Why were we created not to get along? :|

@resssaaa (445)
Philippines
September 13, 2009 12:29am CST
I don't get it. Man and woman were created to be together still It is part of life for both to not get along. I mean what's the point? are these really trials or what? Well I've observed this for a very long time and every couple fights for a lot of common and I mean really common reasons. When will these stop? Its kinda weird that all of us know that fighting for something as very small as can be is really not worth fighting for but still why do couples fight for some reasons like that still? It just really puzzles me. It's like when you enter a relationship you too entered a world of pain, anger and confusing thoughts aside from love.
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@phyrethyme (1267)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
Hm. Biologically, males and females are created to match up and fill the earth. Regarding your post.. All I can think of is the Venus-Mars thing. It's not really a matter of being created to not get along. It boils down on understanding people's behaviors. It's really difficult, conflicts in relationships. We all fight because we do not understand each other.. I don't think fights would ever stop because people would usually take their stand, stand up for what they think is right. Some people, like me, are stubborn enough to listen to the other party's side. Fights can lessen if people would take time understanding each other.. Relationships are supposed to be pretty.. Sorry for the lack of a better term. Men and women are created to work together, not to fight..
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@resssaaa (445)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
Yes, I get your point. Its just I've grown pretty tired of the fighting and all. I mean why can't we just all get along? Such conflicts often leads to heartaches which most of the time are not supposed to happen. People break up just because of small reasons nowadays. It just makes it feel unfair.
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• Philippines
13 Sep 09
What if.. Sometimes, some people aren't just fit to be together.. I don't know. If it doesn't work, it just doesn't.. It's hard to force things to work. Too much pressure leads to damage.
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@resssaaa (445)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
Yeah, maybe. What if.. But what if you just started in the room foot? you get what I mean? Personally, I've never believed that people were meant to be together or not. For me, you're the one who's supposed to make your own destiny or something.
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@angelajoy (1840)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
You may find this hard to believe, but fighting really makes a couple's relationship stronger. Of course, I'm talking about moderate fighting and not the kind where couples do nothing but fight. I've learned in my 25 years that in life there are always two sides to everything and that these two sides complement each other. For example, if you've never known hunger you would not know what it is to have a full stomach. If we never die we would most likely just take life for granted. And if people do not know war and discord they would not appreciate peace. When my boyfriend and I fight, we feel resentful toward each other, but after that we would realize that we can't live without each other and make things up between us. I don't like fighting, but when we do fight and make up afterwards our love becomes stronger and sweeter. That's because when we fight, we learn to appreciate how wonderful our relationship is when everything is peaceful between us.
@resssaaa (445)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
That's so nice :) Yes that happens to me too, but sometimes one has to grow tired of all those fighting. :( Does he even love me for that? It makes me think I'm the stronger one. haha! The feeling is pretty much unexplainable after you fight and begin to make up. It makes me happy during those times.
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@angelajoy (1840)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
Yes, that feeling's lovely, isn't it? But couples really have to take care not to fight too often because everything should have a balance. It's OK to fight, but only once in a while. When all you do is fight, then there's got to be something wrong in your relationship.
@resssaaa (445)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
yes, I've encountered that situation. Something or someone from you both must have something wrong. Sometimes the pretty main reason is pride. A person's pride keeps the fight going on I guess, and if one does not care to adjust for the other, or just has a bad temper and does not even bother to change him/herself.
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@yecal10 (145)
• United States
14 Sep 09
It is basically because we communicate differently.
@resssaaa (445)
• Philippines
14 Sep 09
Yes. All of us communicate differently but despite that we could still too find out ways on how to make us understand each other. :)
@tundeemma (896)
• South Africa
13 Sep 09
we were not created like that but circumstances of life has turned everybody against each other and people have to take different course to fulfill their dreams and live the kind of life they always wanted to live, i do believe that people are created to help each other but challenges of life has made it really difficult
@resssaaa (445)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
This is the fact I just can't get over with. Why does life have to be created with lots of circumstances that one could hardly understand? It's pretty much hard to cope up with life. Now I have begin to realize how complicated it is. Life is simple, I may say but in the simplest ways you find the most complicated things.
@magickat (382)
13 Sep 09
Don't give up on things just because you have had bad experiences. It is not just a male/female thing. If you spend a lot of time with one person, whoever they are, you will argue, even over small things. It is sad when a relationship turns sour, but persevere, you will find someone to enrich your life eventually. It is unrealistic to expect you will never argue, it is more important to focus on how you resolve conflicts.
@resssaaa (445)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
Yes, you're right. Although I just can't accept the fact why things should end just because of the smallest reasons. I just can't get over the fact that life has to be full of arguments and stuff. It makes me get used to the fact that all things have to end. But I know you'd end up in a good ending.. eventually. The hard part is that you have to go through a lot before being happy.
• China
13 Sep 09
Life gets meaning because of relationship ,crush,combination,and fights so called.No sorrows,no happiness;no fight ,no peace.Between every two words like this ,there's a balanced point,that's the reason the world works.Fortunately,there's always solutions to the problems,but before that happens ,fight naturally can not be avoid.Maybe you should look for something optimitic,such the happy time those couple spend together and their smiles and forgive after their fight.Try to find some smiles,and have a nice day
@resssaaa (445)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
Yeah, That's what I've been doing when you'd been fighting much and the fight is almost close to pointless. But sometimes you can't help but feel all those not so good emotions feel you up and just begin to develop a feeling of anger and hurt. I keep on trying so hard to avoid this. Although usually when you try to do something right, the other party won't get along with you. Likewise, when he tries to do something right you're the one who won't get along. It's a matter of that pride thingy that makes fights last I guess.