific thing that they would like to do. Be a better man..
@williamjisir (22909)
• China
13 Sep 09
Hello jcj. When there is someone you are always thinking of, caring about, then it is time to show that you are in love with your lady or your man. This is what I think based on my own experience. You are right to say that there is still so much waiting for you to discover after years of marriage. So it is with the others, I guess. You know, man's mind is live like floating water. Flow with the water to the sea, and you will find that there is so much for the water to experience. So I guess you see my point there. Good day to you, jcj.
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• Philippines
13 Sep 09
Hello again william "Can't sleep, can't eat...can't think anything else but you.. ", Now, that's what love does to anyone who finds themselves hopelessly inlove. I had the same experience with my husband. We didn't regularly see each other because we were both busy with our studies. But in between those times that we never see each other,he always occupied my mind. I kept thinking what he's doing at the moment, and how I long to see him again. And, he said, it's the exact same thing for him.