How much should you give.
September 13, 2009 12:31am CST
Should you give 25%,50%,75% or 100% to your relationship? That is the question.There is actually no correct answer. It all boils down to what you are wanting from your relationship and what makes you both happy. The key is to be happy with what you have. Many factors determine what % you are prepared to give. Starting with what you observed between your parents, what previous relationships have taught you and how you view give and takeI My personal opinion is that you should be giving 100% to your partner and he should be giving 100% to you. By doing this you will both be doing everything in your power to make the other person happy. Definitely a win win situation. The only problem with this is if you are giving 150% to make up for the 50% your partner is not giving it will corrode your person and eventually cause you to become resentful and bitter. How to prevent this? Communication! Sit down with your partner before marriage and discuss your goals, his goals and then form some joint goals. Work towards these together and have frequent reviews to ensure you are both on the same page. Of course things change as your life together grows and evolves, so you also need to be flexible. And always remember men see things differently to women, they fall into the husband role with great ease. I would recommend reading Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus by John Grey. In my opinion this should be a must read before marriage. It helped me greatly. I look forward to your reply's and opinions.